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Hi every1, need some advice.
Im starting to fall for a guy who is halfway around the globe from me.Will this relationship work? |
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Edited by
charlesone
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Fri 11/29/13 01:42 AM
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It works If the 2 party understand & above all trust each other.
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Edited by
xyzeee
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Fri 11/29/13 08:09 PM
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I had one that worked out(we were together for 18 years) and one that didn't(just broke up after finding out she'd been cheating). It totally depends on the people involved and if they're willing to make the effort because it is difficult at times, but that's just my opinion. Good luck to you though if you are willing to try.
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You have to be very trusting..personally it would never work for me. I don't trust easily with the way people are today.
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I have a hard time with putting my heart in it and
always wondering if the carpets going to get yanked out from under you. I've never done it on the internet but I think it would be ridiculous to commit to an exclusive stage, without spending some time together and a viable plan that could keep you together. For someone younger that just may not be established,that makes it,unrealistic then its just a pipe dream and they need to wake up out of La La Land and give their head a Dam good shake. One thing a have learnt and that's always jump when the jumping is good..its the hesitation that will kill you |
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Think you have to use your brain about it.
Don't put yourself in a jackpot that will put you under the bus as far as your safety, employment, finances, freedom, and family. Running off half way around the world has a lot of risks where ever you go. Unless you have hella skills to offer some employer as an immigrant you instantly get to be low man on the totem pole of economics. Without money it is real easy to get crossways of the law in any land if your person decides to make you "the Problem" in the relationship. You are pretty much at the mercy of whatever the person there wants to bring to the arrangement. They decide any or all the promises they make don't count you are up to your ears in "trouble". Since women are the ones who get preggars and are most vunerable to that I would make really sure my survival was guaranteed by either not being able to get pregnant for at least a year or not at all. I can't imagine being hostage in another country than my own with custody/visitation of my kid on the line where I had no standing. And I sure would not go unless I have a very good understanding of the local laws and done my homework as far as knowing exactly what options my government could offer me as a foreign national in another country. If you go somewhere against your countries support you are so far down they have pretty much can't even pump you daylight. Can't tell you the number of "Romance visa's" I have seen blow up when dreams of prosperity in the USA turned sour. |
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I pretty much echo what PacificStar just said. The reason ldr works for celebrities is because they can afford to get jet plane's every other day. A lot of the time. Whereas, us normalites, really can't. Travel expenses are part of the problem. Then there's whether you pass that countries citizenship test. You can't just go on a whim hoping their border control will just let you in, because all countries do immigrant checks. And if you are let into their country without even being checked first, then that would mean they smuggled you in on a ship, and a dodgy one at that. There's a lot of things to think about. But if you think you can cope with all that, go for it. Just saying it's not easy is all. Sometimes we need to keep things in perspective. I like to nip myself in the arm if I get all "So what?" :) lol
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Thanks everyone. your words are really helpful and i appreciate them all.
thanks again. |
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Im starting to fall for a guy who is halfway around the globe from me. Have you met him in person? If not, falling for someone based on what you read or hear without in-person contact can be very chancy. Even if you have met briefly, the "honeymoon effect" can be misleading. Not everything is as it appears at first glance. |
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No. Well.... Ok maybe if you're going to be separated for like a month... But you had to have had a "regular" distance,wise relationship 1st.
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Hi every1, need some advice. Im starting to fall for a guy who is halfway around the globe from me.Will this relationship work? There is no doubt that a long distance relationship is a lot more difficult to maintain than when your date lives in the same city. Half way round the world is a long way, but these days you could fly their in a day on public transport, so it's doable, but airfares are costly as are places to stay. If you are already chatting, emailing and skyping someone, it is a very good way of finding out everything about each other, you certainly need to Skype them so you know they are the person in the photo you first saw. You can go a long way in discovering the real person before you ever meet them, but it is only half the story, until you meet and date in person you cannot be sure if they are right for you, and several dates are really needed in my opinion. At the end of the day, someone is going to have to relocate so you can be together if all goes well, so you have to ask yourself would you do that if they could not relocate. If I found someone I was falling for living half way round the globe would I want to start a long distance relationship, yes of course. |
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Hi every1, need some advice. Im starting to fall for a guy who is halfway around the globe from me.Will this relationship work? |
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It requires trust! Two persons that stays very close to me married abroad. They found each other through a social network just like this. It can work for you if the one you found is faithful and trustworthy.
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I like to think it is possible
Though i have tried a couple times And it has never worked out for me {or them}and certainly no regrets But i have honestly come to the opinion That it takes a considerable amount of MONEY As well as the love and desire With total honesty and TRUST Which is the hardest thing to give to someone you may have never physically met yet I find it a train wreck in the making ......sadly Best of luck to you who dare 
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Jeez am good ,i havent even messaged you yet and now your falling for me>.........
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Hi every1, need some advice. Im starting to fall for a guy who is halfway around the globe from me.Will this relationship work? Your having a cyber relationship,most people create a fictional lover in their minds of the person they are chatting too,your mind may be deceiving you... |
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I have a hard time with putting my heart in it and always wondering if the carpets going to get yanked out from under you. I've never done it on the internet but I think it would be ridiculous to commit to an exclusive stage, without spending some time together and a viable plan that could keep you together. For someone younger that just may not be established,that makes it,unrealistic then its just a pipe dream and they need to wake up out of La La Land and give their head a Dam good shake. One thing a have learnt and that's always jump when the jumping is good..its the hesitation that will kill you 
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Think you have to use your brain about it. Don't put yourself in a jackpot that will put you under the bus as far as your safety, employment, finances, freedom, and family. Running off half way around the world has a lot of risks where ever you go. Unless you have hella skills to offer some employer as an immigrant you instantly get to be low man on the totem pole of economics. Without money it is real easy to get crossways of the law in any land if your person decides to make you "the Problem" in the relationship. You are pretty much at the mercy of whatever the person there wants to bring to the arrangement. They decide any or all the promises they make don't count you are up to your ears in "trouble". Since women are the ones who get preggars and are most vunerable to that I would make really sure my survival was guaranteed by either not being able to get pregnant for at least a year or not at all. I can't imagine being hostage in another country than my own with custody/visitation of my kid on the line where I had no standing. And I sure would not go unless I have a very good understanding of the local laws and done my homework as far as knowing exactly what options my government could offer me as a foreign national in another country. If you go somewhere against your countries support you are so far down they have pretty much can't even pump you daylight. Can't tell you the number of "Romance visa's" I have seen blow up when dreams of prosperity in the USA turned sour.
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Seriously! No it won't work. Realist here, and I see that if you try this, you'll only feel dissapointment...sorry OP just that's the way it is.
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Yeah, sometimes the further away from them the better!
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