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Hey babe!!! Please do try and get to me back, I wanna meet ya! My roaming mobile here +22503846043 Ok..you said that 3 times. But did you click your heels together also????  i guess he hasent found the yellow brick road
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I do regret not having children. But at the same time, I don't really feel childless. I was 13 when the first of my nephews and nieces was born. The youngest is now 14 and I spend 1 or 2 hours with him everyday. In a few short years when he leaves for further education, I really will feel like an empty nester. then it will truly be time for romance...   Or a nursing/retirement home. Sorry...it's early. Still feeling the effects of yesterday's rodeo.  pad that saddle cowboy :) 
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Edited by
sweetestgirl11
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Tue 04/01/14 07:56 PM
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I want kids, 11 to specific. Actually I need 13 because the kicker and a backup. Ha ha ha... Back in the day, I coached Pop-Warner football. I'm in College and tutor Algebra for them as a work study.Everybody's 'You should be a Teacher' . Of course the first thing I think of is 'Yeah, I could recruit my own players from the classes I teach.' in reality...kids keep people young and sharpens the wits. imho unfortunately some people do have 11 and whozurdaddy is not an unreasonable question.... |
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I don't have and children but I always wanted to have them its a deep regret on my part but some people like myself never met the right mate to have them with. Its a life long commitment so I just spoil my friends kids instead.
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There are a lot of people out there who still think we should have children by a certain age. I've been asked several times why I'm 35 with no kids, as if it means there's something wrong. my sister has always been very career oriented. So, she was 40 when she had her first and 42 (I think) when she had her 2nd. I am sure she fielded some comments, but her husband is a Dr. so I think she had plenty of good advice. Anyway both children are happy and healthy and very bright. some one who asks why you are 35 with no kids is being rude. Someone who asks why you are 35 with no kids isn't being rude, they're being jealous! lol, or just surprised the majority of children in America (6 out of 7) are born to women who are under the age of 35 I was extremely surprised my daggon self to become a mom again at 39 |
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I absolutely love that someone takes the time to think about what works for them. The decision to have children shouldnt be entered into lightly. Its a major comittment and if youre not all in, you should be all out. I say 'Yay', to people who choose not to. I wish more folks did. Very true to not think lightly about it. But you don't know what it means to be a parent until you are one. And once you are, there's no turning back. |
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I'm a preschool teacher, so I have 20 children in my room for 40 hours a week, 5 days a week. So, I see them all as my own children. I don't want to go through the pain of childbirth or have children with someone and they leave me shortly afterwards. This is why I'm undecided about children. marry me dear |
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I'm a preschool teacher, so I have 20 children in my room for 40 hours a week, 5 days a week. So, I see them all as my own children. I don't want to go through the pain of childbirth or have children with someone and they leave me shortly afterwards. This is why I'm undecided about children. marry me dear You don't believe in wasting time, do you? Do you chew your food, or just swallow it to save time? |
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Yeah exactly. Just because others did, doesn't mean you should. I think I was mainly thinking how impractical it would have been, to bring a child up in a poor income household, and I decided it wouldn't be fair on a child. It isn't easy to find a job, or buy a place of your own, these days, so I just thought "It can't be done". The amount of money I get paid weekly, is only just enough to feed one person, and pay the bills, and I never have much left over, after I pay my bills. I couldn't watch a child struggle or starve.
I think that that is admirable and very mature to stick by your beliefs, and you do not need to answer that question, if that is your decision, people around you should respect it, and not ask in the first place! Yes, it is difficult to raise a child when there are financial constraints, or if they are unhealthy, or if they are spoilt or if ......... - Financially I am in a similar situation and can relate. Saying that though, it was not how the environment for raising my daughter was planned. She is a pre-teen, mature, helpful, well-mannered and extremely determined. She understands that things are tight, and even though there are material possessions she goes without, she never complains or feels done by! She is confident of who loves and truly cares for her, she is level headed and appreciates getting spoiled by my whole family at Christmas, Easter, birthdays and name-days - she also appreciates the fact that she has all her faculties, and vital organs, can walk, talk etc.... unassisted. I have many acquaintances and friends whose kids have a multitude of illnesses, learning difficulties etc.... and no amount of money can fix these issues 100%. My brothers both dote on my daughter, but both too made the conscious decision not to have children of their own, because they wanted to enjoy their freedom and income, a good lifestyle etc... - I am not sure if they have ever, deep-down, regretted this decision, but they do say 'Oh how they wish ......' If I had to do it all again, I would, my life without my daughter could never be the same - a huge piece would be missing  .
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my daughter dad is a complete jurk he claimed her as his and turn around and said she wasent when we finally did the paternity test it came back at 99.31% he has maybe seen and spent time with her i would say 5times he didnt see his 2older grandkids untill they were about 4 and 5yrs old he was there when she got married big deal he has a total of 4 grandkids from our daughter but he has never seen the other 2 but any how my daughter really doesnt claim him as her dad for she states her dad is just a sperm donor |
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This is a global epidemic. Many people in developed countries are having fewer and fewer children. The ones who are massively reproducing are those in the third world countries, where IQs are low and violence rates are high. This world will be overrun by stupid, violent people. The educated, civilized people who are having fewer and fewer children will be outnumbered. The world is in jeopardy.
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 My 1st. Daughter I wasn't the Father "Then became one" My 2nd Daughter i was the Father "then stayed one"!! It takes a Special Person to become a Parent!"Man or Woman"!! Any FOOL can Reproduce!! Your own Children and Grandchildren will Remember You for your support,Love and Parenting for this!!!
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My 1st. Daughter I wasn't the Father "Then became one" My 2nd Daughter i was the Father "then stayed one"!! It takes a Special Person to become a Parent!"Man or Woman"!! Any FOOL can Reproduce!! Your own Children and Grandchildren will Remember You for your support,Love and Parenting for this!!! Damn- I must of "Hit the Nail on the Head" With that one?  This seems to fit everywhere these days!!  I will just spit them out and the Tax Money will support Me (Scenario)! No good Man and a (Baby's Mommy)? What ever happened to (MOTHER)? I hate that saying (Baby's Momma)!!
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Can just say I'm glad I can't reproduce. 1st off wouldn't want to raise children in this world. 2nd, wouldn't want the possibility of passing down crappy genes since I have Bipolar Disorder and it's known to be genetic and wouldn't want my kids living thru the hell that I go through on a daily basis. Plus kids don't seem to like me.
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I'm a preschool teacher, so I have 20 children in my room for 40 hours a week, 5 days a week. So, I see them all as my own children. I don't want to go through the pain of childbirth or have children with someone and they leave me shortly afterwards. This is why I'm undecided about children. |
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I think it would be challenging to relate to someone who never had kids, but I definitely respect their choice. Better they not have them then, I agree. We all know that not everyone is cut out to raise children.
But it's understandable, I think, someone who does not want children who has already raised kids, or already has children of their own and does not want more. < that would be me. |
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In 1960 when I graduated high school, if you didn't go to college or into the military, you usually got married. Just the way it was then. I married 5 months out of high school and had 4 children in 5 years. Money was tight and hardly ever a vacation but we learned to appreciate everything we had. We had lots of support( and sometimes help) from our families..
I respect people that don't want to have kids for whatever reason. Some people should NOT have kids. And then there are those that want children and can't have them... My son (51) has never married and has no children,(although he loves kids, is like a second father to one of my gsons), my youngest daughter has no children of her own but has 2 step children to whom she is a wonderful mother. She was going to make the Navy a career but after 12 years and some health problems, she had to get out. I now have two wonderful gsons and a beautiful gdaughter, all grown and two are married. Sometimes life is hard and there are no promises in life but you make the most of it. Everytime I speak to my kids, gkids and even friends, I always tell them "I love you". |
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Personally I am not Mature enough to dictate someone else's life also it takes a lot to love someone more than myself and not go crazy just worrying their future and wellbeing. ......really tho I don't want multiple baby mom as so my first bmp gone have to be that 1
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Yeah exactly. Just because others did, doesn't mean you should. I think I was mainly thinking how impractical it would have been, to bring a child up in a poor income household, and I decided it wouldn't be fair on a child. It isn't easy to find a job, or buy a place of your own, these days, so I just thought "It can't be done". The amount of money I get paid weekly, is only just enough to feed one person, and pay the bills, and I never have much left over, after I pay my bills. I couldn't watch a child struggle or starve. I think that that is admirable and very mature to stick by your beliefs, and you do not need to answer that question, if that is your decision, people around you should respect it, and not ask in the first place! Yes, it is difficult to raise a child when there are financial constraints, or if they are unhealthy, or if they are spoilt or if ......... - Financially I am in a similar situation and can relate. Saying that though, it was not how the environment for raising my daughter was planned. She is a pre-teen, mature, helpful, well-mannered and extremely determined. She understands that things are tight, and even though there are material possessions she goes without, she never complains or feels done by! She is confident of who loves and truly cares for her, she is level headed and appreciates getting spoiled by my whole family at Christmas, Easter, birthdays and name-days - she also appreciates the fact that she has all her faculties, and vital organs, can walk, talk etc.... unassisted. I have many acquaintances and friends whose kids have a multitude of illnesses, learning difficulties etc.... and no amount of money can fix these issues 100%. My brothers both dote on my daughter, but both too made the conscious decision not to have children of their own, because they wanted to enjoy their freedom and income, a good lifestyle etc... - I am not sure if they have ever, deep-down, regretted this decision, but they do say 'Oh how they wish ......' If I had to do it all again, I would, my life without my daughter could never be the same - a huge piece would be missing . Thanks :) I gotta admit though, I do want children, but my heart just won't allow myself to bring a child up, in such negative times. Not just because of lack of enough money, but society has really gone downhill these days. People don't know how to be civil anymore. So I'd also be worried about THAT. I'm not trying to come across as Mrs Perfect, but I don't want to have a child just because a lot of others do.
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