Yes, when I was living a worldly life I had numerous partners. Too many to count. I am not ashamed of any of it. I have been forgiven. Now I am a new man in Christ. I believe what the bible say's about this issue. As far as judging other's, especially other Christian's? One can only judge with "Right Judgment" And I think our Lord was very clear on this subject.Only the brother's and sister's that have removed this problem and walked through the temptations of sexual immorality, and made it through them can have right judgment.Matthew 7:4"Or how can you say to your brother, 'Let me take the speck out of your eye,' and behold, the log is in your own eye? 5"You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother's eye. 6"Do not give what is holy to dogs, and do not throw your pearls before swine, or they will trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces.I have not been with a woman since 2012 sexually. I have not been in a relationship since June of 2012. Now I didn't answer the call to wake up until Nov of 2013. Back before I heard the call, it was all about trying not to be selfish. I could be as honest with a woman about our sexual relationship, and she could be honest with me. Even we together could say "It's just sex, nothing more". Yet I could not wrap my head around how I wasn't using this woman to gratify my selfish pursuit of temporary pleasure. It made me question many things about myself. However I am led by the Holy Spirit today. I still deal with the temptation of sexual immorality, not so much with a woman, yet in my mind.. Where all sin is born... I am at war with the flesh, the world,and Satan.. I will trust in the Bible, and I will take all my questions to God, He is faithful and will answer me. I personally would love to be sinless, I would have a better chance at not breathing though. I will still try to overcome, I will fail, yet I will try again. I will ask forgiveness, over and over.... I am just a babe in Christ, still on the milk...

I agree with you Cowboy. The problem with many people is not to give time to friendship first, time to know someone enough for another step.

The next step shouldn't be sex ( to find out if they match sexually) but a moment of reflection and decisions. She/He is the one I want to live with the rest of my life. There comes a compromise, commitment. ........MARRIAGE.

After marriage ......have sex in the morning, afternoon, all night long..........:)

Just don't give place to the devil beeing in sin.

1. It is not a sin. Prophets of god picked up women at the city gates when traveling. If it was such a sin, god would not have chosen them to be Prophet. It is also written in the bible that women must submit to their MAN, usually defined by American clergy as "Wife" but biblically the term Wife has multiple definitions.

2. Our Christian faith is based on puritism, given to us by the puritans. We were taught the pilgrims came to the "new world" for religious freedom. The actual truth was they were religious zealots who were put on a leaky ship and thrown out of England because they wanted to force their wacky religion on the regular church people of England, which already had religious freedom. These are the same people who burned women and drowned them because they believed they were witches...

3. Too many "Christians" want to judge others, when the bible clearly states... judge not, least thou be judged. So the same standards they force on others, might be the same standard they will be judged by. Many will think they are OK with that, till they really start to think about it.

If you are OK with your faith and belief in god, and your intentions are honest and truthful, then it is ok for you to proceed. You don't have to love the woman... only respect her. You don't have to feel bad about having sex, because that is exactly what god intended... Any person or woman who believes otherwise is judgmental and should be treated as she treats others. Me... I can do without them. Don't judge me, unless you've walked my path and been through my journey.

Am I perfect... no.. god never intended us to be perfect. We are all given tasks in life based on our fortitude. Sometimes we are given choices that are bad, and worse just so we can decide by ourselves how can we make ourselves better. I am a better person today than I was yesterday, and I hope to be a better person tomorrow then I am today. That is called growing in Christianity. I always tell a woman who is a prospect. The last perfect man hung on a cross over 2000 years ago. So expect imperfection and we will be perfect for each other.

amen!for when u do wait til marriage, blessings of it follow effortlessly.but before time are solidly consequences of unnecessary challenges that one could of avoided n prevented that one then soon is reminded of reality of a choice made that one can not most times handle the consequence of but simply moan about...yet there was no encouragement from the devil when one makes a choice that could of simply been avoided.
Is not the value of love and respect for ones self and there partner not worthwhile waiting for when one knows they will be together till such a time calls them not to be apart,worth saving yourself for love making after married?
Really the world is changed, doesn't mean our values, morals, principles and truths of who our father in heaven truly created us to be knows us to be stop us forgetting who we are in Him and who He always will b in us...my dear friend's do not ever conform to the ways of the world but be transformed by the renewing of yr minds through the holy spirit and do not forget who created u...remember to respect yourself for yr value of yr worth. If a person want's to get it on with u before this, then really...r they respecting and valuing u for what you truly think u r worth? if not, then will they continue to respect n value u in the future?
Just food for thought friend's.
kudos to u my friend for yr truth's, I love it when someone deliver's a truth the way that u have.nice articulating my friend.blessings upon u.
Peace to all man kind.

David and Cowboy are 100% right.(PERIOD) God bless you brothers. Do you not know your body is the temple of God? Do you not know that when you commit a sexual sin, you sin against your own body? That my brother is the truth, and we shouldn't be looking for ways to sneak around God's laws to fulfill are fleshly pleasures. Are one job is to accept and too submit to God's word, and therefore stay sanctified and walk with Him. Not only are you outside His will when you choose to do that, YOU ARE unusable my friend...

Amen :D <3

I do not believe sex is a sin. But it is something precious, I'm a virgin, and I'm saving myself for marriage. Now, I don't believe in sex before marriage, but, a little fooling around, touching, kissing, playing with etc. I wouldn't mind. If its not a "tab 'A' into slot 'B'" I don't count it as sex. Not that I've even come close to having a girlfriend, I've never had a girlfriend. :(

1 Corinthians 6:9(KJV)

9 Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither FORNICATORS, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind,

Matthew 5:28(KJV)

28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.

that's the bitter truth...let's abstain and ignore sins ...coz yee that sin is for satan(d devil) , buh d ones dat keeps Jehovah's word are his brethren

I am to shy to even look at woman, I'll smile, but look away instantly, let alone 'lusted after a woman'. We are very Christian in my family. My mom and dad both won several Bible debates when they were young, my grand father was a pastor and my other 3 grandparents all can quote the Bible word-for-word. Regrettably, I'm still learning. My mom and dad have told me my whole life that sex before marriage is not a sin, but I shouldn't do it eitherway.

No sin is worth going to hell over. whether it's fornication or adultery or any other transgression.

I couldn't agree more.

Amen!!!

Hello everyone, I hope that ya'll are having a Bless Day. I was married for 32 years to the same Lady, Rebecca. She passed away a little over 2 1/2 years ago. Since I made the decision to start dating again, I found that women want to take me for a test drive in the bedroom. I am sure that there are men out there also that feel the same way. Sex should not be something that is tested just because you went out two or three times. Sex is the sacred bond between and husband and wife. The Apostle Paul said that immoral sex is a sin against the body, that all other sins are outside the body. I agree, IF G-d allows another Lady into my life we will just have to wait until the wedding night. This would be proper in G-d's sight! Are we not to be the examples for G-d and not examples against G-d.

It is so comforting to know some people who would gladly burn me for my less than conventional, more heretic than strictly Christian/Catholic beliefs are not in position to do so.

I agree with Manskirt on this one:" Sex should not be something that is tested just because you went out two or three times."

Marriage is a commitment. One doesn't need a ceremony to show the world s/he is in such a relationship. Just living it is enough. There is no need to show anything to the whole world.

I have seen many common low relationships based on mutual respect and trust. I have also seen those who call themselves Christian preaching others about morality and what not, while not living what they preach.

I have come to a conclusion that traditional marriage is the not the only right way.

So, please, live your own life and let others live theirs. If you can't resist an urge to burn something after reading my comment, may I suggest a barbeque?

of the 10 commandments, one says 'you shall not commit adultery'.

I follow Bible not my own reasoning and why shouldnt I? God decides what we have and what we dont...

I am glad u defended the law of God like this...

God bless u

Biblically we know it not the best for someone to have sex before marriage but anything can happen at the time of courtship so You can never blame yourself if it happens becos it is bound to happen

I can tell you that it really takes the Grace of God and discipline to have no sex before marriage. No matter how much we read the bible, try our best to avoid certain places or people but when it comes to the person that we really love so much, it's easier to say than to be done. After all we are all sexual beings, God will never creates sex if he thinks that sex is not good. Sex is suppose to be making love= having emotional, spiritual, soul, body, mind connections with the person that we make love. Problems is many people abused sex. Thus certain commandments are written to prevent heartache but many people seems to interpret the Bible wrongly. We humans are not the Judge, only God is. To those that are judgemental, wait till you are in these attractions shoes, you then will understand that to fight that attractions it's literally like killing your own self. Peace be with all of you.

Agreed.