Some people know what I meant, I was half joking obviously (I think it's funny when people think they can order someone to show up in their life like it's food on a menu!), and dreaming of my perfect man. Now the ones who put other meanings and insulted me, that's messed up...but then some people just want to assume things about people they don't even know.

Thanks for the warning

Ohhh nooooo...I missed a good chance!! I am earning plenty of wealth....but don't have to work hard.....

How about if you met someone very wealthy, but not through hard work, like winning the lottery, inheritance??? Would that matter because he didn't work hard for his money??

I think when there's an imbalance in the relationship like one works hard and the other takes it easy it's not fair. Now if someone shares what comes easily to them so the other doesn't have to work so hard that's different.

Oh I can DEFINITELY live with this, as long as it's Jensen Ackles though!
I have no use for the other one, he can be put up for sale, lol.

Yes in such a case there would be an imbalance, as one can have fancy holidays, diners etc etc. and the other cannot. The couple would have to find a way to deal with this.
But by no means could the hard working party demand the other to provide for him/her. That is wrong.
If the other wealthier one does share, great! and will help the relationship's balance, but he / she should want to share, not have to share.

Basically your original question seems to boil down to not wanting a man who's a lazy @$$. I think most men have to work pretty hard for their money or for what they have achieved in life. Think the ones who got wealth thrown in their laps are a mere handful, albeit men or women. So I wouldn't worry too much about it.
And if it's that important to you, it makes sense you wouldn't date lazy bones, rich or poor. You should never date someone that doesn't appeal to you, simple as that.

Oh, and I also do not agree that the man should provide while the woman sits on her @$$. If it works out that way cos the guy makes enough and is happy to have his work and career, fair enough. But why shouldn't a woman contribute?
Esp in 2nd, 3rd etc relationships it doesn't happen automatically that the man is going to pay for the woman's every way just like that... They've been scarred by life, exes, as well, often also have to pay alimony etc.
Maybe think a bit outside of your own 'box', it's not all about you and what happened to you! Just like you, a new partner will have his own history as well!
And a woman who just wants to sit at home, raising a child he didn't even sire, but is expected to pay for,,, I don't think that's going to go down too well. Turn it round, would you do that? Work your butt off so he can be a stay-at-home dad to a child that isn't even yours?
I sure as heck wouldn�t!

Actually, a lot of what you're saying makes sense Estelle...I think you could choose better or less abrasive ways to say it and I think a lot of the responses are based on the negative attitude you project toward men in general, but after reading the thread it would seem a few posters are being a bit hypocritical in their criticism(s) of you...Many of the responders, myself included, have said we would rather be alone than settle...That's a vague statement that holds definitive meaning to the individual making it...Knowing what will or will not work for you in a relationship is a positive and it doesn't matter if everyone or no one agrees with your particular requirements because they are not living your life...Soooo, good luck!....I hope you find a match that works for you....

I don't want a man to take care of me or my child, that is the government's role.

This topic has all the makings of a new "reality" show...

Well, if you marry a professional, you will probably lose your government handout because your joint income level will fail to meet the qualifications...

Having your cake and eating it too. What a concept.

Julia, is that you?

Yeah, not really. Anyway, it's hard to abuse the healthcare system in America from all the way in Turkey.

Then why fuss about a bloke's income or how he gets it?
And why worry about who you should and shouldn't date? You're clearly not ready for that, worry about it when the time comes and you feel better about life, yourself and men.
You got such high demands and incredible judgments, that the only men you'd attract now, would be w@nkers, again. Won't do you no good. I'd say focus on getting happy first, and enjoy your baby. Trust me, before you know it, he/she'll be 20 and you'll have missed all the good stuff, cos you're just wasting your time and energy on lashing out and letting everyone know how badly life has treated you.

Why would she need another boyfriend when she has the government for a husband?

I am only interested in blond hair, blue eyed thirty somethings who's grandpa left her an African hunting reserve and an Alaskan wilderness fishing lodge....that is a reasonable request isn't it....OK was thinking of a Hawaiian beach house also but I won't be greedy, already have a place on the Florida coast