Topic: Why do men not read profile?!
MadDog1974's photo
Thu 02/26/15 05:41 AM



Get what you're talking about and fair enough, up to a point. When it's scammers, just delete and don't let it wind you up.
But not all are scammers...
Contrary to popular belief, men in general feel, woman think when they're looking for a partner or go on a date. If it don't feel good for a guy, he's off, while the gal is thinking and (over)analyzing things --> Could it work between us, because he lives so far away? Would my mom approve of him? If we'd move in together, would he .. blablablar.
We are planning a possible relationship with our date, while he's simply feeling.

So .. maybe some good guys see your picture and what they see FEELS good to them. And they contact you... without reading your profile.
It ain't always so black and white.
It can be a compliment of sorts...
flowerforyou


In terms of relationships, I agree. With most other things, it's reversed.

Yes.. but don't fully agree with the bit on relationships. Can happen, sure, but I think it mostly happens in the 'finding a partner' or 'first (few) date' areas. I think in a relationship you may find it when there's a situation and the woman feels uncomfortable. Cos that's what it's got to do with, mostly.. Feeling uncomfortable and closing the doors to her heart and feelings in order to protect herself.


That makes sense.

no photo
Thu 02/26/15 11:13 AM
Because more often than not women don't reply anyway. So what's the point in making an effort. Best to just get their attention with a quick message and then put on the charm.

no1phD's photo
Thu 02/26/15 11:19 AM

Because more often than not women don't reply anyway. So what's the point in making an effort. Best to just get their attention with a quick message and then put on the charm.
..^^. works for me..lol

luvmeforlife's photo
Thu 02/26/15 11:28 AM




lol

DadCat's photo
Thu 02/26/15 12:28 PM
There is an understandable frustration expressed by the OP.

However, the premise of the question is sexist in nature.

I appreciate that 4sure has pointed out the degeneration and slippery slope of making this into a man v. woman discussion. This behavior is done by both sexes. I know that the women are much more likely to experience this however I ask that we do not allow that to become the basis for a sexist discussion.

I look at the profiles of anyone I write a letter to. And yes, I'm old fashioned in calling it a letter. I read Miss. Manners for years and believe in Etiquette when doing any correspondence.

That is who I am and that is why a woman will respond to me when I write to her. It is because I have written her a letter not a "zup baba?". I can see how some here would become cynical. That suggests that they degenerated themselves to join the 'zup' crowd. I would encourage you all to reconsider. Even those that have gone so far as to post an agreement for signature and date to control the relationship, I see hopelessness. Damn the lawyers!

And I have read all the profiles of those I see post here in te forums as I read them. I do this to gain context into the words you write. I see that some of you have done the same. Thank you for that.

bye now...

Valeris's photo
Thu 02/26/15 03:07 PM

I'm sick and tired of men not reading my profile before they contact me. I only have a couple of requirements but they are 90% of the time ignored.
Dear men, it's not so hard so why do the majority of you not read it?!


I'm having a Deja-Vu moment here, check out, the following post:
Community > General Discussion/ "Females or Males"
http://mingle2.com/topic/424982

drinks

no photo
Thu 02/26/15 06:23 PM
"Here honey, I'll check the map for you."....

"You sure you don't want to check the instructions for that?"

whoa

mightymoe's photo
Thu 02/26/15 06:36 PM

"Here honey, I'll check the map for you."....

"You sure you don't want to check the instructions for that?"

whoa

... noway huh whoa

Goofball73's photo
Thu 02/26/15 07:13 PM

I'm sick and tired of men not reading my profile before they contact me. I only have a couple of requirements but they are 90% of the time ignored.
Dear men, it's not so hard so why do the majority of you not read it?!


We hated reading while in school. What the hell makes you think we will read now? We prefer a more progressive approach such as morse code. :tongue: laugh

brobri's photo
Thu 02/26/15 07:21 PM
I dunno. YouMeforOne's gripe is valid, and there are some great replies to her gripe. I really don't care for long distance correspondence either, and no profile pic is a concern to me.

My ex-wife frequents dating sites, and chooses not to put her pic on her profile. She is a pretty lady with an English accent. Most guys probably think that there must be a problem with her looks or something (for her not to include a pic), but after she feels that she has a connection with someone, she will send them a pic. I bring this up because my exey's approach is completely different than YouMeforOne in that she doesn't just put a pic up, basically conveying that she is beautiful, and that's all anyone needs to know.

I guess what I'm saying is that there is virtually no substance to the profile - only a pic. Even if I were living in Montreal (with a pic on my profile), I wouldn't respond to her profile. There is just no substance to it. I would think that anyone who did respond to her "pic" would be quite shallow, and why would a shallow person care about the content within the profile anyway? Hence, they don't bother going through the content within.
Hmmm.... Nuff said.

ALBYAK's photo
Thu 02/26/15 09:38 PM
Of course all do it different , but I look for a fish, lake, or boat in the photo background, look at the ladies appearance, then scan the profile for the word fishing, camping, or outdoors activity....if all is suitable I then read the whole profile several times before writing. Some are serious some are players or scammers. We are all on here for different things, a few know exactly what we want....I am one that does!

hondatrail70's photo
Sat 02/28/15 07:56 PM
when I see Beauty in front of me it makes me forget about the Profile. so I just reply. sorry if it is a problem Tom.

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Sun 03/01/15 09:00 AM
I just read your profile

no photo
Sun 03/01/15 09:14 AM

I dunno. YouMeforOne's gripe is valid, and there are some great replies to her gripe. I really don't care for long distance correspondence either, and no profile pic is a concern to me.

My ex-wife frequents dating sites, and chooses not to put her pic on her profile. She is a pretty lady with an English accent. Most guys probably think that there must be a problem with her looks or something (for her not to include a pic), but after she feels that she has a connection with someone, she will send them a pic. I bring this up because my exey's approach is completely different than YouMeforOne in that she doesn't just put a pic up, basically conveying that she is beautiful, and that's all anyone needs to know.

I guess what I'm saying is that there is virtually no substance to the profile - only a pic. Even if I were living in Montreal (with a pic on my profile), I wouldn't respond to her profile. There is just no substance to it. I would think that anyone who did respond to her "pic" would be quite shallow, and why would a shallow person care about the content within the profile anyway? Hence, they don't bother going through the content within.
Hmmm.... Nuff said.


A picture is worth a thousand words. A video, even better. :wink:

the_one_4me's photo
Sun 03/01/15 09:14 AM
Maybe it cuzz there just going on look befor they even bother to try and find out a little about the person first or it could be that they don't want to look at the profile cuzz there mite be a little much info about the person and then they won't no what to ask or talk about sometimes I find it easier to talk to the person when they have less info on there profile cuzz I have more to aske. But maybe that's just me

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Sun 03/01/15 08:40 PM
Because we just go for it (:

sparkyae5's photo
Tue 03/03/15 08:09 AM

I'm sick and tired of men not reading my profile before they contact me. I only have a couple of requirements but they are 90% of the time ignored.
Dear men, it's not so hard so why do the majority of you not read it?!


some men see a pretty face and the ''just go for it'' remember for a lot of guys its the wrong end doing the thinking.....

hondatrail70's photo
Tue 03/03/15 09:37 AM
Like I said before sometimes looking at ones picture makes your heart skip a beat and you don't read the profile. I really don't want to read a newspaper on some one but just walking in lightly and saying hello is rather sweet way in my book. And if we connect then I might do my home work and go in and read their profile. Please note some profiles are like reading a book. but I could write you a love novel if you open my Heart. Any takers reply here. Tom.

DadCat's photo
Tue 03/03/15 12:33 PM

A picture is worth a thousand words. A video, even better. :wink:


Yes, I like what you have done Iam. I put my video in the Chinese New year post. You can see me in action from last year's parade.

bye now...

Valeris's photo
Tue 03/03/15 06:10 PM

"Here honey, I'll check the map for you."....

"You sure you don't want to check the instructions for that?"

whoa


Talking to me bytch? spock
Not sure if trolling or just stupid?shades
Don't go there. pitchfork