Good Day to all my M2 folks out there, how you folks making out? good, I hope, well its a brand new week, I its quite hot here on the east coast, matter fact its about to get even more hot with a blend of a sweet ginseng tea of hot topics. Okay, I want to ask the ladies out there for the fellas. Okay, my friends have you ever been or knew a situation which you knew a male just entering a new relationship or newly engaged or even married. When that man was maybe single , maybe he was getting play or not too much play. But soon as he hooks up with a girl, does it seems he sexy. He maybe more cute because he's unavailable. Its always been a clich� about the mystery of unavailable people. Some say its sign of maturity or a new brand of attraction to forbidden fruit. Others see it as "involved folks shows stability & responsibility!" Then its been said "involved men & women just the risk of having something to loose makes it a thrill." Why is it that way sometimes? I know most men & women respects a union but there's men & women like to play with fire! "Is it game. you been on the other side of the coin & you feel this your way of protecting your heart & having fun & also getting as much material goods out of the game as possible." So, my ladies & even some of your fellas, " Why is fruit so, so, so, so, sweet when its not available?"
"Are you Team Relationship Respecter or Are you Team Man/Woman eater!" regardless of the union came about? you want who you want & when you want him or her?. So, my Opinion Minions lets hear from you. What's your take on this? Do you support the so-called Players of Fire or Are you supporter of Union Makers?". My take is that I'm team Union Maker. I don't I could be a person that would interfere with happiness. That can bring insecurities, problems, & mistakes to anything. Even if you expert on the matter no one ever said "they can retire from breaking happy unions or " oh , I stole a person from somebody & it worked out". I mean I wouldn't want that done to me and a strong believer of Karma what you do comes back 3 times back at cha'. Then again we do live in a society where this goes on all the time & some doesn't find a problem going after forbidden fruit. So shots out to all my minions of M2, shots out to my new posters, and my future posters feel free to voice your view. its no right or wrong here just learn & have fun with one another! all races, ages,sexes, religions, freaks , kinks, virgins....its all love here!
can't want to hear from all....
later!

So spill it ....I got to know, & any guys what's your take as well the ladies give me your thoughts.

When I was young and immature and worked only with married men..
mistakes were made.

Older and wiser now, would never ever even consider it.

to soufiehere,

really so you as what I call " Man Eatters".....


I'm glad you seen the error of your way....lol

hi 2fly

Sorry im boring, because I never have.

But one of my friends husbands tried to kiss me once and I slapped him.

to debbie1980

wow, I guess you did a good thing people shouldn't kiss anybody unless its okay with the other party......good for you. and no your not boring you a gem okay,

Many times it is due to they portray themselves as separated or not married... No ring at times it is hard to know they are married...

Not always as cut and dry as it seems...

Then at time women date married men for the same reason the married man is out looking. Neither are looking for commitment in the future..Nor any intentions of falling in love with them..

I agree and thanks

I see people do this and what the why is ...
A. they don't want a commitment so it is easy

B... Because they didn't know... I had this happen to me and it hurt when I found out he was married... I had his phone number at his office, home, and cell...So I was pretty shocked one day to find out he was married...

I don't date anyone who is separated or newly divorced
too much respect for sanctity of marriage

People are people.
There seems to be generally 2 ways to raise/train them.

1. To associate their positive emotional reactions to "good" things (e.g. mommy and daddy reinforces the idea that you should feel good that you were nice to someone, you should feel good you shared, you should feel good you helped, and that doesn't mean buying them ice cream, that just teaches them they should get a reward for doing something, like a mouse clicking a button for a pellet).

2. To "be happy" to "go find your happiness!" or "I just want you to be happy!" or "I love you! As long as you're happy then you've made me proud or I'm content."

That usually leads to people going around finding out what makes them immediately happy.

Other than things like crack what causes the greatest pleasures are food and sex.
There's tons (haha) of obesity.
Sex is best in a relationship (even one not yours), because it follows biologically determined mating protocols i.e. natural release of hormones and feel goods supporting behavior.


Because that which is not available denotes a higher risk.
People are inherently aware that greater risk means greater reward.
There are sayings like "a bird in the hand is worth two in the bush."
If people weren't going after birds in the bush there would be no reason for the saying.
You don't get sayings like "eating is better than starving to death," or, "a cool summer shower is better than dousing yourself in gasoline and setting yourself on fire."

People don't need to be reminded of that.

The danger lies in identifying risk, and then imagining reward, as opposed to identifying reward and then trying to determine risk.

People have a tendency to build things up to be greater than they are because they tend to overcompensate for risk.
Look at online dating sites and how many people feel they're in relationships with people they're never met.



Neither.
They're all people.
No different than each other.

I've had married men come on to me. They are lonely, unhappy, trapped in their marriages. One told me that he loved his wife but he wasn't in love with her. He said he found me exciting. Umphhh that! I don't play that game. Someone always comes away with their heart broken, which is guaranteed in such relationships, not to mention you are messing with someone else's man or woman. Bad news all around. People do it because sometimes it happens. Most don't plan on it. People fill the void other people have in their lives and sometimes it can be dangerous.

I know a woman, very professional smart lady who seeks out married men. She prefers them.

I asked her why once and she told me because they are safe

Don't really know what to make of that, but that's what she said

I've read of that before, more than once. So far, what "safe" has always meant, is that the single person who hooked up with a married person felt "safe" from the sex toy getting too attached, and bogging them down with obligations. It was also "safe" in the sense that they never completely committed themselves to the married person, and thus gained the illusion that they're safe from heartbreak.

In short, some of these folks hit on marrieds on purpose, in order to protect themselves FROM themselves. It's a way to have an FWB situation without the danger of it turning into something "complicated."

As always, the safety is illusory.

Oh, and in case it hasn't been mentioned, some people purposely go after marrieds as a part of an ego trip for them. Not for the "forbidden fruit" thrill, for the "superiority" thrill.

They get to pretend they are better, more desirable than the official mate.

Oh, and I also knew ONE delusional woman, who was enthralled with various romantic dramas, including the idea that she was the "dream goddess" of the married guy she serviced. He got extra meaningless sex, and she got a fantasy life.

why do employers hire people who are already working?

,, its that feeling that its not worth anything unless someone else wants it already,,,


same with how some women feel about married men,,,

especially at a certain age, they figure if noone else wanted them something is wrong with them

,,,and of course, there are those who didnt 'seek' it out but were lied to or deceived



I would not mess with anyones husband who was still living with them as a wife, knowingly. ever,, but those are the answers I believe fit your question...

When I was a young man I had a affair with a older married woman. I fell for the we are separated and selling the house story. After I came to my senses and figured it all out I felt like a idiot.Live and learn, never again.

Usually women that experience that have loose morals & a dirty mind...in other words they're simply s l u t s.

If i was asked this question about falling for someone thats taken then No. I don't go that way ever...never have

Dude, being involved in an adulterous affair will always turn into something complicated...a love triangle is like walking into an abandoned land mine field...you never know if your next step will get you blown up or make you see another day....

Hmm....thinking thinking...if i should play devil's advocate or not..

to texgal333


do you think people today are honest about there availability?