How important is it to keep in touch with your partner, during a normal day, using phone, text or email.??

I think in the beginning of a relationship that that sort of contact makes you feel affection and wanted. as the relationship develops it probably depletes to, 'bring home some milk', or some other mundane comment..

Depends on what is being said.

If it is just twittering on about nothing then keep it to yourself.
If it is something important I would want to know straight away.
If it is "I'm thinking of you" then that's nice to hear once in a while, especially if I want you to be thinking about me.
If it is to make plans for the evening, then yes, go ahead.
If it is "We need milk" then get off your a$$ and get some.
This list could get very long!

Wow!the answers and comments totally took me by surprise....really, thought this was important....turns out its not considered such....so I am doing the wrong thing.....again....Hmmmm! should I just change my number...lol...???

I guess it depends who is calling you and what they are saying.

I was never that needy to want to run for a phone to just hear BS or worse as was common as beepers and pagers and what I have often considered tracking devices for wives/husbands but the phone became very important to me when I remarried and my partner and I would communicate about "stuff".

Definitely helped us bond and avoid frustrations of not being on the same page as changes sometimes came hot and hectic.

But the phone calls that I really came to miss were the late afternoon calls that he would make to say he was on his way did I need anything? Sometimes it was some little thing but it was so nice to be able to say "All I need is you; see you soon." Then I would have a little time to freshen up, shoo off the neighborhood kids, and just have those few quiet moments to welcome him home. And weather he handed me a bag of grocery, flowers, or his briefcase with a stack of work he would be up long into the night with we had "our time". That coming home time was the best of the day.

Ha ha at my age I can't get enough "obsession" minded women...kinda liking it though...someone obsessed with poor ole me, who would have thought??? Guess am a guy, so I liked being stalked....oops...

It depends on individual preferences I think, some people would want to have a constant communication and others don't like it. But I prefer constant communication, it is very important to me to know how my partner is doing if he is fine or not. It's not about monitoring the activities of your partner but its about showing your care , concern and that you constantly think of your partner. Anything can happen in a day, sometimes we can't avoid to worry with our loved one especially when you are far away from each other, communication through text, phone call or email are the only connections you have. Keeping in touch makes you feel like you are just near each other eventhough you're miles away.

good answer

nothing drive me nuts faster than texting me a million times while i am at work, doing school work , driving or at class
all that does is piss me off

I have to much crap to do,...for me most 3 times a day....MAYBE 4....anything more than that and I think they're stalkerish

Same here, I don't like being disturbed while working , but it's how you talk and come to a mutual understanding about respecting your time especially work. What is the most convenient time to both of you is the best time to keep in touch.

When you're living together:
Not. At. All. Again: NOT AT ALL!!!
Only if there's something urgent. Or occasionally texting "Luv you" or something like that, but that should really really really only be occasionally, otherwise it's an indicator you're needy. No one likes a needy person. Needy ppl are irritating.
Keeping in touch during the day when you live together is redundant. You saw each other in the morning and you'll see each other again in the evening. No need to track what your partner is doing all day every day. That's overkill.
Email would be totally ridiculous if you live together.

When you're NOT living together:
Occasionally, when there's a need for it. Not necessarily every day. You're not living together (yet) for a reason, so don't be in touch every day. It will easily start to irritate one or both, and it will create expectation, meaning if one doesn't call/mail/text/app one day, the other may get upset.
Again: one has to be careful to not get needy and dependent.

When you're happy with your life and in your relationship, there's no need to be in touch all day every day. There is (or should be) enough quality time you actually spend together.

Spoken like a female.....lol...

Ok ok ladies....no over kill here...its not like its "Play Misty for Me"...it playful, very light and I think obsession is to strong a word, and it not continuous.....its in spurts and bursts....bottom line, I kin get used to it...all I am saying...

I'd agree with something like what Crystal said, not if you live together, remember you'll be doing the dishes together every evening so no overkill

Maybe if you lived apart the odd one each day would be good, I'm not a great talker at the best of times so this would be my idea from a personal point of view that is.

If I am dating someone I don't need to be crowded too much.

If a guy is calling every day texting like I am his pacifier I think a couple of things.

He has no inner peace where he can be happy in himself. You can never make another person feel calm, feel happy, or feel safe, or feel secure, or feel ok about who they are if that negative is ground into them. Best bet is to quit before you start. They will drain you.

Two; he really does not trust that I care about him (use this gender neutral it applies both ways) and never will. That irritates the hell out of me because if I get where I do care and that takes a while for it to be more than just the generic I feel for all people, I am insulted when his actions suggest I am a liar. And I am hurt that I have given him such a precious gift and wasted it. I might as well left it on the curb with the garbage.

The guys that can never get enough scare me because eventually they become too possessive and angry and even jealous for no good reason and those guys are really dangerous. These are the guys that hurt you. They will mess up your job, your friends/family life, trash your car, and often time lay hands on you. Even take your pet not because they want it just so they can hurt you.

Or they are just mean and miserable and bitter to live with. They whine and peck you to death with little insults, chronic screw ups, usually getting drunk or high when you need them most, and nothing you ever do is good enough. You might as well be spitting in a bathtub trying to fill it up.

The worst are the flash in the pan romantics that wine and dine you or your kids just enough to get your guard down and stick it to your best friend, their secretary, or your black sheep sister just because you didn't quite give them the attention they needed for the moment. They don't care if they betray anyone but it is all about them.

The really sorry part about this kind of tell tale signs is they are usually there all along. If people just slow down and look at the person the "history" is clearly there. A leopard doesn't loose it's spots. You can even see this kind of behavior in teens. Pretty scary because the results are misery for all.

In the beginning a relationship you have those all night epic phone conversation which is good...
Then you have the multiple texts...
Ie.. good morning . Sweetheart xox.
How did you sleep ?did you think of me?. Tehe..
Good afternoon baby cakes..xox..how's your day going.xox.. I was just thinking about you! well I was doing some photocopying.. I was going to send you a photo copy of my boobies hehehe...

I was just on my coffee break and I saw this little puppy dog and I thought of you...awwww...

Good evening baby Cakes I'm home now.. are you home what are you making for dinner I'm having lasagna.. with great big meatballs in it..wink wink...

Hi babycakes I was just going to have my evening shower and then get it to me comfy pajamas ... I will be thinking of you while I'm in the shower...hehehe....
All of the above pretty much normal at the beginning. .. but if they are sending you random texts every 10 minutes not normal.... and of course over time the text messages turn into..

Good morning..xoxo.

Just going for my lunch break how's your day going?..

Are we still going to the hardware store after supper tonight.. because if so maybe we can stop somewhere for supper.. before we get the new faucet to replace the leaking one in the bathroom.?....
Yup..lol

Gosh I hate it when it goes from the honeymoon stage to reality.
I think it get boring.

Mmmmm I guess one will have to use their imagination and be more creative

Beginning to understand why you are single
If communication was about sex only, I think I'd get bored real quick. I like regular great sex, but if a guy wants a relationship with me, he's gotta bring a helluva lot more to the table than just his knob.

I agree with you Crystal
That thing only has one form of information.

Yup! thats what I wanted to hear...confirmation from a woman after my own heart(2)...tell em.....Verbal and physical communication go hand in hand...wow gotta adopt me this concept from now on out. Hey, wait a second I already practice this......lol...