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butribu I wish we can be friends. I need help with gals. that is all from me my friend the rest is with you lol good luck  Oh No  well how do i ever know when a girl does like me. I am really starting to think I am ugly or something. Well I'd like to give you a fair judgment but then you're faceless....Lolzzz.... |
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i am joining mingal 2 but no one rpl me Keep with it they will  I guess you're lucky coz somebody above me just did and I seconded....lolzzzz |
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if i were a man hahhhhhhhh i have to give you hints guys if they are hanging with the groups, go to the places that your fancy girl's group goes do not get people with you, choose to be on your own single and unaccompanied man, with a bit of cool behavior always catches the interest a man with a group of friends does not catch an interest there are some hints that i can give you what kind of glances you have to throw out but that will be difficult to decribe here lol Boy I would like to know those hints. small towns are way to hard to try and get a gal. i live in a small town as well as soon as possible u are making a membership at a fitness center best place to meet girls lol Fitness centre....Sounds like a lot of hard sweaty work to me  we get very attracted by a fitness doing, sweating, average guy even doesnt have to be very handsome lol. it is worth trying lol Gym etiquette states that you shouldn't talk to strangers using the equipment and that you don't try and "pull" whilst using the equipment. i can safely say that i wouldn't dream of trying to hit on a girl at the gym no matter how hot, steamy and sweaty she looked  This man speaks the truth, as this is not allowed in a good gym. come on that is not an s s camp at the end of the day lol |
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Edited by
gaming16
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Mon 03/14/16 01:21 PM
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Its no longer possible to meet girls in real life I mean if I try to flirt with them at a retail store they would think I am a creep Understand your words....flirting in a retail store??...maybe you just try to be casual and maybe... just maybe... you'll get their attention and they won't think of you as a creep....  good answer....as many times things good happen when you do not even try.  I want that to happen for me one day I liked a girl once but made a mistake I will never do again.
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Yes I think that the longer you are single, the more you get used to it. Even if you haven’t been single for that long, but have spent a lot of your time being single I think you get used to it. I do not know if that is a god or bad thing but I feel we are getting too comfortable with the way we are and leery about change in any great form.  I think it makes it more difficult. |
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I've been thinking about that at times myself. Even had some exchange about it with dating guru David Wygant.
In the end, I do think it comes down to either giving up on ever finding someone or remaining faithful that that one special person will turn up. I think many do the first, give up, get desperate, disappointed, and close the door to a relationship so at least they don't get hurt and disappointed anymore, and make themselves comfortable as a single. But deep down don't really feel happy. They just gave up. Defeat doesn't bring happiness. It takes quite a positive mindset and inner strength to keep that door open, even though you will get disappointed in the dating scene. I sometimes am concerned about the thought of having to compromise and having to give up personal freedom. But I do know that with the right guy it will work itself out. I also know that I don't want to stay alone the rest of my life. I want that soul mate, love, intimacy, you know, the icing on the cake. Single life can be great, but it still is just a cake, albeit a good one, without icing and chocolate sprinkles and red chocolate hearts. Maybe (too) many singles (that have given up or are about to) have skewed scales? Giving too much value to giving up personal freedom and too little to the shared moments, love, intimacy, care and fun a partner adds to the mix. |
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I've been thinking about that at times myself. Even had some exchange about it with dating guru David Wygant. In the end, I do think it comes down to either giving up on ever finding someone or remaining faithful that that one special person will turn up. I think many do the first, give up, get desperate, disappointed, and close the door to a relationship so at least they don't get hurt and disappointed anymore, and make themselves comfortable as a single. But deep down don't really feel happy. They just gave up. Defeat doesn't bring happiness. It takes quite a positive mindset and inner strength to keep that door open, even though you will get disappointed in the dating scene. I sometimes am concerned about the thought of having to compromise and having to give up personal freedom. But I do know that with the right guy it will work itself out. I also know that I don't want to stay alone the rest of my life. I want that soul mate, love, intimacy, you know, the icing on the cake. Single life can be great, but it still is just a cake, albeit a good one, without icing and chocolate sprinkles and red chocolate hearts. Maybe (too) many singles (that have given up or are about to) have skewed scales? Giving too much value to giving up personal freedom and too little to the shared moments, love, intimacy, care and fun a partner adds to the mix. I know I have said it before on previous threads, but again....you are a very wise woman Thank you xxx I guess I have my moments  
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I've been single for a very long time. It's not that big of a deal to me. I can get used to just about anything after a bit.
If and when, I find myself in a relationship, I'm sure to get used to that, as well. |
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I don't think it would be in good taste to kiss and tell. So I will leave you with a favorite song of mine.
It's oh so quiet Shh shh It's oh so still Shh shh You're all alone Shh shh And so peaceful until You fall in love Zing boom The sky up above Zing boom Is caving in Wow bam You've never been so nuts about a guy You want to laugh you want to cry You cross your heart and hope to die 'Til it's over and then Shh shh It's nice and quiet Shh shh But soon again Shh shh Starts another big riot You blow a fuse Zing boom The devil cuts loose Zing boom So what's the use Wow bam Of falling in love It's oh so quiet It's oh so still You're all alone And so peaceful until You ring the bell Bim bam You shout and you yell Hi ho ho You broke the spell Gee, this is swell you almost have a fit This guy is "gorge" and I got hit There's no mistake this is it 'Til it's over and then It's nice and quiet Shhhhhhhhhhhhh.. Bjork 1995 It's oh so quite. |
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well let's see it's been four years single
after 20 years married yep used to it and plan for it to contiue |
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As long as I am get some on a regular basis..... I really don't think about it much..lol..wink
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Edited by
TMommy
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Mon 03/14/16 07:16 PM
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I've been thinking about that at times myself. Even had some exchange about it with dating guru David Wygant. In the end, I do think it comes down to either giving up on ever finding someone or remaining faithful that that one special person will turn up. I think many do the first, give up, get desperate, disappointed, and close the door to a relationship so at least they don't get hurt and disappointed anymore, and make themselves comfortable as a single. But deep down don't really feel happy. They just gave up. Defeat doesn't bring happiness. It takes quite a positive mindset and inner strength to keep that door open, even though you will get disappointed in the dating scene. I sometimes am concerned about the thought of having to compromise and having to give up personal freedom. But I do know that with the right guy it will work itself out. I also know that I don't want to stay alone the rest of my life. I want that soul mate, love, intimacy, you know, the icing on the cake. Single life can be great, but it still is just a cake, albeit a good one, without icing and chocolate sprinkles and red chocolate hearts. Maybe (too) many singles (that have given up or are about to) have skewed scales? Giving too much value to giving up personal freedom and too little to the shared moments, love, intimacy, care and fun a partner adds to the mix. not living up to anyone's expectations but my own wondering at what point along the way we all stopped defining ourselves as a 'me' and started defining ourselves as a 'we' when did that happen????  when we were little and went to school and made friends we had friends but yet we were still a 'me' when we started dating for the first time? first became a steady couple? did we at that point lose the 'me' ? later on after becoming a spouse did we only then begin to permanently think of ourselves as a 'we' and somehow define ourselves as less than what we are....when we are not part of being a couple? half of a whole looking for my better half look for the one who completes me so I would tend to agree many get impatient with the journey many have skewed expectations and often take the wounds inflicted by someone else and use them as a laundry list of what they are now looking for in a mate many get desperate and lonely and latch onto to whoever comes along as for me...I am not apposed to at some point down the line the possibility of once again becoming a 'we' but in the mean time, I am gonna just work on 'me'  |
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Honestly? I can't say that I have a strong desire to hook-up, live with, or do "The Wedding Thingie" with anyone again. The idea of dating seems like a huge effort for a dubious pay-off... Being so predominantly concerned with my own inner world[landscape]; I've come to prefer my own company to the company of others on a regular basis. Never really get lonely or bored & as I age, have found that I seem to need my solitude with the same intensity that others need air. It's difficult to explain & difficult for many folks to understand but that's just me. *grins* 
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Honestly? I can't say that I have a strong desire to hook-up, live with, or do "The Wedding Thingie" with anyone again. The idea of dating seems like a huge effort for a dubious pay-off... Being so predominantly concerned with my own inner world[landscape]; I've come to prefer my own company to the company of others on a regular basis. Never really get lonely or bored & as I age, have found that I seem to need my solitude with the same intensity that others need air. It's difficult to explain & difficult for many folks to understand but that's just me. *grins*
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I thought that Mingle2 was that!
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Honestly? I can't say that I have a strong desire to hook-up, live with, or do "The Wedding Thingie" with anyone again. The idea of dating seems like a huge effort for a dubious pay-off... Being so predominantly concerned with my own inner world[landscape]; I've come to prefer my own company to the company of others on a regular basis. Never really get lonely or bored & as I age, have found that I seem to need my solitude with the same intensity that others need air. It's difficult to explain & difficult for many folks to understand but that's just me. *grins* I can honestly understand that feeling. I got a similar thing too. I am an HSP (Highly Sensitive Person) and tend to get overloaded with external input quite easily. Although it has majorly improved since I started working on grounding, energy work, intuitive development etc etc. I can now go to a crowded pub or party without having a problem. But I still do need more "me" time than maybe the next person. (Although there are an awful lot of HSPs!! More than you may think) In spite of that, what I have experienced is that with the right partner, he isn't in your way at all. He's not in your energy system, he doesn't disturb your "me" time nor does he disturb your energy field. That does mean 'the right partner' and that isn't the kind of guy who hasn't got anything going for himself in life. You need a rather stable bloke with interests, hobbies, mates and things to do other than energetically pull and tug on you to spend time with him. 
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*snicker* That’s OKCupid. But really, isn’t internet dating pretty much dating for antisocial people? |
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Great thread Tom!
I do enjoy single life , but I do think I am wired for a relationship. I do have a lot of love to give :) But I have chosen incompatible people in the past in terms of life goals and values, so I am way more selective this time around. I think I am prepared to give up certain freedoms for someone worthwhile, but not ALL of my freedom. I want both my partner and I to have a certain level of freedom and space in a relationship. To me , giving someone their space is a natural part part of maturity. |
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Who said this site could be for anti-social....would anti-social people post in a forum? I think not.
Online dating is great for people who have no time to socialize and meet people. But the users...well thats another story. Yup the carpenter is blaming his tools...again..Vive le M2... |
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the carpenter is blaming his tools... i haven't heard this phrase before a very good and true one, liked it. |
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