What to do if u have been in a abusive relationship. I personally have been in one and its been a year now since its happend. Should i stil mention what happend or keep it a secret to future bfs or whoever.

iwas never in a physically abusvie realtionship but a mental one, damn i hate mind games! !

figure it this way it has hopefully made u a stronger person.everyone has bad relationships.its over and time to move on and dont let yur past control your future

i have been in one to so i know where u comeing from

Bury the past & move on, only if you are ready to!! Don't make the next person pay for the last , that happened to me & it sucked...

Could'nt of said it better!

Just don't get into another abusive relationship!
Take care of you.

Sorry that happened to you..
btw you just told all your future JSH Boyfriends.....

thanks i mean ive made better decisions since then, but idk it'l always b way back in my mind like when im alone i think about it but ur right it was the past and time to move on. I mean i stil have my friends lol so its not so bad cos they make me forget about it.

I wouldnt mention it unless somehow it comes up in the relationship......no one has to know all of your business....

Well, you mentioned it to all your future boyfriends on Just Say Hi! (=


Mention it if you're strong. As in the context of "Hey, bub, I've been in an abusive relationship before, so don't get any bright ideas.."

If it hurts you, mention it when you feel comfortable.

Good luck! (=

Hummm secrets come back to bite ya best thing is make sure you deal with what happen and get past it before starting a new relationship. Just because one guy did that to you it is not something the next guy should have to pay for. But don't let the hate or hurt over ride how you feel today. Face it head on and deal with it if you have then move on why bring it up unless of course they ask then be honest.

DON`T START A RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEONE WHO ACTS LIKE THEY ARE
ABUSIVE

This is the best advice. You might scare someone away if they think you are damaged.

I always try to keep my fenders "dent free".

very well put and congrats for getting out of the relationship

Whether you want to forget it or not, it's still a part of your past. I would let anyone that you are thinking about dating know that you're not going to put up with abuse of any kind.

I wouldn't like talk about what HAD happen, but I would TALK in a very open manner to a future date about life and his personalility so that YOU can make sure HE'S not an abusive guy.
You have went on, but your never forget. And THATS how LIFE works. And YOU WILL gaurd yourself because of what you LIVED.
Just be careful as you can be, and hope no one EVER mistreats you again.

Well, unfortunately, abuse of any kind will take over your inner being. I myself was abused from at 5 until 17 and then married into an abusive relationship "off and on" for about 9 yrs. There is nothing to be ashamed of or to hide. Those who are strong enough to discuss such situations are strong enough to put a stop to future ordeals that might arise. Mention it, I do and will forever continue to be the communicator of this horrifying selfishness. There isn't a man who could possibly tell me what to do, lay a hand on me thinking he'll be there mins. from that moment, etc. I will rid of him quicker than he can pull that **** a 2nd time. Learn from it, know who you are and what you're deserving of. There is no such thing as abusive admiration nor love.. it's your choice to have a back-bone (not theirs).

Good luck..

the past is the past. can't bring it back. walk away and forget about it. abuse is not healthy, in any way, verbal, emotional, or physical. stay away from it.

If you feel like sharing that information with someone, share it, if not, don't.

It's up to you.

Now, if you're having trouble getting past what has happened, it might be good to talk to someone about it, to help you move on.

If you want to share it with us on JSH that would be fine. It may not help you much but it will sure give us something to talk about.