Breakups happen for many reasons. It could be due to conflicts, trust issues, lack of communication, emotional insecurities… you name it.
Often, either or both partners still feel emotionally connected even after the breakup. Unless they never loved each other in the first place. This usually happens after you’ve gotten over the hatred or anger felt during the bad times. Moving on is never easy because you have started missing your partner.
That’s pretty normal because not all broken relationships are actually doomed. Sometimes, there could be a chance to fix things with your partner and live happily ever after. Dating requires commitment and responsibilities. So getting back together after a breakup is pretty possible with some simple steps as long as it wasn’t a toxic relationship. It’s bad business to want to make things up with a toxic partner.
Many people find themselves in the situation of wanting to get back with their ex, for good reasons. However, they either don’t know how to, or they are just scared of lose their self-respect. It’s understandable because it would be a double blow if you take the wrong steps, and your partner rejects you again.
The good news is that we’ve got an easy fix for that (not really that easy, so to say). So it’s time to opt-out of that dilemma. Here is a guide on how to get back with your ex in five simple steps.
This is by no means a guarantee that you will get your ex back. But it will go a long way in helping you win him/her if there is a fighting chance.
It’s pretty tempting to want to contact your ex and beg them when you start missing him/her. But that is not the way to go. When you still reach your ex either by calls or text, you’re giving them the impression that you can’t do without them. That’s a wrong move!
When you keep trying to talk to them, there is no chance for them to miss you. You have become a pest to them. Their interests in you will continue to decline since they keep seeing you all around them. When they don’t miss you, they won’t think about you, and they’ll probably never want to come back to you.
If you truly want your ex back, then you must cut off all communication with them. This will force your partner to experience a life without you, and of course, they will start to miss you. Before long, they will begin to think whether the break up was a good idea or not.
It would be hard to end all means of communication with someone you still love, but it is something you have to do. But don’t worry, it’s just for a while. Remember, no pain, no gain. So you need to discipline yourself to achieve the ultimate goal.
Moments of sadness and depressions will come after your breakup. But you must find reasons to stay positive and happy even if you don’t intend to fix things with your ex-lover.
Treat yourself with respect. Go out and do the things that make you happy, including making new friends. Remember, dating is not what you need right now.
Make positive changes in every area of your life: physically, mentally, and financially. This will tell your partner that you are not dependent on them. When they begin to see positive changes in you and that you are happy without them, they begin to feel attracted to you and will want to get back with you.
It’s time to work on yourself and be the kind of person anybody would want to date. Do things that add value to your life. This could mean going to the gym, getting rid of nasty habits, building self-esteem, learning new skills, improving your health, etc.
You’ll greatly increase the chances of your ex wanting you back when you increase your self-value. Engage yourself in new and exciting activities. Take time to analyze yourself and fix necessary loopholes.
Even if you’re successful with the other steps in this guide but fail to upgrade yourself, your ex might not want to get back with you even if they miss you. Strive to be the kind of person you can be proud of so that your ex will not be able to resist you when they see you again.
Once you have successfully completed the previous steps, it is to resume communication with your ex. It’s been a while now, so your former partner must be dying to hear from you and would likely reach out to you. If this happens, try not to play the “hard to get” card.
Begin to see your ex like an acquaintance and not as someone you have dated in the past. You can only make someone feel remorseful when you don’t give them the kind of reaction they expect from you.
Your ex would expect you to be angry and unkind to them because they know they have been unfair to break up with you. Surprise them and act friendly to them, and your partner will begin to feel like they have lost someone with a beautiful heart. Once they realized that they had lost a treasure, they’ll start to crave to have you back.
After reconnecting with your ex, remember to maintain self-value and give them a chance to talk to you. Fix a date with them and ensure that the interaction is mature and meaningful.
These steps will not only help you win back your ex but will also make them scared of losing you as you start dating again. However, before trying to fix your broken relationship, ensure that it is really worth the effort. It’s better to be single and happy than to get back into an abusive relationship.