I beg to differ. The right man, a good man, will marry a single mother. If they fall in love with you, then it's not much of a stretch to love your children, which are a part of and an extension to you. It was one of the most rewarding things I did. But I also understand where you're coming from...I overheard one of my karaoke regulars, in speaking about the attractive bartender, that "well, she's got kids, at least she puts out". ( I had him escorted out, no-one disrespects my friends ) Sad to say that some do have that mindset. Just don't give up, there is a man out there that will love you and your children. We're just hard to come by.
My biggest issue is that most of the ladies I talk to find it hard to understand that I AM a single Dad, and my time isn't always my own, with school functions, Doctor's appointments, all the busy, fun stuff that comes with having children. It's hard to juggle a parental and a social life. I run a DJ and karaoke business, and it's hard for some of the women I meet doing that to realize that no, I don't want to go to another bar and continue to "party" once karaoke is over, I have to get home and relieve the babysitter :/

edited for spelling, not enough coffee yet

Having read through some other topics with your posts in them, I'm 99.9999% sure you're a genuine human being. If not, then someone has perfected an amazing A.I. and the robot uprising is upon us and may God have mercy on us meat sacks.

You are correct, of course. How I judge myself matters little, it's how we are perceived by those around us that matters more to an innocent bystander.

As for scammers, they are easy enough to root out and avoid. It's a pain in the @$$, preying on the lonely. I hope there's a special place in hell for them.

Pacific, you should be named the Dr. Phil of Mingle.
My parents are still married, 51 years later, through thick and sometimes paper-thin. Divorce was very rare in my hometown growing up. My siblings are both married to good men, though they're both a little goofy. I own my home, and take care of it. I own a motorcycle, but not a crotch rocket, and a mildy-sporty well maintained 4 door sedan. I don't generally go to bars unless it's for my part-time business of DJ'ing and karaoke. I've been at my job for 17-going-on-18 years, and I don't usually indulge in high speed hijinks ( though there was an incident snowmobiling this year, but things like that are rare ). I volunteer for my hometown's Little League, and my 12 year old's friends all want to hang out at my house because we build models, paint and draw together, plus I let them have ( supervised ) free reign of all the electronics here in my home ( Playstations, Xbox, computers, etc.).
I enjoy being a Dad, to both my birth children and my former stepchildren. The main reason I've been single this long is that my youngest took it very hard, and for a long time he was my social life. Now that he's got a handle on it and knows I'm not going to abandon him, I'm back out in the really-real world. As far as wanting sex, I'm human, but I have morals, too. If all I wanted was sex, there's a bar 2 blocks away, and near closing time it wouldn't be very hard to find. But sex is easy, relationships are much, much harder to find.

Someone to grace the back seat of my motorcycle and navigate. ( there are many Amish in the area, running through their "exhaust" can get rather smelly )
Someone to share popcorn with at the latest mega-movie. ( or I WILL eat it all )
Someone who won't laugh at my Star Wars themed bathroom. ( this is what happens when you let your 12 year old help make redecorating decisions )
Someone to help me find my cell phone ( that happens a lot )
Soemone who's there for me as much as I'm there for them, even if it's an inane 3 am phone call starting with " I just thought of something..."

When my jeans make a sound like velcro as I separate from my computer chair...

I am honest enough to tell you if that dress does nothing for you, and be fully prepared for the consequences. Obviously, this has not always worked out well for me.

My pet peeve is the obvious scammers who steal facebook/model/other dating site's photos and use them gratuitously, and then describe themselves in broken english. Heaven forfend if you do contact them, and they want to go straight to e-mailing / yahoo messenger/etc. Google Image Search is your friend...

The most important lesson I learned in studying martial arts:
"Anything may be a weapon, be it a blade of sharpened steel or merely words; it is your intent that makes it deadly"

I still have my Trash-80, with the cassette drive, on a shelf next to my old Cordata 8088 green-screen. Good times :)

Being single does have it's advantages, but I'm tired of waking up next to the cat. Same bad breath, but none of the benefits.

44 y/o and representing Hagerstown, the land of corn and cows. Nothing to see here, move along...

I'm right there with you. I have my children 24/7 and sometimes it's hard to get away and enjoy "big kid time". Being a single parent is the hardest challenge I've faced so far in life, and that put s a lot of women off. I'm not looking to place a potential partner on a priority list, I'm looking to find someone to share in the adventure. That, and I'm tired of waking up next to my cat, his breath stinks.

older 8-core Phenom FX-8370, 32 Gb RAM, dual EVGA nVidia 760's in SLI, 12 TB of storage across 6 hard drives, liquid cooled Storm Stryker tower with sound reactive lighting, older SoundBlaster Audigy sound card with a built in eq/amp in one of the drive bays, dual DVD burners and 2-27" monitors. When I turn it on, the lights in the house dim...
( I don't just game with it, it also is the cornerstone of my DJ/Karaoke business...)
edit: gigabyte mobo and 1200 watt PSU. important stuff I forgot

What sober self is going to think of drinking self in about 3 hours when he gets up for work...
( we left him a note why the cat is shut in the basement so it's all good...)