Well, you have me beat. I just watch the news and go to bed, you have wild kingdom going on in your bedroom..

I envy you

I find this very soothing and accurate

Then maybe she has to grow up and learn to accept that you can't always get what you want and that you cannot nor shouldn't expect the impossible of other people, esp not the ones you claim to love.

Must say I find it strange you post this stuff on here... do you really have a GF to begin with?
I mean ... I'd never ever post stuff like this about my lover on an open forum for the whole world to see. I'd ask a friend or something or better yet.... I'd talk to my lover about it.
No offense, but it sounds like a tall story to me ...

Jimmy I usually like your posts...I think this one is just a little bit "Personal" I just wonder if your girlfriend knows about you telling the whole world and what her reaction will be?

porn will sefinitely make women jealous and angry and with good reason. it makes them feel inferior and like they can't please.. thank God there is nothing out there, a fake penis for example, that they would just during sex to finish the job the man cant...
I am not decrying dildos, but porn has helped me in the same way. I think people need to be comfortable enough to say WHY they are using them.

is she right?

have you become addicted to it?


have you used it to try to define

a relationship in real life?

You have totally missed the point. SHE thinks you are using porn to fake it. Or, that what you really want is the porn, and that you are using her as porn, not as a mate.

If you look for ANOTHER way to fake things, it wont help.

But okay, I can see you are completely convinced that finding a way to fake it is the way to go, so I'll leave you to your quest.

Don't really see why you make such a problem out of it. It's quite normal a guy cannot keep up with a woman in that sense. Are you trying to break the laws of physics? Will only result in both becoming resentful when it comes to sex in the end.
Turning on porn is a real nice rejection for a woman. Brilliant idea!
If she isn't sated yet after you two been intimate and you want to please her further, use toys. Get a nice collection going.
You have to accept that men can't keep up and that porn will not do your relationship any good when used the way you do it.
She will have to accept that a man can't keep up and maybe learn to control herself a tad more. That will make it all the better when you do have sex together again and will take pressure of you to have to perform. Cos that could in the long run lead to ED and that's the last thing you'd want, or her for that matter.

Rather, she can try it.

Technically that would solve your problem but I don't recommend you get yourself killed.

Fine, make it for your personal use. We will hack your computer later and make sure you are speaking the truth on the 2-3 hour sessions... Those are fun though... lol

Make a porn video of you two and watch that with her...
Then you can sell it and make some money...

This is very common, especially among younger and less experienced people.

You have confused quantity of sex, with quality of the relationship. You fear that if the quantity of sex wanes, that the relationship will falter. And as many people do in reaction to that, you turn to artificial stimulation.

Most of the time, using porn to some degree is not a problem. But in this kind of situation, using porn at all, means the sex you are having, is no longer based on caring for each other, and is instead a mechanical function, no different than regularly performing maintenance on a car.

If the other person is after having you as much as possible, and after pleasing each other, then they will adjust as needed to make the lower amount of sex work. Don't use tricks like porn or drugs, or you wont be giving them the real thing, and everything will fail.

If the other person BOTH demands that the quantity of sex never fall off, AND refuses to allow you to compensate in any way, it means that the relationship is just about sex for them, and is doomed anyway, because they don't give a crap about YOU, just the sex. They WILL find another sex tool to replace you soon.

Therefore, faking as you are doing is a lose-lose choice. Staying with what's possible but real, isn't necessarily win-win, but it is win-reality.

Do what she says she wants, be real, and if she leaves, it will be the right thing for both of you. If she stays and adjusts, it will also be the best thing for both of you.

Do the math.

I get the suspicion that this thread was started so that the OP could brag about his sexual activity.

Jimmy .. Send her on a sex worship .. Even attractive girls need to know how to please a man .. Being attractive is not enough . She should learn how to turn you on . If she is expecting you to arouse yourself then there is a whole world or porn out there .. Perhaps experiment :-)

I just wonder what positive can come from posting this scenario and question?

I mean if everyone on the forums says "no! It's no problem!" are you going to go to your girlfriend and say "hey! Those people on the internet said it's not a problem...which means there's something wrong with you if you can't accept it or see it as wrong. So that problem you have with it? Just stop. Internet strangers said so."

If everyone on the forums says "yes! It's wrong!" are you going to go to your girlfriend and say "well, gee, honey, I'm going to magically recover without porn now, or keep watching porn and feel bad about myself. Because everyone on the internet said it was wrong I owe you an apology for doing something wrong. I couldn't just listen to you and respect you had a problem with it, I had to go seek out internet strangers to give me an idea if I could come back and attack you with their perspective, or if I had to really care how you feel. They say I have to take your opinion seriously, so now I will, maybe."



Ultimately the issue is not the porn.
It's her problem with you seeing porn. Her emotions, her opinion, her ideas, her insecurities, her wants.
And you're asking us to validate or judge your choice to watch porn.
Which is actually ignoring her problem.

It's like you're asking "my wife has a problem with me slapping her. But MMA really gets me in the mood. Is watching ESPN wrong?"

WHEN YOUR FOCUS IS NOT ON YOUR MATE WHILE HAVING SEX IT TAKES AWAY FROM

HER....SHE CAN FEELS LESS THAN SHE IS AND RIGHTLY SO.....ANYTHING YOU DO THAT

SHE IS NOT COMFORTABLE WITH WILL CAUSE HER NOT TO ENJOY SEX AND COULD TURN HER

OFF TO SEX....IT'S NORMAL FOR A WOMENS SEXUAL APPETITE TO VERY FROM ONE EXTREME

TO ANOTHER AND CHANGE WITH AGE....

Sounds like a never ending marathon...I see no problems here...just stay hydrated.

I feel exhausted just reading about your sex life

porn isn't a temporary solution. A blow job is.