Its all about personal strength, which imo, you are lacking in at the moment, whether that is because you are still emotionally attached, or it is just in your nature, i dont know. Eitherway, we must all take responsibilty for the emotional situations we are in, only we, as the individual involved, can control what we put ourselves through.

If a situation is making you miserable, change it, dont blame the other person.

A nice fry up....crispy bacon, eggs, beans and hash browns....lovely :)

It sounds like you need some real time apart from eachother without contact. Clearly, emotions are still activated, and none of you have moved on from this break up yet. I doubt none of you will move on from this until you both cut ties for a while, and allow your emotions to settle.

I dont think its necessarily about picking the wrong person, sometimes its just fun dating and finding out. Of course, not every relationship is destined to be "the one" or even long term, and thats ok. Often dating, or relationships, help us find out more about ourselves as well as the other person, and we can accumulate much understanding of ourselves and how we work within relationships with different types of characters/ppl.

As far as im concerned, everything happens for a reason, whether it be to bring fun into our lives, to bring ppl, or to bring experiences that we learn from. There is no guarantee that anything is permanent. I think the secret is not to take anything for granted, or expect it to be permanent, but to live for the moment and see what grows from it.

Our baby boy....

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So how does the paper prove it to be him?? Couldnt it have been anyone?

I also wanted to ask, what made you go into the pawn shop initially....?

Yes, im just a figment of your imagination :)

"Beating the ****" outta someone is assault.....violence breeds violence....by being violent as an adult, towards a young person, you are as good as encouraging them to deal with their issues in the same way.

Also, how did dad manage to give him a drug test??

So how do our brains become digital??

...and does it mean that if your not suited, you didnt feel love in the first place? Or does it mean you did feel love, and then pain as a result of someone hurting you?

Either way, you felt pain when you loved someone.

I dont agree its about the person....it can be about envronmental factors, cultural factors, health factors. I gave a just a couple of examples previously which havent been commented on, neither about the person, but about situations.

Somehow i dont think this is summit to be proud of and giving a thumbs up over. Sure, with evidence, the kid should be punished, but personally, i wouldve spoke to my sister, explained my concerns, and discussed appropriate ways of giving him consequences, and making him pay the money back through doing chores etc.

I could never physically hurt my nephew...there are better ways of dealing with it.

Imo, if love isnt painful occasionally, then it isnt genuine love.

Theoretical situ....you are in love with a lovely man, who you adore.....he develops terminal cancer.....wouldnt this be painful??

Another situ....you meet a great man, fall in love, he has a child who cant seem to accept you, and refuses to spend time with you, and tries to turn your mr right against you....isnt this a painful situation??

Imo, you need to...

Tell your ex that its not appropriate to be living together when you believe you have no future together.

Tell the guy from work that you are still emotional after your break up, and would like some time on your own to get through them before you can start anything new.

Ok, so love is not pain, but as i said, love can be painful, and most people who love, feel pain at some points throughout a relationship...whether their partner has let them down in some way....or there has been a break up, or a physical loss....also, lets look at love of our children/families... watching ppl hurting themselves, and you having no control over it... thats painful....there are many reasons to be pained through love.

In regards to growing emotionally, with each pain we go through we develop better coping skills.....im not brilliant with words, so i found some stuff online to explain better, heres a lil snippet..

"dealing with painful emotions – whether new or old, and regardless of where they come from – is the essence of successful grieving. It is also, incidentally, the essence of dealing with any other type of emotional distress."

Hope this makes a bt more sense in regards to where im coming from.

Only if the education comes from life experiences imo.

Only if im naked!

Of course love can be painful, emotionally painful, even in successful relationships....its part of personal growth....we need pain to grow emotionally.

Some people are preoccupied with acquiring knowledge, but have no common sense. You can have all the knowledge you want, but without good old common sense, it wont really help ya in life.

I dont know if i would call this reflective....if the news depresses you, why watch it? If you are speaking to mother till your blue in the face, then you have not reflected on better ways to communicate with her for your own sake. Being reflective means reflection in actions, always looking at better ways to improve the practise of your life, not just accepting 1 structure, but being open to changes which make it easier to manage.