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Betrayed or nah?
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Hookups and real relationships should not be batched together. One should be a commitment and the other is clearly not! If either cheat during an established relationship, the time gap on when to confess is immaterial! Cheating is cheating and if either is too immature to keep cheating, they are not ready for a real, committed relationship, obviously.
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Hope the door hits her on her way out!
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A colleague's brother is a doctor with like two years experience in one of the general hospitals.He helped deliver a woman who already has two children.During the post delivery treatment,the curious husband asked why his wife required such.The doctor told the hubby that the woman needed all the treatment since she is HIV positive.The husband was shocked as he didint know her status.In fact,she has been positive before they got married but she decieved the husband with fake medical report which stated she was negative.The man left and never returned.The doctor defended his actions as he claimed her file clearly stated she has HIV before marriage which is over 5 yrs and has been on drugs so he thought the hubby knew her status. The question is; Was it ethical to have disclosed the woman's status to her husband and if not,What are the likely consequences of his action? Uh, it is difficult to answer the second question without knowing the pertinent laws in the nation where the doctor lives. It is possible that the doctor assumed that the husband already knew about his wife's HIV. True, we don't know the law there. But assuming is STILL wrong. Myself- while I was married. I had 2 different doctors call my husband in from the waiting room, while do the "Doctor patient post examination / testing consultation" Without ASKING me. I was livid both times, told the doctor off , had my husband leave the room. And this was for my heart. But it was MY decision. Not the doctors. Not my husbands My mothers Or any one else. It was a breech of confidentiality Your situation was different. You were not dealing with a disease that could affect the health and welfare of others. Clearly this situation is a matter of spreading a known communicable disease! In the U.S. This was a quarantineable disease and would have been governed by the Center for Disease Control, in order to protect the general populous. True, my case was different. Luckily there was nothing wrong with my heart. Which is partially my point. The doctor ASSUMED or wanted my (then) husband to know, even BEFORE I did. It was NOT his choice. This woman in Africa had a FORM of the disease, yet was married for 5 yrs & successfully gave birth. She may of had the form that was NOT contagious. That could be the case, but all I know is that if I were going to marry a man I would want full disclosure of any disease I would possibly come in contact with. Whether or not it was contagious is what I consider a separate issue. The fact of the matter is that if she did not fully disclose her illness before marriage, it was basically because she did not find it necessary to be honest from the start. JMHO |
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dcastelmissy
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Wed 04/22/15 04:42 AM
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A colleague's brother is a doctor with like two years experience in one of the general hospitals.He helped deliver a woman who already has two children.During the post delivery treatment,the curious husband asked why his wife required such.The doctor told the hubby that the woman needed all the treatment since she is HIV positive.The husband was shocked as he didint know her status.In fact,she has been positive before they got married but she decieved the husband with fake medical report which stated she was negative.The man left and never returned.The doctor defended his actions as he claimed her file clearly stated she has HIV before marriage which is over 5 yrs and has been on drugs so he thought the hubby knew her status. The question is; Was it ethical to have disclosed the woman's status to her husband and if not,What are the likely consequences of his action? Uh, it is difficult to answer the second question without knowing the pertinent laws in the nation where the doctor lives. It is possible that the doctor assumed that the husband already knew about his wife's HIV. True, we don't know the law there. But assuming is STILL wrong. Myself- while I was married. I had 2 different doctors call my husband in from the waiting room, while do the "Doctor patient post examination / testing consultation" Without ASKING me. I was livid both times, told the doctor off , had my husband leave the room. And this was for my heart. But it was MY decision. Not the doctors. Not my husbands My mothers Or any one else. It was a breech of confidentiality Your situation was different. You were not dealing with a disease that could affect the health and welfare of others. Clearly this situation is a matter of spreading a known communicable disease! In the U.S. This was a quarantineable disease and would have been governed by the Center for Disease Control, in order to protect the general populous. |
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The doctor is wrong. The doctor works for his patient.And there is the " doctor patient confidentiality" MAJOR law suit exactly.  1- Health status is personal 2- And to tell or not tell is up to the person. 3-It is NOT the dortors decision to make. 4- In the USA is patient is given forms for' contact information:.. even ''emergency contact', is NOT full medical disclosure. 5- Medical status is for medical personal & anthing contagious is for the state or government to know, for spread & prevention & stats. The moral issue is between the couple. The husband could try to sue the wife. The doctor made no apologies because he is NOT sorry for his actions. And probably had passed some kind of judgement on the woman. (rarely in Africa, do women contract aids because of promiscuity). I don't believe the doctor assumed anything. If so, he is still wrong. And an apology is not enough. The doctor knew better. I think k the doctor should be sued & maybe his ' career' destroyed. After all, look at the destruction he has caused& the domino effect. I understand what you are saying but I have to disagree....it was the wife who started the domino effect by not giving full disclosure of her condition to the husband. The doctor was dealing with the effects of her unwillingness to be honest and up front in the first place. Again, JMHO |
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Here in the U.S. There are forms you sign as to whom can be given information of a medical nature. I don't know what it's like for all other countries. If she signed a form of this type, allowing her husband to receive that information during her most recent hospitalization, then her confidentiality rights went out the door along with the husband! Many years ago here, neglecting to reveal an AIDS condition was being considered as a crime similar to "assault with a deadly weapon", as it was considered a sure death sentence for the other party. I don't believe it is the case now, but if he stood anything to gain from it, the husband could also sue the wife for not providing full disclosure of such an important issue. JMHO
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Topic:
Say Something Vague - part 9
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It arrives today; hopefully before it starts raining!
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Topic:
Gym update...
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I recently received a scholarship to the health park where I live. I went thru some severe depression and I quit taking care of myself years back. I got to the point where I thought I was too far gone to be helped. I've passed through those down times and I know better now. The coolest part about this gym other than being free is it offers CHILD CARE!  So proud of you baby girl; just don't forget that it's not a women's exterior that makes the real person; but who she truly is on the inside! Women with extreme good looks and body focused are usually self-centered to the extreme and really do not have very much of importance to offer to anyone! Love you! 
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i kinda enjoy when Red6mist stops by...he shows up, drops a few bombs, ruffles some feathers... and then goes back on vacation for a while... Yep me too but also I enjoy relief from posts from some women here as well!
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Topic:
Please give me an advice
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I have the answer. Period. There is no problem. You have deconstructed the woman to her purest form…her parts. And now you have come to the point that you have nowhere to go but up. In real life you need to sit down with a woman. Listen to her. Share with her. At this time you are your own Guinea Pig. Don’t overthink. Hold onto one thing in that time with her. Make her a person, then graduate her over a short period to a woman. She is fascinating. She has wants and needs. Do any of those intersect? I know that they do. Good looks attract us to the opposite sex but looks are temporary and at quick glance they are just the external things. Focus on her beauty, the stuff under the flesh. It will come back, man. Not in the porn, fantasy way. I get it, you’re 20. But make it real and you will find your niche. Luck. Very important information! Fantasies in porn do not relate to real life relationships! Get a grip and realize that sex drive is not the determining factor in a truly lasting, meaningful relationship! It takes much much more than this! If you are ONLY interested in the sex, then consult a sexual therapist! If you are interested in a more I depth relationship, then seek a relationship counselor! 
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Thank you ((((Storm)))) ((((Sitka))) ((((JustScribbles))))! I'm still crying my eyes out!
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Thanks Ana! They are very much appreciated!!
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yes I wanted to send u words... .. but..lol... ..no.. seriously I feel your pain.. well at least not yet.. I cannot bare to think of my boys leaving.... ....hmmm.... maybe if I build a big house on a piece of land... their family and myself can all live together under one roof.... Nice idea No1! I've never lived super close to any of my kids but this will be the farthest I've lived from any of them. I've always lived just a short drive away...one hours drive max!
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I'm feeling very sad today. My oldest son is moving to Dallas tomorrow and I hate to see him leave Austin! I am going to miss him so much!  Need lots of those hugs today!! Thank you Pansy!
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Thanks No1!
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I'm feeling very sad today. My oldest son is moving to Dallas tomorrow and I hate to see him leave Austin! I am going to miss him so much!
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Topic:
Its Yours to Decide
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The challenge in this, is in the details of the mechanics of actually DOING it. We need to help each other with it, because it really isn't a simple thing at all, to have someone say "think positive," and turn your life around, especially when times and circumstances are so very rough. After all, what is the difference between "thinking positively," and "self delusion"?? There certainly is a difference. And what is the difference between urging someone to find their way to happiness, in spite of the most horrible and painful of circumstances and occurrences....and callously blaming a sufferer for feeling crushed by all that has happened to them? There is certainly a difference there, as well. I suggest that we share with each other, that facing life with as much happiness as we can is not at all a simple thing. It is a complicated skill, which each person must actually work and learn a great deal about, in order to manage it. It certainly is the best course to set for yourself, but it is not at all an easy path to follow. This is so very true and I agree 100 %!
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Topic:
your EX
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I can't really say I've stayed friends with my ex's; but we have been able to remain civilized acquaintances. To me, friends are people you can depend on and who are there for you and you are there for them whenever needed. So acquaintances with whom you are able to talk civilly to is more of an adequate description.
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Topic:
What is he thinking...
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He's thinking that he needs to visit his dentist for his annual checkup!
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Topic:
Things that turn me on
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. yes the words such as. . forever. love. desire. worship. . can't live without. .. need .. lost without. ... I drift alone.. .. yes silly words. .. True....silly words unless accompanied by heartfelt actions...otherwise worthless! |
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