I don't know how long you have been doing the online dating thing. I've been in it a little over 10 years. I've learned a lot over the years. Back when I was looking I got many dates. I also got ignored when I wrote someone. But the main thing that I learned was the reason so many men get ignored, well, I hate to say it, but for the most part, it's men's fault.

I come from a site much larger than this one. But I figure it's the same problem on all. Men chase too many skirts. The great majority of men on dating sites take very little time when it comes to who they write. They will write 20, 50 women in one sitting. What I'm trying to say here, women get a lot more messages than men do. Women, for the most part, take their time. That is if they write a man at all. While men are writing one woman after the other.

Because women get so many messages, it lures them into a faults sense of security so to speak. A lot of them begin to think that they are so desirable that they can take their pick of any man they want. Women get so many messages that many of them get ignored. And it's really all because of men.

If a lot of them would learn to take their time. Be a little more picky. Don't chase every skirt they see and be just a little less desperate, they would get more dates.

So we all know that gender roles have evolved considerably. In years past, a man"s value in the home/relationship was rooted in his pedominant role as financial provider, physical protector, decision maker and child disciplinarian. With some of those roles having been usurped by women over time, I ask....

1. What INVALUABLE qualities / services APART FROM SEX and the procreation process, do men have to offer in a relationship /home?

2. In the absence of being the main financial provider, what service do you bring as a man to your home/relationship that makes you feel MOST proud or validated as a man?

If he's sending out a lame copy and pasted message, that's a major reason why he's not getting many responses. It doesn't take much to read profiles and send a message based on something that interests him. It doesn't have to be long, or deep. It doesn't take that much time.

Cut the guys some slack violettigress A guy only gets maybe one response for every 20 messages that he sends. Can you really hold it against him if he doesnt want to put time and effort into 19 notes that he is almost guaranteed to get rejected for. What if e took the time to come up with a really AMAZING opening line and then sent it to you and others? Consider it as breaking the ice and then after you answer , he will be personalising the rest of his emails to you if there is mutual chemistry. How you feel about that?

FIVE PAGES of this, & no one's said they'd kiss the Bone??


Wait - let me rephrase that...

I like the Dof3

Mine still a secret

Did u know...Im tired of getting hit on for just sex.
Did you know...men dont date anymore?