I very much want honesty and as soon as possible, so that I can make choices for my well-being and sanity, make level-headed choices. After having been with a compulsive liar in my life years ago, I am extremely inquisitive and will not tolerate lies. I'd rather hear an ugly truth than unearth a lie later. Better to know ASAP.

This is exactly what I expected - only the sane ones are responding to this thread.

I very much want honesty and as soon as possible, so that I can make choices for my well-being and sanity, make level-headed choices. After having been with a compulsive liar in my life years ago, I am extremely inquisitive and will not tolerate lies. I'd rather hear an ugly truth than unearth a lie later. Better to know ASAP.

This is exactly what I expected - only the sane ones are responding to this thread.

I got in trouble on here yesterday.

It seems to me that there is a disadvantage to being too honest. Some people mistake your honesty for hostility, for one thing. Other people have carefully crafted lies that they live with and they resent the intrusion of your logic.

On the other hand, there are some people who act very sweet and nice but when you don't agree with them, they get testy. When you do try to discuss things on their merits, they call you names and imply that you are just being nasty.


Do you think it is better to be honest or to sugar-coat things with lies?

Somehow I can't see you as a compulsive liar. I was ready to give you my PIN!

what was your crime?

hmmm wonder where I have heard that, but it very appropriate in this setting.

People want to post questions but already have the answer for you, WTF!!! lmao

Feel free to agree to disagree with me Hiker and be as blunt as you want, I will not melt nor wither and die. The truth shall always prevail

hello suzzette, goodmorning to you

I agree with shooting straight Hiker. People in the 'industry' I network with, know me for telling them staight up like it is. They know if they need to hear the 'real' they talk to me. I say it like it is.

BUT, I've also been 'encouraged' lol by those in high places to be sure I soften it with GRACE. That's hard for me sometimes, but I've tried to be sure I don't mow someone down with my 'truth'.

As to not agreeing with someone & then turning on them if you don't, well that's just being bigoted. I know sometimes you and I take a slightly different path, & I won't say at times that may not be irritating if I feel I'm not being understood, but I respect your opinion and think you are a good person underneath it all.

So, not sugarcoated but not heartless & cold either. The truth can certainly be served with kindness.

That's my .02 anyway

They said I made a remark that did not make someone happy.

They said I made a remark that did not make someone happy.

I have lots of friends on here, Fran, and we don't always agree. We have butted heads on different issues but we respected the other's right to have a different opinion. That is all I ask. I can disagree with you and still love you to death.

They said I made a remark that did not make someone happy.

Well I've certainly never done that....

I agree. We disagreed just a few days ago and that very day you were posting greetings in my thread. That shows class.

Well I've certainly never done that....

I have lots of friends on here, Fran, and we don't always agree. We have butted heads on different issues but we respected the other's right to have a different opinion. That is all I ask. I can disagree with you and still love you to death.