I have a four year old son and although he has lots of uncles in his life he doesn't have his father. I've tried to get his father to be a positive part of his life but the only time his daddy talks to him is when he's disappointing him. My son goes through phases of wanting to see his dad and disliking him--alot, and now I believe he is too smart for his own good and his using his intelligence to act out sometimes. Could it be because he is a four-year old boy being a boy or something else? At what point is his belhaving non-age appropriate??

Hell yeah they do!

Do kids need both parents? NO.

It is better to have one fantastic parent than one fantastic parent and a horrible, hurting one.

IMO

If the Dad is not consistent with visitation or stands him up, it will screw with a child's head. Are you saying the Dad is putting conditions on when he sees the child?

A 4 yr. old will act out. They do not have the words to express their feelings.

My ex spent $35000 in court to stop me having visitation with kids
I borrowed $35000 to fight her I won court fined her $3.500 for wasting court time.
To extremes what a colourful world. Now I have debts but worth it

On a positive note get parenting classes they are not expensive and helps it helps me

Hello legs you mean two I guess

It is nice to have them both in their lives but not not a must. All you can do is do the best you can. Yes boys do seem to take it hard when there dad is not around had my hardest years when my son was around 12. But now at 25 he sees I did the best I could.

two parents is ideal..but not if one of those parents is a bad influence or isnt a good parent..my friends sons dad has rung her in the past drunk while hes supposedly looking after his son..how can that help the child in any form..so each individual case depends hun..but as long as you are there for your son, set boundaries and explain when hes older everything will be fine

boys need their daddy!
Try not to say too much negative stuff about the Daddy, no matter how hard it is...
Been there , done that
good luck
and in the end...its always the mothers fault!

Yes I believe they do,,, I can say however I raised my 4 kids on my own,, My children grew up knowing there Dad and saw him maybe twice a month when they were younger,,, they hurt they cried and did not understand why Dad did not care,, I reasurred them that he does love them,, deep down I hated him for this,, not once showing my kids my anger,, and once again lifted them up when they fell,, cause dad did not stop by... as they grew they took it upon themselves to call him and express to him how they felt,,, and yes,, With a few slaps to the back of his head,, well maybe alot,, he came around,,, and became the Dad he should have been as they were growing up,,,

Its hard,, stay positive and yes outside male role models are a plus,,, grandpa,, uncle's and so on...

Love & Light

sometimes they do. but you know my kids didnt have there fathers around... i wasent married to my daughter dad but i was to my son dad. but yet it was still like i was single so it was no big deal.. my son dad and i got divorced when he was 2yrs old and he had many opportunities to see him but he chose not to. he had talk to him on the phone when he was in the hospitol 4yrs ago and he then ask about seeing his dad, but it hasent been brought up in along time. when my son was in the hospitol the end of dec, i harassed his dad to come down as we wernt sure if my son was going to make it as we almost lost him, so his dad did come down and brought his wife and daughter.. but i had to harass him for that.. i really belive that his daughter has more brains than her own father.. so i would say on my half my kids were better off with out there dad..

Hey, Hope. I do believe that kids benefit from having both parents, but that is not always a possibility. I have two son, although older, and over the years when they "acted out" cause they missed their Dad, I just sat them down and we talked about what was really bothering them. Sometimes, especially when they were younger and could only feel but not express their emotions, I just let them know how loved they were, and filled their lives with positive people and experiences.

At four y/o you will be your sons world, just do the best you can to fill it with love and acceptance. Having a Mom like you that loves, nurtures, and cares about him will help him feel secure and adjust a little better.

Hi Debs
you took Words out of my mouth

My new name - legs.

I don't understand - you mean two. Two parents?

legs as 1000000 dollar legs
and misread the reply makes sense

hi hun cheers lol

Sorry hun I have to disagree a little bit.

YES they DO need to have both parents. Absolutely, unquestionably, they ned to have both parent.
However, the sad fact is, a lot of kids DON'T have both parents, and yes you are right, it is better for them to have one great parent and nothign else, if that soemthing else is going to be detrimental to the child inquestion.

But whenever possible, a child NEEDS to have both parents whenever possible.

Is it possible that by not dealing with each other and only being parents he could be a better dad? My ex is a good dad. He and I were just not good for each other. I realize now that we can both parent well...it just means going on with our lives and only dealing with each other when the kids are involved. I agree with the dad that suggested parenting classes. Is there a way to get him to go...separately, if possible. Boys, especially, need their dads very badly. There are some aspects of growing up we just can't get. Good luck...this has got to be hard on y'all.

Yes, it is in the best interest of the child to have two great parents. Ideally, in the "perfect world", two parents is the ultimate goal. Sadly, sometimes one is no good. Then the child can excel better with one parent.

well i guess to get down to the nitty gritty they

dont NEED

any parents but it is better if they have them