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Topic: Incapable of building and sustaining attraction...
Intrepid00 Joined Tue 01/15/08 Posts: 269	Wed 06/11/08 06:32 AM
It never ceases to amaze me; I can have any girl I want ! That is of course, unless I want them . All my life I have had the ability to attract females (oh, and males lol) but rarely the females I want to attract. Say I work with 15 women. I'll be atracted to 5 of them. 7 of them will be attracted to me. but the 7 that are attracted to me are out of the 10 that I'm not attracted to, get it? Then, there are times where I will attract a girl I'm interested in and she will love me but before I know it she is no longer interested! I'm not ugly or else I would never attract anyone, I'm intelligent and I also have a decent personality although I'm not the hardest, toughest guy in the world or the funniest, I can hold my own. Any ideas or suggestions? I'm tired of my interest in a woman not being reciprocated. Thanks-Intrepid00

ddn122 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 12855	Wed 06/11/08 06:33 AM
u might be gay..and just don't realize it ...yet

BlndwBdge Joined Mon 10/30/06 Posts: 473	Wed 06/11/08 06:33 AM
I have the same problem with men....can u help me out? LoL.

MsCarmen Joined Wed 05/07/08 Posts: 6282	Wed 06/11/08 06:43 AM
We are all looking for different things in people so just because you may have some of the qualities a woman will like, doesn't mean you'll have all of them. You deal with it, accept it, and then move on to the next.

davo3 Joined Tue 01/09/07 Posts: 146	Wed 06/11/08 07:03 AM
yeah dude i think i sees ya problem. around these women you dont paticularly want, youre being yourself. im sure youre a fun, intelligent guy and all of your best qualities are shining thru because youre not focused on impressing any of these chicks. youre more concerned with amusing yourself and dont take anything these ladies say too super serious. but when you get around a girl you want, you behavior probably changes on subtle levels because now you care. see? another problem could be your definition of what a woman being attracted to you is. some guys confuse a woman being comfortable around him as them being attracted enough to at some point have sex with him. chicks are super comfortable around gay dudes, even to the point of kissing them and grabbing their butts but they would never have sex with them. just make sure youre not becoming a straight gay friend to these ladies and that they always know that youre a man who likes sex and has no issues with it (probably not best to say that aloud tho.) take notice how you treat the chicks youre not attracted to and treat the ones you ARE attracted to the same way. the minute you give a hot chick speical treatment for no reason is when they lose attracted to you and lump you in the same catergory as every other lame dude. am i good or what?

cloudedsunshine Joined Thu 05/08/08 Posts: 1375	Wed 06/11/08 07:05 AM
yeah dude i think i sees ya problem. around these women you dont paticularly want, youre being yourself. im sure youre a fun, intelligent guy and all of your best qualities are shining thru because youre not focused on impressing any of these chicks. youre more concerned with amusing yourself and dont take anything these ladies say too super serious. but when you get around a girl you want, you behavior probably changes on subtle levels because now you care. see? another problem could be your definition of what a woman being attracted to you is. some guys confuse a woman being comfortable around him as them being attracted enough to at some point have sex with him. chicks are super comfortable around gay dudes, even to the point of kissing them and grabbing their butts but they would never have sex with them. just make sure youre not becoming a straight gay friend to these ladies and that they always know that youre a man who likes sex and has no issues with it (probably not best to say that aloud tho.) take notice how you treat the chicks youre not attracted to and treat the ones you ARE attracted to the same way. the minute you give a hot chick speical treatment for no reason is when they lose attracted to you and lump you in the same catergory as every other lame dude. am i good or what? Yep, guys do change if they like you then if they are just in it to be platonic.

Intrepid00 Joined Tue 01/15/08 Posts: 269	Wed 06/11/08 07:26 AM
yeah dude i think i sees ya problem. around these women you dont paticularly want, youre being yourself. im sure youre a fun, intelligent guy and all of your best qualities are shining thru because youre not focused on impressing any of these chicks. youre more concerned with amusing yourself and dont take anything these ladies say too super serious. but when you get around a girl you want, you behavior probably changes on subtle levels because now you care. see? another problem could be your definition of what a woman being attracted to you is. some guys confuse a woman being comfortable around him as them being attracted enough to at some point have sex with him. chicks are super comfortable around gay dudes, even to the point of kissing them and grabbing their butts but they would never have sex with them. just make sure youre not becoming a straight gay friend to these ladies and that they always know that youre a man who likes sex and has no issues with it (probably not best to say that aloud tho.) take notice how you treat the chicks youre not attracted to and treat the ones you ARE attracted to the same way. the minute you give a hot chick speical treatment for no reason is when they lose attracted to you and lump you in the same catergory as every other lame dude. am i good or what? Actually, yeah dog you are, lol. I know that is a problem the acting different around girls I'm attracted too but I don't do anything to make ugly chicks like me they just think I'm great???? Also, most of my life I was nicer to hot girls but then I read some pick up artist material and I actually treat them WORSE NOW. But I do get dumped into the pile with all the lame chumps and I HATE IT !!!

cloudedsunshine Joined Thu 05/08/08 Posts: 1375	Wed 06/11/08 07:29 AM
yeah dude i think i sees ya problem. around these women you dont paticularly want, youre being yourself. im sure youre a fun, intelligent guy and all of your best qualities are shining thru because youre not focused on impressing any of these chicks. youre more concerned with amusing yourself and dont take anything these ladies say too super serious. but when you get around a girl you want, you behavior probably changes on subtle levels because now you care. see? another problem could be your definition of what a woman being attracted to you is. some guys confuse a woman being comfortable around him as them being attracted enough to at some point have sex with him. chicks are super comfortable around gay dudes, even to the point of kissing them and grabbing their butts but they would never have sex with them. just make sure youre not becoming a straight gay friend to these ladies and that they always know that youre a man who likes sex and has no issues with it (probably not best to say that aloud tho.) take notice how you treat the chicks youre not attracted to and treat the ones you ARE attracted to the same way. the minute you give a hot chick speical treatment for no reason is when they lose attracted to you and lump you in the same catergory as every other lame dude. am i good or what? Actually, yeah dog you are, lol. I know that is a problem the acting different around girls I'm attracted too but I don't do anything to make ugly chicks like me they just think I'm great???? Also, most of my life I was nicer to hot girls but then I read some pick up artist material and I actually treat them WORSE NOW. But I do get dumped into the pile with all the lame chumps and I HATE IT !!! Okay first and foremost treat all women with respect, we like that second, have you thought about just being yourself until you find someone who you are attracted to and is attracted to you? I mean if you are always "on" around attractive women, what happens if you are with her say six months from now and she stops being attracted because you are no longer "on".

Intrepid00 Joined Tue 01/15/08 Posts: 269	Wed 06/11/08 07:31 AM
u might be gay..and just don't realize it ...yet OMG...Thats it!! And all this time I wasted staring at women's breasts and asses lisciviously!

ddn122 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 12855	Wed 06/11/08 07:50 AM
your acceptance will bring you peace u might be gay..and just don't realize it ...yet OMG...Thats it!! And all this time I wasted staring at women's breasts and asses lisciviously!

bobbyblue Joined Thu 03/29/07 Posts: 510	Wed 06/11/08 11:01 AM
That happens alot in this crazy world and you would hope the right one comes along to connect with.

May777 Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 1238	Thu 06/12/08 05:24 AM
yeah dude i think i sees ya problem. around these women you dont paticularly want, youre being yourself. im sure youre a fun, intelligent guy and all of your best qualities are shining thru because youre not focused on impressing any of these chicks. youre more concerned with amusing yourself and dont take anything these ladies say too super serious. but when you get around a girl you want, you behavior probably changes on subtle levels because now you care. see? another problem could be your definition of what a woman being attracted to you is. some guys confuse a woman being comfortable around him as them being attracted enough to at some point have sex with him. chicks are super comfortable around gay dudes, even to the point of kissing them and grabbing their butts but they would never have sex with them. just make sure youre not becoming a straight gay friend to these ladies and that they always know that youre a man who likes sex and has no issues with it (probably not best to say that aloud tho.) take notice how you treat the chicks youre not attracted to and treat the ones you ARE attracted to the same way. the minute you give a hot chick speical treatment for no reason is when they lose attracted to you and lump you in the same catergory as every other lame dude. am i good or what? that is about the BEST advice I`ve heard about dating EVER !!