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Topic: Looking for True Friendship and Love??!!
lilfairy82 Joined Mon 06/30/08 Posts: 5	Tue 07/15/08 10:37 AM
Hey Everyone!!! Thought I would write something different today!!! My Ex-boyfriend who's 27 and a leutieant in the Airforce, had to inform me that he's doing great because last night he got engaged to a young gal whos 22 from Ohio that he's known for a while!!! When I asked him how he proposed, he said he took her to some place called YellowStone and while overlooking the mountains asked her---then of course had to tell me, he had a ring, but didn't get down on one knee cause the ground was wet...then he sends me a pic of just her hand with this huge diamond ring!!! My only thought was ...."Wow" "Ohh, My Gosh" that was quick, but then it also got me thinking, You know I'd like to one of these days find that special person...who can become my best friend, who is there for me in good times and bad...who is such a sweetheart, so thoughtful and romantic and respectful and understanding, when I don't want to rush anything sexual....someone who just adores me and has no reason at all to want to change who i am or control me or is freaky, I've just been hurt soo many times...how does a person get over the doubt, the pain, the hurt....how do they believe and trust and truly love??? It's like you have to build up wall anymore just to see who truly cares for you and is fall inlove with enough...just to break them down....a person just likes to once in a while have someone to chat with and hugg and walk with and dance with and have pizza with and watch a movie with and to be truly honest....I've had those things, but never with the right person....I GUESS MY WHOLE POINT OF THIS POST IS IF ANYONE WANTS TO COMMENT ON MY LONELY, WHAT DID I DO WRONG SITUATION--FEEL FREE AND IF ANY NICE MAN WOULD LIKE TO CONTACT ME FEEL FREE!!!

julie4781 Joined Fri 03/21/08 Posts: 51	Tue 07/15/08 10:40 AM
Hey Everyone!!! Thought I would write something different today!!! My Ex-boyfriend who's 27 and a leutieant in the Airforce, had to inform me that he's doing great because last night he got engaged to a young gal whos 22 from Ohio that he's known for a while!!! When I asked him how he proposed, he said he took her to some place called YellowStone and while overlooking the mountains asked her---then of course had to tell me, he had a ring, but didn't get down on one knee cause the ground was wet...then he sends me a pic of just her hand with this huge diamond ring!!! My only thought was ...."Wow" "Ohh, My Gosh" that was quick, but then it also got me thinking, You know I'd like to one of these days find that special person...who can become my best friend, who is there for me in good times and bad...who is such a sweetheart, so thoughtful and romantic and respectful and understanding, when I don't want to rush anything sexual....someone who just adores me and has no reason at all to want to change who i am or control me or is freaky, I've just been hurt soo many times...how does a person get over the doubt, the pain, the hurt....how do they believe and trust and truly love??? It's like you have to build up wall anymore just to see who truly cares for you and is fall inlove with enough...just to break them down....a person just likes to once in a while have someone to chat with and hugg and walk with and dance with and have pizza with and watch a movie with and to be truly honest....I've had those things, but never with the right person....I GUESS MY WHOLE POINT OF THIS POST IS IF ANYONE WANTS TO COMMENT ON MY LONELY, WHAT DID I DO WRONG SITUATION--FEEL FREE AND IF ANY NICE MAN WOULD LIKE TO CONTACT ME FEEL FREE!!! you havent done anything WRONG you just havent found what your looking for...as i say ..."you have to try on many pairs of pants before you find the perfect fitting one"... i found mine on a datring site... he lives close and we have fun.. good luck to you and DONT settle for less than you want!!!

MisKim323 Joined Sat 06/28/08 Posts: 14563	Tue 07/15/08 10:42 AM
All you can do is be yourself....you seem to be intellegent enough to field out the ones that are just not right for you...continue to gain friends and when that special friend becomes more...you will surely know it...don't allow anyone to pressure you into things you feel uncomfortable with... and if you have a God...ask him to show you the way...Good luck to you and may you find the one that shares your soul

MsTeddyBear2u Joined Fri 04/06/07 Posts: 22031	Tue 07/15/08 10:48 AM
Welcome to the site! Take a deep breath and let it out slowly. You are living life. Unfortunately we get hurt sometimes, but life does and will go on. Time does heal us along the way. Sometimes we even learn from the hurt we exsperiance. Hang in there, and in the mean time post on here and have some fun. There are alot of great people here and it is a good place to make friends. Who knows you may even meet the man of your dreams here.

1956deluxe Joined Thu 12/06/07 Posts: 8559	Tue 07/15/08 10:52 AM
Drop the shields. Tear down the walls. Open your heart and be more flexible. You must be able to adapt to your partner. To adapt, it requires that you BOTH change to some degree. Change is NOT BAD and it is NOT control. GOOD LUCK

boonedog Joined Tue 12/25/07 Posts: 10671	Tue 07/15/08 11:02 AM
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Gypsy41 Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 123359	Tue 07/15/08 11:05 AM
I think that when a person is finally ready.......to open up......then it comes!!!

Unknow Joined Sat 12/15/07 Posts: 41170	Tue 07/15/08 12:03 PM
Welcome to JSH/Mingle2. Enjoy!!

wolfchic Joined Wed 09/26/07 Posts: 8036	Tue 07/15/08 12:31 PM
This is a awesome site for your chance to meet The one your looking for.Don't give up.He may be just a click away. Mine was.

longhairbiker Joined Tue 09/04/07 Posts: 26589	Tue 07/15/08 12:32 PM
I find the more time you have invested into a failed relationship the more time it takes to heal. There's nothing wrong with your feelings and your priorities are in the right place. Pick and choose your freinds wisely and you will find out you don't have many freinds. But the ones you do have will be damn good ones. Pick and choose your relationships wisely and you will have less grief to begin with. Don't bring your past into the present. Learn and move on. Good luck.

ElaineSeekingJerry Joined Thu 05/01/08 Posts: 978	Tue 07/15/08 12:37 PM
I find the more time you have invested into a failed relationship the more time it takes to heal. There's nothing wrong with your feelings and your priorities are in the right place. Pick and choose your freinds wisely and you will find out you don't have many freinds. But the ones you do have will be damn good ones. Pick and choose your relationships wisely and you will have less grief to begin with. Don't bring your past into the present. Learn and move on. Good luck. Wow, I needed to hear that too ... thank you!

wolfchic Joined Wed 09/26/07 Posts: 8036	Tue 07/15/08 12:37 PM
I find the more time you have invested into a failed relationship the more time it takes to heal. There's nothing wrong with your feelings and your priorities are in the right place. Pick and choose your freinds wisely and you will find out you don't have many freinds. But the ones you do have will be damn good ones. Pick and choose your relationships wisely and you will have less grief to begin with. Don't bring your past into the present. Learn and move on. Good luck.

longhairbiker Joined Tue 09/04/07 Posts: 26589	Tue 07/15/08 01:10 PM
You are very welcome. Being easier said than done- doesn't just make more sense to take time and heal than to amplify your feelings and wear down your health and wellbeing? It makes more sense to accept the things you cannot change than to work yourself up and think too much about the "why's?" the "Ifs?" and the "How comes?" it makes no sense to build up misplaced anger and resentment when you can direct that energy into the positive and make a true accomplishment. A "Life gives you lemons- make lemonade" anecdote if you please. But we have all seen it on here and in real life with freinds and family not letting things go. People who let their feelings and emotions run their life. And you are always left wondering why they do that? Because they either use it as a coping mechanism or they have been caught up in it for so long they have become comfortable in their anger and misery. I can relate to many things. But I have a hard time relating to people that are 24/7/365 negative, pessimistic, bitter, and won't let go of a past relationship that's years overdue in the "Damn- get a grip and get over it" department. Has anyone ever dated a tasmanian devil who is just a angry, constantly pissed off, flying, bitter, whirling dervish of hair and spit? I have. No fun. No rhyme. No reason for it. That's how they want to live their life. Unfortunately it usually becomes an obstacle in the way of them having a good relationship with someone else. And anyone who puts obstacles, ultimatums, or distance in a relationship from the start dooms said relationship from the start. Tell me if I'm wrong.

longhairbiker Joined Tue 09/04/07 Posts: 26589	Tue 07/15/08 01:27 PM
Don't be afraid to tell me I'm wrong. I can take it. I won't turn into the tasmanian devil.

brenlee1965 Joined Sat 06/28/08 Posts: 529	Tue 07/15/08 07:55 PM
Funny that I would find a post from my baby sister! My advise (and I am sure you are sick of it by now) is to give yourself time to find out what YOU like and don't like and when freaks email you---tell them "sorry, not what I am looking for" and remember there is a difference between lust and love! Your Ex sending you pictures of his fiance's ring and telling you about this is just him being spiteful, cause he knows it would hurt you. Be strong enough to wish him the best and BLOCK the jerk!

Citizen_Joe Joined Sat 04/12/08 Posts: 4036	Wed 07/16/08 03:58 PM
Hey Everyone!!! when I don't want to rush anything sexual....someone who just adores me and has no reason at all to want to change who i am or control me or is freaky, I've just been hurt soo many times...how does a person get over the doubt, the pain, the hurt....how do they believe and trust and truly love??? It's like you have to build up wall anymore just to see who truly cares for you and is fall inlove with enough...just to break them down....a person just likes to once in a while have someone to chat with and hugg and walk with and dance with and have pizza with and watch a movie with and to be truly honest....I've had those things, but never with the right person....I GUESS MY WHOLE POINT OF THIS POST IS IF ANYONE WANTS TO COMMENT ON MY LONELY, WHAT DID I DO WRONG SITUATION--FEEL FREE AND IF ANY NICE MAN WOULD LIKE TO CONTACT ME FEEL FREE!!! For starters, 100% expect to get hurt if you get close to anyone. Sooner or later, it'll happen, and is unavoidable. What happens after the hurt, however will define the true character of the relationship. From this perspective, you no longer have to be afraid of being hurt. If the person you're involved in cherishes your feelings, they wont get shut down, used as ammunition, disregarded, and ultimately, that will encourage the level of intimacy. The woman I'm in love with well, let's just say she was someone I offered friendship to, expecting not to go further than that. There was a drive to a customer site where we texted back and forth there, just appreciating each other as friends and appreciating how special each of us are off and on for the whole 3 hours of the drive, except for the area between the 68 just north of my town to the OH-30, where there was no signal to text. As her friend only then, I could have figured something more would develop as we were already complementing each other. Call it a hunch, but that kind of friendship and comfortable feeling couldn't have not gone where it is going, which is a beautiful mixture of paints (hers) and oil(well, mine's cutting oil, but you get the idea).

DestinysDream Joined Wed 02/20/08 Posts: 4805	Wed 07/16/08 04:17 PM
"WHAT DID I DO WRONG" I'm not too sure jumping back into the swimming hole is the smart thing to do. Have you ever heard of rebounding? Sometimes your thoughts are not as clear when you are just getting over someone. When did this engagement happen and when were you last with this guy romantically?