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Topic: Starting Over - What's Your Preference?
ElaineSeekingJerry's photo
Wed 07/23/08 11:14 AM
If you were to enter into a serious relationship, which category would your "ideal" mate fall into? (assume they had all the other qualities you're looking for):

a) never married with no children
b) never married with children
c) divorced with no children
d) divorced with children

Feel to explain your rationale as well ...

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Wed 07/23/08 11:15 AM

If you were to enter into a serious relationship, which category would your "ideal" mate fall into? (assume they had all the other qualities you're looking for):

a) never married with no children
b) never married with children
c) divorced with no children
d) divorced with children

Feel to explain your rationale as well ...



I just someone to go dancing with from time to time....frustrated

Etrain's photo
Wed 07/23/08 11:15 AM
I wouldn't care...just want a mate...I get along great with kidsdrinker drinker drinker

Naugachomp's photo
Wed 07/23/08 11:16 AM
A or C

I’m childish enough so no kids needed.
:banana:

ElaineSeekingJerry's photo
Wed 07/23/08 11:17 AM
Does anyone worry about the dynamics of bringing two families together, though? I guess I haven't seen a lot of 'success' stories in this regard and it makes me a little hesitant.

yayforchae's photo
Wed 07/23/08 11:17 AM
I've never been married and have no kids so ideally I'd like someone in the same boat

ElaineSeekingJerry's photo
Wed 07/23/08 11:18 AM

I wouldn't care...just want a mate...I get along great with kidsdrinker drinker drinker


But do you worry about how someone who didn't have children of her own might interact with your children?

no photo
Wed 07/23/08 11:19 AM
It wouldn't really matter to me.

ElaineSeekingJerry's photo
Wed 07/23/08 11:19 AM

I've never been married and have no kids so ideally I'd like someone in the same boat


I can totally understand and appreciate that. Thanks for your input!

no photo
Wed 07/23/08 11:19 AM


I wouldn't care...just want a mate...I get along great with kidsdrinker drinker drinker


But do you worry about how someone who didn't have children of her own might interact with your children?


There are plenty of people who do not have kids who would get along well with kids.

ElaineSeekingJerry's photo
Wed 07/23/08 11:21 AM

It wouldn't really matter to me.


No preference at all? You must be very open-minded and accepting ... great qualities! flowerforyou

myssfytz's photo
Wed 07/23/08 11:21 AM
i havent been married and have no kidz, but it doesnt matter to me if he has been or does.

as long as theres love and understanding and patience...itll be okayflowerforyou

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Wed 07/23/08 11:22 AM


It wouldn't really matter to me.


No preference at all? You must be very open-minded and accepting ... great qualities! flowerforyou


Well, I don't have kids, but I get along well with kids. So, I'm not looking specifically for someone with or without kids.

Etrain's photo
Wed 07/23/08 11:23 AM


I wouldn't care...just want a mate...I get along great with kidsdrinker drinker drinker


But do you worry about how someone who didn't have children of her own might interact with your children?

yes...and thats why I'm still single:cry:

ElaineSeekingJerry's photo
Wed 07/23/08 11:25 AM



I wouldn't care...just want a mate...I get along great with kidsdrinker drinker drinker


But do you worry about how someone who didn't have children of her own might interact with your children?


There are plenty of people who do not have kids who would get along well with kids.


I agree. I think being a step-parent would be a tough role to play, however, and they'd have to be a really strong person to put up with possible jealousy from the kids, the ex, etc. Glad to hear so many people are open to the idea - makes me more optimistic about my prospects!

chickayoshi's photo
Wed 07/23/08 11:25 AM
A, B, and maybe C...I usually don't deal with divorced men but if they don't have any kids...I may make an exception.

ElaineSeekingJerry's photo
Wed 07/23/08 11:28 AM

A, B, and maybe C...I usually don't deal with divorced men but if they don't have any kids...I may make an exception.


I appreciate your honesty and input. I realize that we rarely get to 'pick and choose' all the ingredients that go in to making up our 'ideal' partner, but it's interesting to know what people lean towards, if given the option.

lifestooshort6's photo
Wed 07/23/08 11:28 AM
it wouldn't matter to me, really

if they had kids, I'd want them to treat mine just like I'd treat theirs

if they had no kids, that's okay too as long as they were good to my kids

DQ66's photo
Wed 07/23/08 11:30 AM
Great question which I happen to be pondering myself lately. I guess it would all depend on the individuals involved and how they would deal.

redhead44613's photo
Wed 07/23/08 11:30 AM



I wouldn't care...just want a mate...I get along great with kidsdrinker drinker drinker


But do you worry about how someone who didn't have children of her own might interact with your children?

yes...and thats why I'm still single:cry:
flowers drool

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