i didn't know how to put it ladylike. But an example, I would like to make sure that I am truly in love and being loved back before becoming intimate. It seems all the guys want to do is go to bed with you, they may hang around for a month or so till someone new comes along. I want to know the guy really loves me and if there is a chance we'll make a long term commitment, then become intimate.

I guess that was where my question was going. I figure now if they know it's not a sex on the first date thing, if they keep hanging around, then maybe there is a chance.

Sounds like a plan to me.

You'll know when it is right. Every time it is wrong I know too. Head heart gut intincts some times I don't even take my own advice but live and learn.

Let's call a spade, a spade.

There comes a time in being single/alone; that it just gets a bit heavy. You meet someone, connect on a minor level & the desire to be WITH someone takes over. You know it won't be a long term thing, but the connection (whatever happens) helps you continue with life. I don't think there is any shame/blame in it. At OUR ages finding a marriage situation is QUITE difficult.
finding a long term companion is just about as tough. I think we need to be less judgemental of others & enjoy life.

What happens behind closed doors, is nobodies business put the people behind the doors.

Enjoy life, it is shorter than you think.
Longer than you think, also.

Woohoo Yeah, Sage!

Smiles LOL enjoy life sounds like a good plan to me. Good advice as usual. :)

i guess being married since I was 17 and being with the one man for 37 years was a bit much. I confuse sex with love and love with sex. When they go their separate ways I feel exhausted emotionally and so guilty I am physically sick. Even at our age disease happens, I'd hate to die with a sexually transmitted disease....even worse, if I had to do it alone.

You may get to the point where it doesn't bother you as much. I wasn't with one man quite that long but close to it. It took me a while to get to the point where I just learned to enjoy life and take it one day at a time.

It's when things tear up in the house that bothers me, hot water heater....AC. I feel so helpless sometimes, it makes me wished I'd watched him when he worked on things around the house so I could know how to do it.

Oh well, he knew how to work on things and I knew how to pay the bills and handle business.

Posting this again since we've gone over to page 4, who knows someone new might come on and read it. I know one thing, I'm getting more views on my profile...so maybe there are some reading just not coming back to tell me what they think afraid they'll hurt my feelings. C'mon guys, I can take it, nothing can be as bad as losing your home and having your husband taken away while you are in the hospital.

I'd enjoy continuing this conversation in email or IM but I can't contact you because you have blocked females. If you're interested email me.

I am sorry, didn't realize I'd done that. I will email you and fix my profile to take the block off if I can figure out how.

I know what your going through I went through it. My husband had the divorce finalized while I was in the hospital with pneumonia and I didn't have a place to live either so I do know what you went through

thanks cherokee. nice to hear from u.

Why do I get the idea the girls outnumber the guys on here?

no surprise there. girls are also more verbal. we like to chat.

lol....how true

well, that was certainly a short lived moment of fame....and not that many commented on the picture or profile.

Thanks to all of you who did comment and a special thanks to a new friend on here (musicchic knows who that is )

It takes a while. Keep posting and ppl will start to respond. It also helps to keep a positive attitude. Have some fun.

Two new photos for everyone to check out!!!!