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Topic: How in the blue.....
Goofball73's photo
Wed 08/06/08 02:27 PM
Hell...er um Hades (sounds more PG-13) can a relationship honestly work if the couple are swingers? I'm all for being creative, and open in the relationship. Maybe I am just too old fashion and all, but I just don't see how it can work. And I know two couples who do swing and they swear up and down that it is great for their relationship. Discuss.

rush2001's photo
Wed 08/06/08 02:28 PM
I've heard it can work but I don't know how and I'd never do it.

merlin2525's photo
Wed 08/06/08 02:29 PM
I don't know. It's not for me.

no photo
Wed 08/06/08 02:30 PM
Some folks like it; some find out it's not what they thought.

adirtygirl's photo
Wed 08/06/08 02:31 PM
You have to have an understanding and complete trust in the other person... I know first hand it's not easy but there are many that work out....

Enya's photo
Wed 08/06/08 02:31 PM
I NEVER TRIED THE 'SWINGER' THING.

I HEARD ABOUT IT...BUT,I'M NOT THE SHARING TYPE
{WHEN IT COMES TO MY MATE}

PLUS,WITH HIV AND STD GOING AROUND.....
SWINGING IS'NT FOR ME.

Mayhem_J's photo
Wed 08/06/08 02:32 PM
It works until someone jumps out of their swing and breaks an ankle.

Jules0565's photo
Wed 08/06/08 02:32 PM
I personally think they are fooling themselves by saying they are "happy" .. but then again, it's not for me, so what do "I" know? How can one be happy that their significant other is sleeping with someone else?? No thanks, I'll pass!

jadedyasmine's photo
Wed 08/06/08 02:32 PM
Edited by jadedyasmine on Wed 08/06/08 02:33 PM
This is a tough subject. Im incredibly open about these types of things only because A. All humans are different with differing needs wants desires and hardwiring. and B. because who am i to judge honestly.
I think that some people are not made to be in fully monagomous relationships. They want someone to love and to cherish and to be with but that doesnt mean that that one person can fullfill every sexual desire or need, so they share partners. In most cases if your cautious about who you swing with all four partners are satisfied and everyone wins. I say whatever works for you in a relationship.

MirrorMirror's photo
Wed 08/06/08 02:32 PM

I don't know. It's not for me.
:smile: me neither:smile:

jdquig's photo
Wed 08/06/08 02:33 PM

You have to have an understanding and complete trust in the other person... I know first hand it's not easy but there are many that work out....


what she said. It all comes down to trust and thier definition of love and relationship.

I know first hand it don't work for me haha

Goofball73's photo
Wed 08/06/08 02:34 PM

This is a tough subject. Im incredibly open about these types of things only because A. All humans are different with differing needs wants desires and hardwiring. and B. because who am i to judge honestly.
I think that some people are not made to be in fully monagomous relationships. They want someone to love and to cherish and to be with but that doesnt mean that that one person can fullfill every sexual desire or need, so they share partners. In most cases if your cautious about who you swing with all four partners are satisfied and everyone wins. I say whatever works for you in a relationship.


Interesting, and I can see your point. Well said.

A64WOODY's photo
Wed 08/06/08 02:36 PM
Commitment and singleness rolled into one. There is no way one could truly be happy if they are looking for others to fill in the gap of a relationship. What would happen if one got pregnant or contracted a disease of some kind? Would they still be "happy"???noway

jadedyasmine's photo
Wed 08/06/08 02:40 PM
If they were cautious enough then neither of those things would happen. In a true world scenario if one or the other things did happen no im sure they wouldnt be happy in fact they would be devistated but its human nature to take risks to go for the things we ultimately want.

Jules0565's photo
Wed 08/06/08 02:41 PM

Commitment and singleness rolled into one. There is no way one could truly be happy if they are looking for others to fill in the gap of a relationship. What would happen if one got pregnant or contracted a disease of some kind? Would they still be "happy"???noway


drinker drinker Good point.

Also, I would assume in a swingers relationship just as in a FWB relationship, one may start to have feelings for another, with the intimacy and closeness that they share, then what???

mscherbear's photo
Wed 08/06/08 05:10 PM


I don't know. It's not for me.
:smile: me neither:smile:


Nor me

feistybaby's photo
Wed 08/06/08 05:15 PM
This would not be for me. I am all for adding spice to my sexual activities when I am in a committed relationship but sharing is not the flavor I am looking for~

Tanzkity's photo
Wed 08/06/08 05:16 PM
I am curious about the swinging life.............i think it can work if you both confident and love each other..............you just have to have rules.................me and my boyfriend are considering trying it out and see if its for us....................you only live once why not.........

Ruth34611's photo
Wed 08/06/08 05:32 PM
I don't think it would work out for very long. But, what do I know? If it makes the couple happy then who am I to judge? Me personally? I could never do it.

liltazz's photo
Wed 08/06/08 05:34 PM

It works until someone jumps out of their swing and breaks an ankle.

rofl rofl rofl

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