Any pet owner that cannot control their animal's bodily functions needs to re-think why they even have pets in the first place. If you don't have the time to potty train your pets, then why do you even have them?

I can only imagine that this person who let's her dogs pee and poop on other people's floors... must just have a real nice smelling fragrant, man-appealing house of her own... weeeee

Sorry DD. I strongly disagree with this one.

Refusing to give them away to a good home IS like asking you to put them down.

You have to understand, to some people, the dogs are like their children. Would you want someone telling you that to be with them , you would have to get rid of your kids?

Again, telling someone that to be with them, you have to get rid of your pets is just another way of controlling that person.

After making them get rid of the pets, then it's a natural progression to not wanting them to hang out with friends that were there before them.

After that...it's family.

I have a little house dog. She has to go out twice a day, & anyone dating me knows that! She's my responsability & I have had guys get pissed because I can't stay the weekend with them, but that shows me what they are like & it's best to find out sooner than later!
My Rat Terrier,Olive's very well behaved, rides in the car well, has been over the road in a semi with me & was no problem! She's been to work with me at several jobs, & has gone to schools for Humane Society programs. She's not a yapper.
I keep a crate in the car for unknown situations, but don't have to use it very often.

This is one of many reasons you need to really get to know someone & make sure your lifestyles are compatable BEFORE you get in thier bed!

I respect your disagreeing with me however to me they are canines. They are not children. Others can love and care for the animals. That's how I am. This is how she is and that's ok. I understand what her boyfriend likely felt. I can't fault him. She can. You can(?). OK with me.

This shows a LOT of insecurity on your part. If you are so addicted to your dogs that you can't let go of them comfortably for a weekend, I would to some other deeper issue that is causing the problem between you and your men and the dogs. I think the answer lies in a long hard look into the mirror.

I would find it very annoying to have a strange dog jump on my lap and start to lick me... knowing that dogs also can lick every inch of their own bodies, including parts not best mentioned here... yuck. This might be something you are accustomed because you live with them, but you can't expect everyone to feel comfortable with that... to some folks it is disgusting to have dogs lick you... etc... that's just life, its not that people are mean or evil, its that you need to not let your dogs be so unruly to strangers. I would feel VERY uncomfortable going to somebody's house and some strange dogs start over-stepping their boundaries and jumping on my lap and such.

You just realize how to view this from someone else's perspective other than your own.

You have an affection for the dogs. That doesn't mean everyone you meet has to have the same affection. I would feel very silly if my dog went up to everybody and licked them. I have trianed my dog NOT to bother strangers. THAT is responsible pet ownership.

Letting them run amock in your house is not responsible. At least in the view of politeness to strangers. It is not very polite to let your dogs do stuff like that. You aksed for opinions, and I'm trying to give some that you might not normally hear... partly being the devil's advocate here... but mostly just stating the truth.

I agree with what somebody else said above... these type of responses from your male friends are very controlling. You need to keep their motives in check!

As the relationship progresses, I would assume that if you want to have a sleep-over, that you could eventually bring your dog with you. If he's not ready for that, then to hell with him. Find somebody that will accept you for who you are, and people come with attachments, like dogs and cats.

Any relationship you develop should be peaceful, and accepting towards all of the aspects of your life.

Stand up for yourself, and who you are. If you enjoy being a pet owner, then don't hide or be ashamed of it. And don't let some knucklehead push you around about your dog.

Just because he wants to get you under his control for a whole weekend doesn't mean that is the best thing for you. It fits his ego, but might not fit your life.

Mucho caution on control-freak type guys. It starts with "well, why don't you just bring some clothes over"... and ends up with disaster.

I can spot control-freak women the same way...

So true. Wish I knew this first because, this relationship has dead-ended. And, the dog win's again. And, once more the man is without a woman in his life.

Live & learn.

I love animals...especially dogs (I actually hate and am allergic to cats though) but I lead a very active life, I come and go when I please, it would be hard for me to date someone who was so tied to their house and animal they couldn't pick up and go for the weekend... but this guy knew this about you, so really it's his fault not yours.

I was being sarcastic as I personally think your priorities are screwed up. Do what makes you happy. I am glad you are thinking about how much you love your pets. I love animals too. I would not choose them over humans but that's me.

I don't make animal's my priority, human's are. Animal's are just that, animal's. No, they are not disposible. But human's are more important to me than animal's.

I don't make animal's my priority, human's are. Animal's are just that, animal's. No, they are not disposible. But human's are more important to me than animal's.

in THEIR house they do as they please.

I don't make animal's my priority, human's are. Animal's are just that, animal's. No, they are not disposible. But human's are more important to me than animal's.