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Topic: Raising the child
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Tue 08/26/08 08:13 AM
I'm not looking for advice because I have already raised my children. I'm just polling public opinion because I am a little surprised from an earlier thread regarding child discipline. I know that each situation is different so I will ask my question this way... If you have children, do you (or did you) spank them for an appropriate reason?

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Tue 08/26/08 08:15 AM
not as much as I probably should have with one boy......but I hate doing it.....

But sometimes it's the last straw.......

The rest of the kids are fine with little to none thus far.....

LIJOMA's photo
Tue 08/26/08 08:16 AM
HELL YES I WOULD IF I NEEDED TOO!!!!! Mine know that I mean business when I tell them something. I have been blessed with 2 great kids, and I have not had to spank them, but they know I will if I feel I need too. I have a 13 and 10 year old. They both know MOM DON'T PLAY!

adirtygirl's photo
Tue 08/26/08 08:16 AM
i remember when i was a kid we would go to school and show each other the belt welts we got..... now you cant even talk loud to your kids, cause you get some quack calling child services

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Tue 08/26/08 08:16 AM
i, only, beat my children for inappropriate reasons...

adirtygirl's photo
Tue 08/26/08 08:17 AM
Edited by adirtygirl on Tue 08/26/08 08:18 AM
yes i must admit i only beat mine on days that end in "Y"laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh


by the way just a joke!!!!!!!!!

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Tue 08/26/08 08:18 AM
Yes I did...and still do with the grandkids...I feel there are so many people afraid to spank because of the laws...but their is a huge difference between spanking and abuse...A god whack on the behind never hurt anyone...taught me to be the person I should be...if the kids don't listen the first time...then yes...a spanking is in order. Just my opinion...and btw...my kids have grown to be very respectful, never raised a hand to me, never talked back, and grew up knowing that if they just listen...things go well...got lucky with my daughter...one spanking for her when she was 8 and never had to spank her againflowerforyou

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Tue 08/26/08 08:22 AM
Spanking is only effective to stop short term, immediate behavior.

It is best if used in situations of safety and stopped around age three to four.

Spanking does not alter behaviors in children older than toddler years. It can however, instill fear rather than respect in children and teach them physical action is appropriate in response to a behavior.

Ask any pediatric professional.

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Tue 08/26/08 08:26 AM

Spanking is only effective to stop short term, immediate behavior.

It is best if used in situations of safety and stopped around age three to four.

Spanking does not alter behaviors in children older than toddler years. It can however, instill fear rather than respect in children and teach them physical action is appropriate in response to a behavior.

Ask any pediatric professional.
Yes, and my daughter told me that the spanking made her afraid to do anything bad again...and as I said, she was 8 when she was spanked

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Tue 08/26/08 08:29 AM
I believe in beating my children twice a week whether they need it or not!! noway noway noway
Not really. I've RARELY spanked either of them, maybe twice in their lives per. And, it was most definitely appropriate. There are many other ways to discipline that have worked just fine.

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Tue 08/26/08 08:31 AM
Edited by franshade on Tue 08/26/08 08:43 AM

I'm not looking for advice because I have already raised my children. I'm just polling public opinion because I am a little surprised from an earlier thread regarding child discipline. I know that each situation is different so I will ask my question this way... If you have children, do you (or did you) spank them for an appropriate reason?


I'm with the OP, I'm done raising my daugher and I did a great job tooflowerforyou

I kind of feel bad for the parents of today, they cannot make a move, a decision, a choice with regards to their kids without repercussions.

good luck to all

mry's photo
Tue 08/26/08 08:31 AM
Ahhhhh, I wish I knew the answers...if it would help I would use a baseball bat!laugh

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Tue 08/26/08 08:41 AM
with hold food and make them sleep in the garage

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Tue 08/26/08 08:50 AM


I'm not looking for advice because I have already raised my children. I'm just polling public opinion because I am a little surprised from an earlier thread regarding child discipline. I know that each situation is different so I will ask my question this way... If you have children, do you (or did you) spank them for an appropriate reason?


I'm with the OP, I'm done raising my daugher and I did a great job tooflowerforyou

I kind of feel bad for the parents of today, they cannot make a move, a decision, a choice with regards to their kids without repercussions.

good luck to all


Did you ever try to disipline your child at the store?? People look at you like like YOUR wrong!

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Tue 08/26/08 09:27 AM
and??? anytime there is any type of commotion people will look.

#1 - people will either say, look at her, she cant control her kids
#2 - people will either say, look at her, she lets her kids do anything
#3 - people will either say, if that were me...

so you see, I dont care one way or another how I am looked upon by others, in the long run I do whats best for mine without regards to those looking

jmo

good luck

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Tue 08/26/08 09:35 AM
Edited by littleredhen on Tue 08/26/08 09:36 AM
I think it depends a lot on the child's age & pesonality and of course the situation. My daughter only needed a few swats as a preschooler, for things like breaking away from me & running towards the street, or smacked fingers for reaching for a knife. She was a quick learner, very sensitive & verbal, so just expressing my dissapointment in her behavior, or pointing out the danger was usually enough for her.

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Tue 08/26/08 09:49 AM
!00% agree with lilith401!


Spanking neither teaches nor instills appropriate behavior within children.

It serves only to teach them to resort to violence when others do not respond in the way they desire.


Google "spanking children" and see for yourself what the experts say.

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Tue 08/26/08 09:59 AM
Spanking is an art form in many cultures, amongst adults. :tongue: love :tongue: love :tongue: love

franshade's photo
Tue 08/26/08 10:00 AM

Spanking is an art form in many cultures, amongst adults. :tongue: love :tongue: love :tongue: love


pitchforkLil getcha mind outta da gutta...rofl


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Tue 08/26/08 10:02 AM


Spanking is an art form in many cultures, amongst adults. :tongue: love :tongue: love :tongue: love


pitchforkLil getcha mind outta da gutta...rofl


I'm already going to hell. I mailed a crucifix and an x rated wish list snail mail, in the same envelope. I'm so in deep water....noway bigsmile

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