Do you ever truly move on from heartbreak? Does it just become part of who you are? Do you become jaded and more wary of relationships? Do you see heartbreak as a learning experience? Do you throw yourself into another relationship? Do you cry and get mad? Do you appear to be okay after the fact?

Come on people wage in! What are your thoughts?

i heard someone once describe heartache as a scar:

it's there, always part of you, and you can see it as a reminder, but it fails to hurt any longer

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myself, i try to wipe the slate clean each time. no one deserves to be treated based on the wrongs of another relationship, or of another person. i'm fairly resilient though, makes it much easier to do

i do cry, not only when i'm sad but with any intensive emotion.

some people let it destroy themselves....choosing to remain bitter,and never truely learning from it.
myself I believe you need to forgive them so you can move on.

Thanks papersmile for sharing.

I do get a let wary of a new relationship, but I do not compare the new person to the one that caused me pain.

I do cry, but then start all over again.

Past relationships have caused me to be a bit cold hearted. I also find it very easy to walk away now...not even try to fix the problem...just move on to the next....kind of sucks

I think you still think about it

But is all you do , you know it was there (pain)

But it doesn't hurt anymore

You just move on and live another day

i just hug a pillow..

It seems to always leave a bit of an ache when the memories come back. But, our lives are made up of our experiences and sometimes help...or hurt...to make us who we are today.

Crying...even for macho guys...helps the process of moving on.

I think the hardest part is when you are reflecting your life. She's always there.
I've come a long ways without anybody's help. And I'm still moving up.

Whoever said Boys Don't Cry was wrong

Thank you to everyone that shared!

Prior relationships are a learning experience, for me to figure out what part I had and where I went wrong. They also serve as a way to look out for what I don't want and to caution me against certain types. No man is the same, even if they might seem to be the same "type". So I try to walk into every new potential relationship with open eyes and a fresh start.

My baggage fits nicely into a carry-on, with the only remainders tools and growth experiences. My exes do not define me.

that's great!

I just forget his name. "I'm sorry, what was your name again?"

There's a reason why the people in your past didn't make it to your future...

Ya it sucks for awhile, but over time it heals.

thanks again for everyone that shared.

If this is the ticket in to Sgt. Pepper's club, I want in! I'm just getting out of a relationship of 6 years, including being married to her for the last 2.5 years to her. After losing the house, we separated in March and will eventually go through a divorce. I've joined the Mingle community because I'm finding myself feeling more and more alone. I miss her dearly and wish we could've worked through the hardships of losing the house. I guess somehow the love between us was lost somewhere along the way because had it still been there, we would still be together. I'm going to have to say I've reached rock bottom in my life right now. I feel so low, most of the time I seclude myself and nestle into pain. Half the time I find it hard getting through the day at work. When my friends take me out for a good time so I can forget about things, I get super drunk. I've gotten back into working out at the gym, and for a while, that provided major stress relief. But I haven't worked out in over a month now. I've been spending a lot of time with my parents trying to catch up in life with them, but I've gotten the worst emotional support from them. Not once has my dad asked how she and I are doing. WTF? I'm missing so much emotionally right now. And I know I'll pull through this eventually. But is there anyone out there that has shares a similar experience? You would think after being married you would never have to go through another break up for the rest of your life. Surely, that's not the case.

heartsPOUND, I have never been through a divorce but have been in long term relationships that I have felt similar. There are many people in here that have gone through and know what you are going through. My email is always open if you need to talk. Post in the forums get to know the people on this site... there are great people on here. Most are willing to listen and even make you laugh when you need it.

I am so sorry that you are having a rough time. Just know that the emotions that you are feeling are normal. If you google that stages of grief, I think that you will find those helpful in identifying the stages that you are going through.

Like I said my email is open if you need to talk.

i think all in all we are allowed to cry, vent ,complain, B!tch, and what ever else it takes to get over someone you care about.... No one ever said love was gonna be easy and I know from personal experience that i won't be so quick to fall again...

Tanyaann, hi sweetie, got your email.. thanks you are the best

tanyaann, thank you for such a heartfelt response. i'm not ready for live group therapy right now, but there seems to be a lot of that here already. it's going to be nice to be able to talk about my problems here. and true, marriage or no marriage, long term relationships are a difficult thing to get over and everyone is sure to have a hard time need they get through it. thanks for the google suggestion, i hadn't even thought of that! thanks for being there for me.