I'm a SWM, 30 years old who is lonely with a lot of love and not able to find suitable dating partners. I live in the San Francisco Bay Area and have never been in a LTR. Another issue is, with my age, gender, and hormones, not being in a relationship means I want sex more because the loneliness I experience seems to kick my sex drive into higher gear--without my say. As a result, I can't find lonely, needy women who also want casual sex, while I struggle to find a woman with whom to befriend and eventually develop a relationship with. I'm currently seeing a psychotherapist intern do address these issues, but nothing helps.

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Interesting first post.

What does your age and gender have to do with it?

I'm having relationship problems too.
My blow up doll blew up!

Free porn helps

Hormones and age really do have alot to do with sex drive.......dont ask me how I know this!!

Welcome and have a blast!

Yes, welcome to Mingle2.

whew....and I thought I had problems...

Here is a thought........keep it in your pants for the first 3 dates........then unleash your demons!!!

Maybe you should move to a different area.... or better yet another state...

perhaps..you might be interested in a slightly used blow up girl friend..i'll even throw in a half roll of duct tape...in case you get a little too frisky...

Ya don't need a psychiatrist. Everyone has these problems. I'd suggest you masterbate and look for a good girl to love, because casual sex could ruin a relationship before you even realize it could be more, and in the end the sex will be much better if you can just wait and be patient. Trust me, I know this from experience.

What SHE said!!!

Hmmmmmm. Ask yourself what would your barista at starbucks do?

Thanks for your reply. It's frustrating! I've used Craig's List personals frequently to the point that my account(s) have been suspended because I post too much. I don't have any close female friends and I go crazy. I don't know how to make a personal bond or connection with a twenty or thirty-something woman. There have been many days of late where I will just break down and cry.

might i also suggest lock and key for the "demon?" all kidding aside, OP give it time, you'll find someone

Interesting, I thought craigslist was useful for hookups. Maybe only in Seattle, where I lived for a brief time. You could try there...

perhaps you should be seeing a sex therapist instead of a psychotherapist...okay man, here's what you do...instead of spending all that money on the psychotherapist and spending ineffective time on craigslist...go to a strip club...find an independent contractor that doesn't seem like she's getting a lot of business...have her take you to the back room for a few private lap dances..tip her well...keep going back...expect to pay quite a bit..but eventually, there's a good chance that you'll befriend her...and quite possibly this may lead into something more....you got to dress/look nice though.....try it, let us know how you do...you got nothing to lose, except perhaps your virginity...just kidding..

You ever see 40 yr old virgin? You have to knock off some hood rats first.

in all seriousness
W/E dude. That whole "wanting sex more" is BS. You don't want sex more than the typical guy. You are just trying to make excuses for the way you act.