I know, but that's how they see you. A doctor type person is what I meant. It's sexy to them.

Yes, I realized last night and this morning that he "targets" me when he gets frustrated with his life....WTF???

I don't know why. I just know they do it.

Why don't you tell us about it, Lily.... vent.

Well, he sends me a text last night that says "Nice facebook pics, who's snorting coke?"

I send back "it's salt"

I have a pic of Tamba screwing around at Country Dinner and we spelled out "more coke" in salt and a pic of him with a drinking straw at his nose, the APD were across from us and laughing their asses off at our stupidity.

So I call and he doesn't answer, I say "Can your GF keep you busy so you don't have to interner stalk me and make judgement calls on my character?"

He calls back in a series of calls, all of which start out in a normal tone and end with him yelling about the well being of his child and attacking my general character and me hanging up on him.

Lillith for god's sake do I look like I do coke? I'd be a hell of alot skinnier if I did coke don't you think?

Then he starts with a bunch of "you take a bad tone with me" all pansey ass stuff.... I wanted to say so badly "grow a ball"

I want the papers signed and him OUT of my business.... Is that so much to ask in life? It's been FOUR years we've been seperated....

Ahhh Lily.... I know you don't do coke. You turned me down flat... just kidding. Listen, your ex will always be this way. It will ebb and flow and the best thing I can tell you is this:

You can't make sense out of irrational behaviors. He is powerless over you, and you are the mother of his child. It did not work out the way he thought it would, and he wants influence. It is a power struggle. DO NOT engage him. Next time, simply ignore him completely and only discuss your daughter. Never deviate from that. Sooner or later (expect later) he might stop. But don't EVER give him the satisfaction of thinking for one nanosecond he bothered you. Ignore his texts, his calls, his mails, unless they are about that angel of yours.

That's all I got.

This is exactly what you have to do. It's so hard to remember that though sometimes.

It is my understanding that Lily has been very friendly and accomodating to him. But the friendship part, he's killing that. So it must go far, far away.

Andy pretty much told me the same thing last night, I'm so angry that he could even think that of me, after knowing me for almost 20 years....When the discussion got heated that's when I would look at it and say "why am I justifying it to him?" and hang up.

I am so tired of this situation. He said last night and has said many times through all of this, "you always get what you want." and I always think "oh yes, I want to be yelled at, I wanted to get divorced, I wanted you to be a jackoff, I wanted you to be so unwilling to compromise, oh yes, I am getting EVERYTHING I want out of this" Instead I say "what is it you want that are not getting out of this?" and I in 4 years have never gotten an answer.....

Andy said he would break his knee caps... I may let him...

I'm filing child support seperatly and making a few demands in the divorce.... I'm not so nice anymore....He lost friendship fully and totally with this last burst of nonsense.

I always envied you for what little you had with him. Friendship that is. He is angry you are having fun, honey. Wait til he finds out about Andy....

That's where mine knows better. I gave him everything when I left. I waived alimony, rights to his pension, child support, the house. Just walked away. He knows if he screws with me too bad I could go back for child support. He may be an obnoxious pig, but he's not stupid.

He won't.... I have never shared that part of my life with him. I knew he couldn't handle it, I think he is angry that I'm not angry about the new GF.... I have only ever wanted him to be happy, we were not happy together, so I left, it's as simple as that. It wasn't just for me. (It was mostly for me, but not totally)

He goes on and off Lexipro and I think it messes with his head.

SSRI's are best left continuous, with medically supervised titration. Yes, it is messing with his head. Honey. He is going to find out.


So you're going to laugh....never heard from waiter, willing to bet $ switzerland guy is dating someone, and then there was the guy who hung up on me last night after he learned my profession (see popcorn)... so I'm having drinks with ex marine current army national guard works at Luk in Wooster. Design Engineer. I'm thinking there must be a balance in this somewhere. If I pull my head out of my ass.

I'm gonna check out all of your dates from now on...

She says hello...you fool....I love you.....cmon join the joyride.....

Look Sharp, Roxette....

He's on the other site, want his screen name?

And I say na, na, na, na, na,....she's got The Look.

Lunch time