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I sweet, cin, Dave and sharris, I don't think it so much that they don't care but a lot of the people on here still work and have children.. I think they just get busy and don't have as much time as some like myself..I'm retired but keep myself busy too.. that is part of it as well. |
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I sweet, cin, Dave and sharris, I don't think it so much that they don't care but a lot of the people on here still work and have children.. I think they just get busy and don't have as much time as some like myself..I'm retired but keep myself busy too.. Hi and I do not think that is it. Days go by and no relpy |
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This is a very diverse group of people. Before I said anything, I read every posting that was here. It showed me that even though we have all experienced a loss, it is something you go through alone. People don't want you to be sad so they stop asking after awhile. Even having gone through this myself, I find myself at a loss for words whhen it happens to someone I know. I don't want to tell them how really hard it is or how long it really takes to recover. Dave, I'm sure everyone who reads your comments cares, it's just not always easy to find the words to comfort someone else. You do matter! Not even a reply except from Betty who I am friends with. I reply and I get no reply back To admit, when it felt the memories again, I stopped coming. I cloaked my comfortabilities in complacency. Sometimes between responders there seems to be a conversation it does not feel right to enter into, a privacy, a conversation that the two are in the know about and it would be out of context to divert. I have felt that many times. I always feel bad that is why I joined this forum. it helps for me sometimes. |
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This is a very diverse group of people. Before I said anything, I read every posting that was here. It showed me that even though we have all experienced a loss, it is something you go through alone. People don't want you to be sad so they stop asking after awhile. Even having gone through this myself, I find myself at a loss for words whhen it happens to someone I know. I don't want to tell them how really hard it is or how long it really takes to recover. Dave, I'm sure everyone who reads your comments cares, it's just not always easy to find the words to comfort someone else. You do matter! Not even a reply except from Betty who I am friends with. I reply and I get no reply back To admit, when it felt the memories again, I stopped coming. I cloaked my comfortabilities in complacency. Sometimes between responders there seems to be a conversation it does not feel right to enter into, a privacy, a conversation that the two are in the know about and it would be out of context to divert. I have felt that many times. I always feel bad that is why I joined this forum. it helps for me sometimes. It did help at first, I met Betty but now it seems like no one is interestewd in talking to me intill today. |
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This is a very diverse group of people. Before I said anything, I read every posting that was here. It showed me that even though we have all experienced a loss, it is something you go through alone. People don't want you to be sad so they stop asking after awhile. Even having gone through this myself, I find myself at a loss for words whhen it happens to someone I know. I don't want to tell them how really hard it is or how long it really takes to recover. Dave, I'm sure everyone who reads your comments cares, it's just not always easy to find the words to comfort someone else. You do matter! Not even a reply except from Betty who I am friends with. I reply and I get no reply back To admit, when it felt the memories again, I stopped coming. I cloaked my comfortabilities in complacency. Sometimes between responders there seems to be a conversation it does not feel right to enter into, a privacy, a conversation that the two are in the know about and it would be out of context to divert. I have felt that many times. I always feel bad that is why I joined this forum. it helps for me sometimes. It did help at first, I met Betty but now it seems like no one is interestewd in talking to me intill today. Maybe because no one new you had a problem in here untill you brought it up. Hi Dave Tim here. I had been on here for over a year and never heard from anyone, then I started Posting in the over 50's. Big difference now, but you have to post and get to know EVERY one not just a select few. I don’t care if I’m chatting it up with a guy or gal; it’s just nice to have someone close to my own age. And you may want to drop some of your mail preferences it’s hard for someone to drop you an e-mail if you have them blocked because there not what your looking for, then if your getting to much crap in your mail re set it. JMO |
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Hello Dave, Rob here. Sometimes people will not reply for a variety
of reasons. You may have reminded them of their own situation, with all the memories. It is not that people dont care - we all do. We all handle the process in a different way and with different lengths of time. This Sept it will be 2 yrs since I lost my wife. There seems to be a lot of therapy, just talking to people. Occasionally you will get a response. For me it is just nice to know that someone is listening - no matter if they respond or not. |
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I REALLY MISS MY HUSBAND AFTER FIVE YEARS NOW
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I REALLY MISS MY HUSBAND AFTER FIVE YEARS NOW It was 20 years in April I lost my wife and I still miss her. |
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This is a very diverse group of people. Before I said anything, I read every posting that was here. It showed me that even though we have all experienced a loss, it is something you go through alone. People don't want you to be sad so they stop asking after awhile. Even having gone through this myself, I find myself at a loss for words whhen it happens to someone I know. I don't want to tell them how really hard it is or how long it really takes to recover. Dave, I'm sure everyone who reads your comments cares, it's just not always easy to find the words to comfort someone else. You do matter! Not even a reply except from Betty who I am friends with. I reply and I get no reply back To admit, when it felt the memories again, I stopped coming. I cloaked my comfortabilities in complacency. Sometimes between responders there seems to be a conversation it does not feel right to enter into, a privacy, a conversation that the two are in the know about and it would be out of context to divert. I have felt that many times. I always feel bad that is why I joined this forum. it helps for me sometimes. It did help at first, I met Betty but now it seems like no one is interestewd in talking to me intill today. Maybe because no one new you had a problem in here untill you brought it up. Hi Dave Tim here. I had been on here for over a year and never heard from anyone, then I started Posting in the over 50's. Big difference now, but you have to post and get to know EVERY one not just a select few. I don’t care if I’m chatting it up with a guy or gal; it’s just nice to have someone close to my own age. And you may want to drop some of your mail preferences it’s hard for someone to drop you an e-mail if you have them blocked because there not what your looking for, then if your getting to much crap in your mail re set it. JMO I have posted a lot in the over 50 forum and some other forums Nobody wants to get to know me. |
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This is a very diverse group of people. Before I said anything, I read every posting that was here. It showed me that even though we have all experienced a loss, it is something you go through alone. People don't want you to be sad so they stop asking after awhile. Even having gone through this myself, I find myself at a loss for words whhen it happens to someone I know. I don't want to tell them how really hard it is or how long it really takes to recover. Dave, I'm sure everyone who reads your comments cares, it's just not always easy to find the words to comfort someone else. You do matter! Not even a reply except from Betty who I am friends with. I reply and I get no reply back To admit, when it felt the memories again, I stopped coming. I cloaked my comfortabilities in complacency. Sometimes between responders there seems to be a conversation it does not feel right to enter into, a privacy, a conversation that the two are in the know about and it would be out of context to divert. I have felt that many times. I always feel bad that is why I joined this forum. it helps for me sometimes. It did help at first, I met Betty but now it seems like no one is interestewd in talking to me intill today. Maybe because no one new you had a problem in here untill you brought it up. Hi Dave Tim here. I had been on here for over a year and never heard from anyone, then I started Posting in the over 50's. Big difference now, but you have to post and get to know EVERY one not just a select few. I don’t care if I’m chatting it up with a guy or gal; it’s just nice to have someone close to my own age. And you may want to drop some of your mail preferences it’s hard for someone to drop you an e-mail if you have them blocked because there not what your looking for, then if your getting to much crap in your mail re set it. JMO I have posted a lot in the over 50 forum |
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I have the feeling no one knows me. My name is Dave and I have been a widower for 20 years. I was married less then 3 years when my wife died, she was only 35 years old. Both of my parents have died and I have no kids. I have a brother who is 66 years old and married and lives in Arizona. I have no family near me. I am 61.
I was staying away from the forums as I was very depressed. I am still a little but at least I am reaching out. |
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Dave have you ever checked out Misc advice help and support forum. I think I've seen you in there on the Widows and Widower thread. There is also one on depression. When I feel I need some support I go in there. I fight depression I grew up with it in my famly. And I feel it is a fight. When I was younger I thought boy why do people let themselves get so down. But get get older and wiser. And find it is always a fight. I always try and see the bright side of something. I feel lucky I'm not in the luney bin after what I've been through.
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Thank you for your advice, I will look into it again
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I was also on Griefnet.org for a while found that to be allot of help.
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Hi Dave
I just read all of the replys you got and as you see I am not your only friend!The people on here are the best people in the world now the ball is in your court to reach back out at them! Now turn that frown upside down and do your Elvis Dance    Tomorrow May 14 will be a tough day for me to cause it would have been my wedding anniversary, but with the help of my kids and friends I will get through it just fine! You guys are the Best!!  |
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Hello Dave, Rob here. Sometimes people will not reply for a variety of reasons. You may have reminded them of their own situation, with all the memories. It is not that people dont care - we all do. We all handle the process in a different way and with different lengths of time. This Sept it will be 2 yrs since I lost my wife. There seems to be a lot of therapy, just talking to people. Occasionally you will get a response. For me it is just nice to know that someone is listening - no matter if they respond or not. It was 20 years last month and I still miss her. I am sorry for your loss. I know what the problem is, I live alone and have no friends. I need to be with people. I sold my car so it is hard to get out. |
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Hi Dave I just read all of the replys you got and as you see I am not your only friend!The people on here are the best people in the world now the ball is in your court to reach back out at them! Now turn that frown upside down and do your Elvis Dance Tomorrow May 14 will be a tough day for me to cause it would have been my wedding anniversary, but with the help of my kids and friends I will get through it just fine! You guys are the Best!! What do you want me to say? I love all of you and thank you. I am over my depression and I am willing to help all of you in this forum. |
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Just stopped in to say hello to everyone... Betty, I will be thinking of you tomorrow and hope your day goes well.. Dave, I hope you too are feeling a little better after our talk...Maybe I will see you all here tonight.. Have a good one everybody!!
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Edited by
carold
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Wed 05/13/09 02:57 PM
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Hi Dave I just read all of the replys you got and as you see I am not your only friend!The people on here are the best people in the world now the ball is in your court to reach back out at them! Now turn that frown upside down and do your Elvis Dance Tomorrow May 14 will be a tough day for me to cause it would have been my wedding anniversary, but with the help of my kids and friends I will get through it just fine! You guys are the Best!! What do you want me to say? I love all of you and thank you. I am over my depression and I am willing to help all of you in this forum. |
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What do you want me to do. I am doing fine and love you all
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