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I would like some advice on what to do when your 3 year relationship just one day walks away and your own your own again. I was liveing with this boy for like 2 and half years and last year he took job working out on the road construction crew went different places all time he stayed gone like 3 to 4 weeks at a time. Well the last few weeks before this bad thing happen one he quit sending money to help on bills or rent and then I knew the landlord would be wonting thier money and so It went on for few weeks longer so I deciced me and the kids had to do something go find me a place that I could afford. so that was done he wonted me to go ahead and move all his stuff out the day after all this went on and so I did moved some to storage and some to my place. Well I seen him like a month later and we talked and seen eachother in intimacy and went on his way said he would come back and we could talk about what went wrong. Well that went on a while until around christmas of 2006 and brought my kids gifts and such. After that year never seen him again. He still has stuff here with me that I have still of his.. what would you think would of happen and why can he not just tell me what went wrong .. I am just in a confused state over all this and never have went out with anyone never yet.. I go to counsling now and it is okay. still feel like their is chains on me. so tell me what do you think? I am depesprate for answers.
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I would like some advice on what to do when your 3 year relationship just one day walks away and your own your own again. I was liveing with this boy for like 2 and half years and last year he took job working out on the road construction crew went different places all time he stayed gone like 3 to 4 weeks at a time. Well the last few weeks before this bad thing happen one he quit sending money to help on bills or rent and then I knew the landlord would be wonting thier money and so It went on for few weeks longer so I deciced me and the kids had to do something go find me a place that I could afford. so that was done he wonted me to go ahead and move all his stuff out the day after all this went on and so I did moved some to storage and some to my place. Well I seen him like a month later and we talked and seen eachother in intimacy and went on his way said he would come back and we could talk about what went wrong. Well that went on a while until around christmas of 2006 and brought my kids gifts and such. After that year never seen him again. He still has stuff here with me that I have still of his.. what would you think would of happen and why can he not just tell me what went wrong .. I am just in a confused state over all this and never have went out with anyone never yet.. I go to counsling now and it is okay. still feel like their is chains on me. so tell me what do you think? I am depesprate for answers.  It sounds like the dude has found someone else.
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Hold your head up Girl...realize that he is obviously not worthy of what you have to offer and it's time for you to find the one you deserve...have a blast in life, love your kids and make wonderful friends.....go dancing....laugh at the clouds, smile at the rain...and live
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Sounds like a garage sale with his ol' stuff is in order.
And time for you to move on. Good Luck |
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he's moved on and so should you. good luck
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There's no way we can fully answer why he did this... just speculate. I would assume he did things he plain can't admit to you and is hiding from it from you. It's easier than confronting to most people. I've had relationships where the guy just vanished without telling me why. It drove me to the brink of insanity. It just comes down to him being a coward.
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you already have all the answers you need.
get rid of the rest of his stuff,..( storage whatever ) and when he comes back crawling,.you can stand tall and walk away,.. |
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Well before he met me off and on he was haveing intamacy with his ex-girlfriend but they were not good at liveing together and it did not work for them atleast that is what he told me and then though even though they stayed friends after all this went down she let him come stay and sleep on her couch until he found out what was his problems and etc.. I just loved him and all that time we were together he said he loved me alot .. I just wont to know what to do..
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what would you tell your best friend to do,..if she was in the same situation
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Hi" Thanks for your reply to my post.. I wolud like to add you as a friend if that is okay. I wolud like to talk sometimes. What did you do to finally get things straight in your head and go on.. what can you do when you still have deep deep feeling for him? I pray for him often but I try to not let the bad things hurt me sometimes it is hard.. Hope to hear from you soon. Take cAre..
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Time .You need time .Takes me 2 years,2 years to forget ,plus 3year of sharing life together .5 years of my life wasted for a jerk. be smarter then I was
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Time .You need time .Takes me 2 years,2 years to forget ,plus 3year of sharing life together .5 years of my life wasted for a jerk. be smarter then I was exactly,..time is the only pill that works,..everyday is makes you stronger,..whether you feel it or not,.. there are many like him,..they just have a different face |
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Hi" Thanks for your reply to my post.. I wolud like to add you as a friend if that is okay. I wolud like to talk sometimes. What did you do to finally get things straight in your head and go on.. what can you do when you still have deep deep feeling for him? I pray for him often but I try to not let the bad things hurt me sometimes it is hard.. Hope to hear from you soon. Take cAre.. there is nothing I could do,..I pleaded my case to him,..to no avail,..I`ve have just had to learn to live with it,.. |
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Asking yourself "Why?" just gives you a headache. Take time to heal and move on. You may never get that answer. I didn't.
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Biker, I have an answer for you...
Its cause your are the cream, and was not able to handle you in all your supreme being ness. |
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Sometimes there's no understanding the mind of another person.
Sometimes it's best to let it alone and just move forward. Sometimes you need to seek help to get your head straight and if you have children in your life; that is the important thing. Obviously, there were "warning signs" before you became involved with him. Maybe you should start listening too them. I know it's hard when you are wanting someone in your life. But.....being in a relationship is not all there is in life. Some of them are unhealthy! Some people are bad, some are just bad for us! Learn to listen to your heart and your head. Stay open to hear the "warning bells" . Start asking yourself if there's something about yourself that is attracting someone like this last man. Maybe it's something broken in you that you need to work on.....take time for yourself. |
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Sometimes there's no understanding the mind of another person. Sometimes it's best to let it alone and just move forward. Sometimes you need to seek help to get your head straight and if you have children in your life; that is the important thing. Obviously, there were "warning signs" before you became involved with him. Maybe you should start listening too them. I know it's hard when you are wanting someone in your life. But.....being in a relationship is not all there is in life. Some of them are unhealthy! Some people are bad, some are just bad for us! Learn to listen to your heart and your head. Stay open to hear the "warning bells" . Start asking yourself if there's something about yourself that is attracting someone like this last man. Maybe it's something broken in you that you need to work on.....take time for yourself. this is going on the wall,.. 
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Some people prefer to completely disappear or go AWOL on someone they don't have the nuts to face and explain it's over. He just didn't have the heart to be on the up and tell you. That right there says it all, he didn't have heart. Good riddance!
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Edited by
xcite4ever
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Tue 10/28/08 01:12 PM
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Time .You need time .Takes me 2 years,2 years to forget ,plus 3year of sharing life together .5 years of my life wasted for a jerk. be smarter then I was ..was the complete 3 years of sharing life a complete waste..surely some of those years were productive/quality years..assuming 50% was a waste, well then, he's a jerk and responsible for wasting 1.5 years..not 5..the 2 years to forget - he is not directly responsible for. roco |
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