I love to text flirt... You can ask the akward questions and not have to feel so weird....

I totally agree!!

I think its really easy to text flirt...you just have to think about what to say. If they say something really cute...then you put *blushing*
I know the guys really like it
I am actually a texter more then a talker, I can express myself much better by writing then I can by talking...I know it sucks but hey!!
Good luck

Big fun. Try it.

I can hook up people at a party all night long but for myself panic city. I am glad I am not the only one who can flirt better on line than in person. Really bites that I am better at flirting with a husband but freeze up with strangers or a potential boyfriend. When I write I can get things organized but talking on a personal level ooooooh panic city.

well maybe I am the only one, but those littly faces creep me out.

Try not to over-use them...

Totally agree...that's why in real life they'd better be prepared for idiocy!

You know, I felt the same way. I'd always been morally oppossed to emoticons. It's like telling someone you're telling a joke. But, I can't come up with a better way to express the mood of what I'm trying to say.

If you have any suggestions I'd love to hear them.

To me they just seem childish, so it's not in any way a 'turn on' for a grown man to use them.

(my personal opinion)



It's tough to say Mr. Scoundrel - how about literally thinking to yourself "What would I be doing if we were together?" & doing your best to express that thought in words.

Hmmmm..., that probably wasn't much help I suppose!

I just use it to blow kisses sometimes. I think he likes it...cause he always kisses back.

I'll try and help in the best way that everyone will understand; a list!All of these are very general guidelines and may change depending on the specific situation. But for the majority, they apply. Just anytime you would use one of these emoticons, just do what I put next to them.

= hip nudge or playful push(a push that's hard enough to move them from their current position, but not hard enough to actually de-cleet them.)

= "What now?!" kind of face. Almost like an "I told you so". A very cocky face.

Kissy face = A special smirk in which you slightly turn your head and VERY slightly close your eyelids. Act as though you're posing for the cover of cosmo.

= A very genuine grin. This one is sold in the eyes. You have to try and get accross that your were truly touched by the other person. They sincerely made you happy.

= When someone gives you a compliment. Bashfully accept it. DO NOT PLAY IT OFF BY COMPLIMENTING THEM. The worse thing is when you give somebody a compliment and they don't even accept it. Just humbly say, "thank you so much." and move on.

= "What did you just say you want to do to that little girl?!" That's a no-no face. It comes natural to you, so don't worry about it.

= Very literal laugh out loud. This one is another one that comes natural.

= Make an unhappy smirk. It shows you have discontent with something but you're not completely frustrated with it. Then seem hesitant when you start talking about it.

= A very cocky grin. When you know you've done something cool or want to pretend you did such a thing and wish to jokily brag. Slowly shake your head vertically with a very cocky grin starring at the bottom of the horizon in front of you. Do not make eye contact, it shows that you feel as though you are their equal.

= This is when you make the stereotypical evil vilan laugh or pose. Place your fingers from each hand upon eachother, and periodically seperate them and unite them. Do this while slightly grinning while starring off into lala land.

= PLacing your upper lip behind your lower. This shows that you're not actually unhappy because it is an exageration.

= Face-palm!

Alright, I think I have listed the ones used most commonly in texts, e-mails, etc. I was suposed to go to sleep fifteen minutes before starting this, so off to bed! G'night everyone! Hope it helps.

Joke around using sarcasm and kinkiness. Not too much, but just enough to be a tease. And yes smiley faces work sometimes.

i think there are very, very few people who can write in obvious and non-offensive flirting form, when 'speaking' for the first time to unknown persons.

in my own observations, it's usually people who are skilled at english and creative writing. or perhaps i notice those types since that is where my own talent lays.

otherwise, it's something that becomes picked-up-on over time, of seeing the same people posting and getting to know their behaviours and/or mannerisms.

That's the catch...
You aren't in person, so you have to convey the body language - without the body. You have to - it's not about maturity, it's about communication.
...and nothing says you have to be worse at communicating as you grow older!!

Even for a master wordsmith...
(I am *cough* not only a masterdebater, but also a cunninglinguist, ladies )
...who can craft such works of captivating text that you can completely work around the use of sarcasm, irony, cynicism, exaggeration, or any other non-literal expression? You HAVE to use body language to get those non-verbal cues across.

In the most matter-of-fact, objective, and literal english possible, with no smiley faces - I'll say with a completely straight face that if you don't want to say it in person AND you want to get your point across in text - you'll have to use them, LOL, ROFL, haha, or other non-word expressives (call them whatever).

Check it out -
Even on the phone - you'll see - you'll catch yourself chuckling out-loud on the phone, where you might have just given your hip-bump or nudge in person.

So, if you send that body-language out-loud when you are on the phone, what's the hesitation to send them as text when you are typing?

Personally, I'd rather be a texting amateur and have the charisma of a celebrity in person, as opposed to vice versa!

Me too...I'll keep working on that :)