Topic: Would you go out with an alcoholic?
krupa's photo
Mon 12/22/08 07:10 PM
No offence. I do not view drinking as a disease. When a bill doesn't get paid...that is a choice. When a voice or a hand is raised in anger...that is a choice. When a loved one or a friend is neglected...that is a choice.

When someone does these things and blames another element of thier life...that is lack of self-control and a weak @ssed cop-out.

Our American culture (which I am a big fan of)..encourages us to have excuses for failures in our lives so as to not actually hold one's self personally accountable for the things we fail to do.

Alcoholism is as much a disease as lazyness (depression), having a wild child (media calls it A.D.D....I call it a lack of discipline) or Rage Syndrome (flat out just being a d!ck)

Plenty of you won't agree with me..and that is fine...Viva le Differe'nce..

I will just continue to try to be a good soul...that is the best I can do.

I will say this. I would rather date a drinker than a "Recovering Alcoholic"...a drinker is just being themselves...a "Recovering Alcoholic" already has an excuse for doing you wrong.

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Mon 12/22/08 07:25 PM

No offence. I do not view drinking as a disease. When a bill doesn't get paid...that is a choice. When a voice or a hand is raised in anger...that is a choice. When a loved one or a friend is neglected...that is a choice.

When someone does these things and blames another element of thier life...that is lack of self-control and a weak @ssed cop-out.

Our American culture (which I am a big fan of)..encourages us to have excuses for failures in our lives so as to not actually hold one's self personally accountable for the things we fail to do.

Alcoholism is as much a disease as lazyness (depression), having a wild child (media calls it A.D.D....I call it a lack of discipline) or Rage Syndrome (flat out just being a d!ck)

Plenty of you won't agree with me..and that is fine...Viva le Differe'nce..

I will just continue to try to be a good soul...that is the best I can do.

I will say this. I would rather date a drinker than a "Recovering Alcoholic"...a drinker is just being themselves...a "Recovering Alcoholic" already has an excuse for doing you wrong.


Excuse Me????

A recovering Alcoholic takes responsibilty for all their actions. I don't duck and hide behind my 'disease'. When I drank and used I had a excuse for why everything went wrong in my life, and it wasn't me.
What 'wrong doing' do you presume am I supposed to blame on my disease???

Sexyklp4U's photo
Mon 12/22/08 07:32 PM

No offence. I do not view drinking as a disease. When a bill doesn't get paid...that is a choice. When a voice or a hand is raised in anger...that is a choice. When a loved one or a friend is neglected...that is a choice.

When someone does these things and blames another element of thier life...that is lack of self-control and a weak @ssed cop-out.

Our American culture (which I am a big fan of)..encourages us to have excuses for failures in our lives so as to not actually hold one's self personally accountable for the things we fail to do.

Alcoholism is as much a disease as lazyness (depression), having a wild child (media calls it A.D.D....I call it a lack of discipline) or Rage Syndrome (flat out just being a d!ck)

Plenty of you won't agree with me..and that is fine...Viva le Differe'nce..

I will just continue to try to be a good soul...that is the best I can do.

I will say this. I would rather date a drinker than a "Recovering Alcoholic"...a drinker is just being themselves...a "Recovering Alcoholic" already has an excuse for doing you wrong.



it is a disease..look it up

MirrorMirror's photo
Mon 12/22/08 07:37 PM

laugh laugh

i guess if i had my choice of addictions..it would be sex out of all of them

laugh

drinks

biggrin
:laughing:

curios789's photo
Mon 12/22/08 07:38 PM
I already am. drinks

livelife68's photo
Mon 12/22/08 07:39 PM

No offence. I do not view drinking as a disease. When a bill doesn't get paid...that is a choice. When a voice or a hand is raised in anger...that is a choice. When a loved one or a friend is neglected...that is a choice.

When someone does these things and blames another element of thier life...that is lack of self-control and a weak @ssed cop-out.

Our American culture (which I am a big fan of)..encourages us to have excuses for failures in our lives so as to not actually hold one's self personally accountable for the things we fail to do.

Alcoholism is as much a disease as lazyness (depression), having a wild child (media calls it A.D.D....I call it a lack of discipline) or Rage Syndrome (flat out just being a d!ck)

Plenty of you won't agree with me..and that is fine...Viva le Differe'nce..

I will just continue to try to be a good soul...that is the best I can do.

I will say this. I would rather date a drinker than a "Recovering Alcoholic"...a drinker is just being themselves...a "Recovering Alcoholic" already has an excuse for doing you wrong.


<-------Takes full responsibility for all his actions and makes no excuses.

ambuh_massacre's photo
Mon 12/22/08 07:39 PM

I already am. drinks


I am not an alcoholic! :(

no photo
Mon 12/22/08 08:14 PM
<---- addiction(s) are not substance, but takes full responsibility for all her actions, makes no excuses, and realizes that it is dis-ease.

no photo
Mon 12/22/08 08:18 PM
I lived in a ex b/f's alcholic world for 6 yrs. will not ever go there again!

krupa's photo
Mon 12/22/08 08:22 PM
High Five Live Life! The man understands!

Calm down Michigan man....I wasn't blaming you for anything.

I was simply referring to my own personal past experience with people who blamed a lack of self control but called it a disease.

Encephilitis is a disease.
Gonorreah..is a disease.
Leprosy is a disease.

Not being in control of one's self ain't.

JustAGuy2112's photo
Mon 12/22/08 08:42 PM

drinks Would you go out with an alcoholic?drinksWhy or why not?drinks


Nope.

I don't drink very often, and I don't want someone who will wind up thinking I am boring just because I don't wanna go get trashed.

JustAGuy2112's photo
Mon 12/22/08 08:46 PM

High Five Live Life! The man understands!

Calm down Michigan man....I wasn't blaming you for anything.

I was simply referring to my own personal past experience with people who blamed a lack of self control but called it a disease.

Encephilitis is a disease.
Gonorreah..is a disease.
Leprosy is a disease.

Not being in control of one's self ain't.


Krupa, this would probably be the first time I have flat out had to disagree with something you have said.

Alcoholism is, indeed, a disease. Some are more prone to it than others.

Depression ( which you equated with just being lazy ) is also a disease in some cases. It's caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain. Some depression is strictly situational, but a lot of cases are caused by that imbalance.

JOY_OUS's photo
Mon 12/22/08 08:57 PM
I would not start a relationship nor could I date a practicing alcoholic, too many mood swings and unpredictable. Now if the person I dated turned into one it would be my duty to try to help as much as I could, but could not continue the relationship if they continued to drink

JOY_OUS's photo
Mon 12/22/08 09:03 PM

Clean and sober X 27 yrs.
, That is something to be proud of.

AngieH79's photo
Mon 12/22/08 09:03 PM
Edited by AngieH79 on Mon 12/22/08 09:05 PM
While I may not completely agree Krupa, I do understand where he is coming from. I think that some of diseases he listed are over-diagnosed. I've seen it often, especially with ADD and ADHD in kids.

I also understand the chemical imbalances in the brain and why things like alchoholism and depression are diseases. They are not labeled as diseases an excuse to contiue are actions, but rather as a reminder to always be aware of our actions to keeps from falling back into that pattern that creates the imbalance.


I would date a drinker.
I would date a recovering alcoholic.
I would not date a drunk.

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Mon 12/22/08 09:04 PM

Alcoholism is, indeed, a disease. Some are more prone to it than others.

Depression ( which you equated with just being lazy ) is also a disease in some cases. It's caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain. Some depression is strictly situational, but a lot of cases are caused by that imbalance.

I'm sure most of us wish we could do the same things others can and not get hooked; but for some of us, depending on genetics, biology, circumstances, and the environment we were raised in, doing the same could lead to devastation and/or ultimately, death - despite all the attempts at "will power" in the world. For many of us, it is not a reflection of character or a moral issue.

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Mon 12/22/08 09:05 PM

I would not start a relationship nor could I date a practicing alcoholic, too many mood swings and unpredictable. Now if the person I dated turned into one it would be my duty to try to help as much as I could, but could not continue the relationship if they continued to drink

brokenheart :cry:

JOY_OUS's photo
Mon 12/22/08 09:05 PM

Clean and sober X 27 yrs.
, That is something to be proud of.

txmomof2's photo
Mon 12/22/08 09:07 PM
yes as long as he realizes he has a problem

JOY_OUS's photo
Mon 12/22/08 09:09 PM
What is that suppose to mean?