So off of a different site, I have been talking to someone. Talked on the phone and agreed to meet. I was suppose to call him when I was finished getting ready and I did. I called and he didn't answer, so I left a message. I waited a half hour and tried again, still went to voice mail. So I am not desperate I went and did my own thing. He finally called at like 9:30, saying he was sorry and that his Aunt just died. I am not a heartless ***** but should I believe him. He did try rescheduling to meet. I just don't want to be a push over and give him another chance. My trust in guys is so low. A little help please, should I give him another chance.

i smell a rat...ive actually heard that story before.

Look for the obituary.

I thought of that, don't know that name

I doubt it,,, even if his aunt did die he should have had the decency, interest, maturity to give you a call and tell you so. Just think how a guy might even try to turn it his advantage.

be cautious....wondering why he didn't call earlier.

He should have called

Dog alert! Dog Alert!
PLAYER ON THE FIELD

sounds like mush to me !

I would of called!

Give him the benefit of the doubt but be cautious, maybe his aunt did died and he forgot to call not everyone acts the same in front of death.

lol no ladies responded him. He said his brother called and he had to ge to the hospital quick. He said that he ran out the door without his cell phone. I don't know he called and explained, said he had to go again and would call back and did. He just called me today like 5 min ago.

call his aunt

Smooth really smooth. Do you feel sorry for him?
You have to make your own choices.

One thing. If you do give him a second chance and he later exposes his "player" ways. Please give us a post.

i'd believe him and try to reschule another date, but i'd watch carefully for any signs that he was just full of it.

Offer to send flowers or a card to the funeral home, next time he calls. To ask for address of funeral home.

what she said

Sounds like the dude got cold feet and wussed out with a lame excuse.

However, if he DID ask to reschedule, the only thing you can do is give the dolt the benefit of a doubt and try again. Be sure to pump him for information about how said "aunt" died, but do so in a sympathetic, "I'm SO sorry for your loss..." kind of way, so you don't come across as being callous or something.

The truth is in the details- if he tells you what you need to know, then he's probably legit. If he's nebulous about various parts of his story (or even evades some of your questions), then he's full of malarkey and just wanted to get out of your first meeting.

How you go on from there is up to you.

Let's say it was true his aunt died, he couldnt have the courtesy to call you first and let you know?

I wouldn't...she doesnt even know the guy or met yet!