ok well I was gonna go to NJ to see my man an now I can't because my dad needs to use my car all of a sudden an kept coming up with excuses why I couldn't use it..even for the rest of the week. How the hell am I gonna find a job if I can't even use my car?!?! I'm so sick of my parents! I need to get out of here asap! They still treat me like I'm 12. I am 21 and an "adult" I should be able to go live my life. but No I have to deal with my parents hounding me about getting a job then tell me I can't use my car cause they need it! My mom has her own car my dad has his truck but his truck "isn't good in snow" I'm so sick of this crap!!

perhaps your man can come see you???

I'm afraid that as long as you live under their roof, you will be subject to their rules/mandates. 21 or not,,, it is their home.

he is in like 3 weeks! I just wanna get away...

I understand that... but they told me if I came back home they wouldn't treat me like a child!

Well?

Let's see...daughter is going off to somewhere else, to see her guy...and what's the odds that she will probably have good reasons to stay there, like maybe getting a job, and having a life of her own? Who knows when she will come back? We can genuinely fear that she might have an accident on the trip--either there or when she is coming back home--and this just isn't what we wanted for her at this very moment. It is so very hard to let go and to let life happen and to be good parents and step back out of the way.

So...

lol need that right now

Could they possibly be using the "need your car" excuse to keep you from going to see your man? Maybe they think you could use your time more wisely. Did you pay for the car?

I payed my dad back for it! I still own like $100 on it but he said not to worry about it! Its my car! But when I went to jobcorp we put it back in his name so we could work on it for me.

And you believed them? Really?

I haven't lived under the same roof as my parents in a quarter century for just that reason.

They just keep pushing me away! if they like it or not Im going to NJ with Randy when he comes to see me. He gave me the ok to move in, so Im gonna take it. there is nothing in ohio for me anymore! my family keeps pushing me away so screw it!

It's very difficult for parents to watch their children make poor choices.

they should let me learn on my own! isnt that what life is about? live an learn

the excuse about the truck? well we are expecting 10-12 inches of snow in Ohio tonight... I can see his point there.. But if you want advice? first don't do anything out of anger... simple enough. be sure of your options and what you do before you act out of rage/ being mad at the parents...

So move to NJ with Randy, have a couple of kids, and when Randy walks out on ya, move back in with your yucky parents. Or get a job and move out on your own for a while. Or join the military.

Maybe they treat you like a child, cause you act like a child? Thats how it used to work with us. Your parents want you to get a job and be independent I'm sure. And your still there at 21 years old. *shrugs* I moved out on my own at 18. Only went back when my father was sick with cancer. You have to take responsibility of your own actions. If you don't like the situation your in, get a job and move out on your own. Believe me, once your living in the 'real' world, the parents pad won't look so bad after all.

Usually they don't get it until they have kids of their own and the shoe is on the other foot.

ok but now I cant use my car to go look for a job. How dd I get a job with no car? I wanna get a job an live on my own

They don't have buses in your neck of the woods?