"And your so called friends pretend like they can't see it.
They defend the bastard until the end..."

Have you ever been in a situation where you were physically or emotionally abused but no one would help or aid you? How did you deal with that emotional black eye? Did you stand and fight, or abide and sit back?

Emotionally abused. I stood up and fought. I got the heck out. People still put the blame on me but I know the real reason I left and so did he. Now the naysayers are realizing it too.

Loaded and Locked Been there done that, will never let it happen again.

I will stand and fight til the end. I double dog dare some man to give me a black eye of any kind

I face this crap on the job all the time. There'll be some jerk-off with a penchant for brow-beating and downright insulting his workers (namely ME) for little reason at all. What's worse is that those lily-livered co-workers would be too chicken to speak up, so they don't.

I'll typically stand right up and tell the fool what for, even if it means I get fired from the job. There's no reason to take that kind of crap.

I've had a couple of relationships that have gone that way as well, which aren't fun either. It isn't fun when you're made the center of someone else's emotional troubled tirades.

I hid those Black Eye's and broken bones for a very long time,, and then one day,, I looked at my kids and realized this was doing more damage to them,, So I found the strength and packed up my children and have sense then learned to love me,, Forgive, yet never to forget,,

Emotionally stressed would be the best way to put it...wasn't really much I could do so I had to take it, but the situation was involving the people I had to be around daily, not a particular relationship. Thank God for time passing and being able to get out of and survive that situation though!

I so hate it when people try to cut you down because they don't feel secure in themselves. Shameful!

I think most of us have been physically or emotionally banged around at one time or another...I was fortunate enough to have help...

Yes, my ex father-in-law watched his son yell at me and hit me for about 15 minutes. I got to the phone and
called 911. Afterwards, he told me it was my fault for yelling back.
Said I "started it" and "asked for it".
I've not spoken to him since, except
for brief, polite hellos during sightings
of him at holidays.

He is a religious man as well.... saying
grace for up to ten minutes as restaurants.
Fvcking hypocrite. Of course, he is
sorta brain dead from all the drugs
and alcohol he abused in his life, and is definitely stupid. Not to mention a
hypocritical bastard.

I don't think it would ever be cool for a man to hit a woman...if a guy ever hit me, that would be the end of it right then and there. After I slugged him back of course...

wow, never understood that one and have heard it from both men and women - how the abused asked for it!!! I picture the abused walking up to abuser, would you please hit me?? Please hit me real hard!!!

Touche, Sister!

From the abuser:
"I'd love to beat you to a bloody pulp, it would feel so good because that is what you deserve."

This was about 7 years ago.

Last year I heard this:
"I've wanted you dead before, I still do. I've fantasized about killing you, over and over."


(This last statement was made in front of his wife and my son's psychologist)

From the same man, I should add. We broke up shortly after statement #1.

The difference between a sadist and a masochist:

The masochist says "Hurt me, hurt me"

The sadist says "No."











Sorry, couldn't resist.

YES! MY CHILDHOOD!!! AND I HAD TO EAT BOTH FORMS OF ABUSE AND NO ONE IN MY CHURCH DID A DAMN THING TO STOP IT!

Everyone felt Ritalin was what I needed to help me because I was "emotionally troubled."


GEEEEEEEEEE!

There are truly some sick individuals on the planet.

caught my women cheating wanted to go postal,unloaded my rifles and now relize im not the ****ed up one im the one who was trying to protect myself,mybe not the right way,but good always provails and i didint have to go on a rampage and hurt every body lol...... moment of clarity.sometimes its better to lay down your guns and walk away

Suppose I'm a rarity, I've always stood...both for myself and in defense of others, regardless of friends involved. You swing at a lady in my presence and respect goes out the window, then we can see if you can stand your own against a man.

Many fights from childhood, don't know much of before I was 14 but have heard I stood toe to toe with many of my mums ex's and a few friends. A lot of emotional turmoil can come from a 12-13 year old boy standing up to a 30-40 year old man...

Hell no, I didn't!!! I had one very horrible marriage to a total psycho! I didn't even realize how crazy he was until after we were married. The first slap, shocked the hell out of me, but I simply shrugged it off. The second more aggressive incident, I ran like hell just to find myself with no where to run, three small children, no money in pocket with no job! But the third time and there after until I finally got myself into a position that I could leave, I fought with everything that was in me! People started thinking I was the crazy one, because even other men were terrified to stand up to him! The police would come out, and instead of picking him up they would tell me that that kind of thing wouldn't happen to me if I would just learn to keep my mouth closed & obey him. The chief of police even stated that to me! Yeah, I wore a few black eyes, bruises on my face, body, even in my throat where he tried ripping my tonsils out & couldn't swallow for a week; but you know, everyone knew that someone or something had a hold of him too!! I never started it, but I damn sure didn't take it sitting down! I took my boys & ran like heck & the only time I ever looked back was to make sure he wasn't on my ass! I finally did go through the court system & they finally arrested him for all the counts! He spent some time & was suppose to pay me money, but I wasn't about to let him know anything about my where abouts! I didn't need the money that bad. Since all that, I have become an expert marksmen! Doesn't really matter what type of gun it is! I target practice with pistols, rifles, shotguns, black powder, cross bows, you name it & I know how to use it! Got my lic. to carry a concealed weapon, and became a lethal weapon through martial arts with one of the best masters in the US! I was extremely fortunate and grateful to him and all that he taught me! I came across a real pig one night that was a lot like my ex in a bar. When I decided to leave, him and his friend followed me to the parking lot thinking that they would have their way with me. Standing 5'2" & weighing 108 at the time, I was so proud that my training in martial arts paid off! In a matter of less than five minutes, the guy was on the ground passed out, and his friend who was almost to that point staggered off calling me crazy! Yeah, me the crazy one!!! lol!!! I'll take that title though when anyone man thinks he can man handle me! I damn sure hold my own & knowing the size of the guy on the ground that night; yeah, I have no doubts what so ever that size doesn't matter at all! lol I believe in my heart that one day my ex & I will end up crossing paths again; and you know, I have all the confidence in the world that when that day comes, he has an ass kickin from hell that this ***** will give to him alright! You know what they say about pay backs, & I know I can back that one up a 100%! lol That big ole boy will have to be telling all his friends that he got it from a girl!! LOL!!! Love it! ;)