Sometimes it's best to leave the past in the past

My ex is an ex for a reason. Point blank the only place she kept her pants on was home.

I like cheese.

A woman marries a man expecting he will change, but he doesn't.
A man marries a woman expecting that she won't change and she does.

I recently had a conversation with my ex that I never thought I'd have. She asked if we could try again.
Now, I'm a firm believer in the fact that it takes two to make a relationship as well as break it, so I have always taken my share of fault in our breakup. The way she went about it was ( let's say ) less than admirable.
She brought up the fact that the kids would want it. She brought up the idea of an easier financial situation for both of us and she actually used the term, " The grass isn't always greener...".
I turned her down.
I told her that I'm fine with who I am and I can't go back to where we were. She was visibly hurt by this, but said O.K. with dignity. I also let her know that we've actually been civil to each other this way.
Now when the phone rings and I see it's her, I hand the phone to one of the kids instead of just answering like before. It just feels wierd.
I'm not looking for advice. I know what I want. I just want some reaction or similar stories.

( Just for those who don't know me, I've had my sons for 5 to 6 days a week for the last 4 years. So I'm not just living a swingers life. )

A woman marries a man expecting he will change, but he doesn't.
A man marries a woman expecting that she won't change and she does.

I recently had a conversation with my ex that I never thought I'd have. She asked if we could try again.
Now, I'm a firm believer in the fact that it takes two to make a relationship as well as break it, so I have always taken my share of fault in our breakup. The way she went about it was ( let's say ) less than admirable.
She brought up the fact that the kids would want it. She brought up the idea of an easier financial situation for both of us and she actually used the term, " The grass isn't always greener...".
I turned her down.
I told her that I'm fine with who I am and I can't go back to where we were. She was visibly hurt by this, but said O.K. with dignity. I also let her know that we've actually been civil to each other this way.
Now when the phone rings and I see it's her, I hand the phone to one of the kids instead of just answering like before. It just feels wierd.
I'm not looking for advice. I know what I want. I just want some reaction or similar stories.

( Just for those who don't know me, I've had my sons for 5 to 6 days a week for the last 4 years. So I'm not just living a swingers life. )

From what she said... it sounds to me like she put a lot of thought into convincing you of all the other reasons you should be together instead of coming out and saying "I miss you and I want to be with you" If she was a coward in your relationship before, she's still a coward now.

That happen to me also and I said No too.....And I have to say it felt good lol:)

I admire your strength to know it won't be the right thing. Especially when there are kids involved, you don't want to make a decision like that lightly. It probably took them time to get used to the "new" situation. 2 years into it and mine are finally ok with the fact that Dad and Mom will never be together again.