As some know , i have really struggled coming up with a profile , this has caused me to wonder . How much do they really matter . someone could write all kinds of glorious things about themselves on their profile and molest sheep and drown kittens in their spare time . Dont know what caused me to think of this , just did , and thought I would toss it out there

For me, its all about the forums...im guilty of never checking ppl out, unless they have caught my interest via the forums.

and thats just cos im nosy!

I'm w/Pink Lady

I come here to share a laugh or two

Everyone has secrets.

i just check out their pics.i mean,what do i care what they have to say? if they're hot i'll go for it

i agree, i don't read them either, not lookin for anyone or anything and i'm here for the forums too

You know, I do the same thing! Especially if I see a person posting a lot of wonderful or funny or profound statements on the forums. Besides, the searches seem to turn up all of the same results, like there are very few newbies on this site... haven't done a search in like months!!

I really only look at the Mutual Match profiles anymore -- and they tend to be either empty or vapid or so full of cliches that they're generally not even worth taking the 5 seconds to read them.

I've always operated under the assumption that a profile could be useful thing to have, a place where you could say something about who you are and who you're looking for; maybe a little about your life and your ambitions and such.

Unfortunately, most people just use them as a means of displaying their inability to write anything even remotely interesting or informational....

If you are here to date, it means a lot. Your profile is your first opportunity to make an impression. If you are just here for the forums, it doesnt really make any difference, as people will learn about you through your posts.

Got tired of reading "I like the outdoors",and "I'm sensative yet independent"

Thats the problem, it seems that most people do not have the ability to write about themselves very well.

Is a blank profile better than a poorly written and unimaginative one?

I get mails congratulating me on mine now and again. Though unless its from a forum poster i always ignore them even though they have been nice!

my personal belief is that checking someone's profile is a cheap ass way of getting to know someone.

i like the normal interaction involved in the gradual process of getting to know someone over time.

i like the mushy feeling i get when someone remembered something about myself i said in passing 3 weeks ago because they care enough about me to notice and log it into memory

or when a close friend mentions the fact i can be bribed to do almost anything with the promise of ice cream not because i said so, but because he knows that from years of experience.

where's the sentimentality and effort if all one has to do is click on my picture to find out what my favourite colour is, or what kind of humour i enjoy, or whether i like sunsets or sunrises?

how do you seperate your close friends who know you better than you know yourself from people who can refer to your entire life story in your profile?

my attitude is if you can't be bothered to make the effort to get to know me, then you don't deserve to know me.

i say screw it and leave your profile blank

Im with this one too. Except its also true that some people will pass you by if you dont have a half decent profile and therefore your chances are limited. My profile on this site is the best i have ever had, i never put a great deal of effort into any previous ones. But because i was frequenting forums, i still got enough interest.

I flip that around the other way -- if they can't be bothered to put a little bit of information about themselves in their profiles, and if they can't be bothered to ensure that it's at least readable and marginally interesting, then they're telling me that it isn't worth my time and effort to try to get to know them.

This is a written medium -- profiles, forums, e-mails, etc. -- and, to me, that means, if they cared at all, they'd take the time to write something that conveys a sense of who they are, make it clear and legible and worth reading.

The reality of it, though, is that it rarely turns out that way -- most profiles are about as interesting and informative as the "Inspected By No. 24" slip of paper I found in my shoes.

So Lex, tell us more about this peice of paper in your shoe, it sounds really interesting...

I personally like to know if they "don't need drama" hate smokers, must live with in 50 miles, into motorcycles, want more kids, before I contact them. I have been fooled before.

While I tend to agree with you now, before I even knew about forums, the profile meant everything to me.

I'd have rather met up with a guy based on an interesting, articulate, and humourous profile and him be photoless, than a hunky, handsome guy with a two-word profile (both words being incorrectly spelled).

It's square, and it says "Inspected By No. 24." It was folded. I found it way up in the toe of the right shoe. The paper is white, and the text is black. Looks to be a standard font. No pictures, no signatures, no instructions.

Wow. I thought it would more likely be a sticker than folded paper. Square is quite a nice shape too. I find that most labels in my shoes are more rectangular. I wonder who No.24 is? Obviously a very intriguing and mysterious personality!

I do read peoples profiles and it gives me some insite to what they like and don't but I still like to interact with them to know them better.. I like to look into someones eyes, see their expressions and body language, hear their voice.. Even using a cam is better than just email(althought I do not have a cam at this time)