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Topic: Is there a general rule?
STARTRAVELER's photo
Fri 05/22/09 08:44 AM
Thank you kindly bigsmile flowerforyou Very nice of you to say !Medium Well it is drinker

peace_ful's photo
Fri 05/22/09 08:51 AM
your welcome. drinker

alternativa's photo
Fri 05/22/09 08:51 AM

How long should a person wait before meeting someone face to face. If living in same province, or few minutes away. Shouldn't you chat and get to know each other for awhile first or is it something that should be done right away in a public place and get any questions of attraction out of the way?


I prefer to meet right away because I prefer i person over computers or phones, but it's whatever you feel comfotable with. :smile:

ladywolf9653's photo
Fri 05/22/09 08:53 AM
I think the only rule should be what feels right for the two of you. Sometimes there's instant chemistry, and if you choose to meet in a public place to see if it is the same in person, who is to judge?

TxsSun's photo
Fri 05/22/09 08:54 AM

I like to take time getting to know someone as much as I can before meeting, that way the first date you will feel comfortable with more to talk about because you will be familiar with each other or after awhile of talking you may decide you don't want to meet them at all.



OH so THAT is what you are doing :wink:


laugh laugh laugh

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Fri 05/22/09 09:28 AM

How long should a person wait before meeting someone face to face. If living in same province, or few minutes away. Shouldn't you chat and get to know each other for awhile first or is it something that should be done right away in a public place and get any questions of attraction out of the way?


I think every situation is different, and a "general rule" would probably just mess things up the way most "general rules" tend to do.

I will say this -- I once met someone from a dating site two weeks after we first started communicating. That one turned out to be an arsonist, and she did NOT provide that information anywhere in her profile or in any of her pre-face-to-face comminications.

So, I have waited anywhere from two weeks to almost a year to meet someone in person. It hasn't made any difference in the outcomes of the relationships. But if I ever decided to meet someone from a dating site again, I would take my time.



Mr_Music's photo
Fri 05/22/09 09:32 AM
I don't know, I don't live in a province.

adj4u's photo
Fri 05/22/09 09:58 AM
general rule

is

they out rank anyone from private through coronal

but hey

what do i know

peace_ful's photo
Fri 05/22/09 10:42 AM


How long should a person wait before meeting someone face to face. If living in same province, or few minutes away. Shouldn't you chat and get to know each other for awhile first or is it something that should be done right away in a public place and get any questions of attraction out of the way?


I think every situation is different, and a "general rule" would probably just mess things up the way most "general rules" tend to do.

I will say this -- I once met someone from a dating site two weeks after we first started communicating. That one turned out to be an arsonist, and she did NOT provide that information anywhere in her profile or in any of her pre-face-to-face comminications.

So, I have waited anywhere from two weeks to almost a year to meet someone in person. It hasn't made any difference in the outcomes of the relationships. But if I ever decided to meet someone from a dating site again, I would take my time.



I hear that loud and clear, thanks

The1WhoLuvsU's photo
Fri 05/22/09 10:42 AM
The sooner the better.

EZ4Sheezy's photo
Fri 05/22/09 11:39 AM

Just do it. Get it over with and then you won't have to worry about it.


I agree. Why are people so damnn scared to meet in person? Odds are that you run by hundreds of guys every day. Are you afraid of them? So why would you be afraid to meet some guy you've exchanged a few e mails with? Unless he's already said that he planned to rape and kill you and eat your brain. In that case, I recommend you not meet with them ever. But there's nothing scary about meeting at a coffee shop. Why wait?

EZ4Sheezy's photo
Fri 05/22/09 11:40 AM

I prefer to meet right away because I prefer i person over computers or phones, but it's whatever you feel comfotable with. :smile:


Well in that case you should've been in Atlanta 3 1/2 weeks ago. :wink:

alternativa's photo
Fri 05/22/09 12:40 PM


I prefer to meet right away because I prefer i person over computers or phones, but it's whatever you feel comfotable with. :smile:


Well in that case you should've been in Atlanta 3 1/2 weeks ago. :wink:


Just waiting for my formal invite. Say the word and I'll make arrangements to come. I'm very much looking forward to finally meeting you. :smile:

PATSFAN's photo
Fri 05/22/09 12:42 PM
flowerforyou Another Mingle love story unfoldsflowerforyou

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Fri 05/22/09 12:45 PM

flowerforyou Another Mingle love story unfoldsflowerforyou



Yes! smitten I believe that something inside me just fluttered... No...wait a minute...it's just gas...

alternativa's photo
Fri 05/22/09 12:49 PM
:laughing: Love? I guess you didn't note the age difference, the travel distance, and that I'm not capable of being in THAT kind of relationship without screwing it up so I gave up.

Besies, I'm not qualified to interest him in that way.

Let's not start a soap opera here, please. flowerforyou

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Fri 05/22/09 12:51 PM

:laughing: Love? I guess you didn't note the age difference, the travel distance, and that I'm not capable of being in THAT kind of relationship without screwing it up so I gave up.

Besies, I'm not qualified to interest him in that way.

Let's not start a soap opera here, please. flowerforyou




Lighten up...very few of us take this crap seriously...it's a JOKE...

franshade's photo
Fri 05/22/09 12:51 PM
as a general rule - I normally dont follow rules, prefer my own instincts.


PATSFAN's photo
Fri 05/22/09 12:51 PM
shocked I heard thingswhoa













Kidding:laughing:

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