If you're in a relationship and you know that you both love eachother but you know that you want to get married sooner than the other person would that be a red flag or is it worth waiting for?
Say they told you they want to eventually but you know in your heart you want it much sooner?

is there a pre-nub involved

Sweetheart only you can answer that. If you believe them and love them, maybe waiting is the answer. If your gut is telling you, they aren't serious, it's time to move on. But only you will know for sure. Real love has no time table, no clock, no agenda.

C

if you get married before the other is ready...then it won't turn out well. give it time. love is worth waiting for. just enjoy each other until you both are ready. JMO

don't rush it...........it'll happen soon enough.........enjoy your single life as much as possible.........

Perhaps ask yourself why you have this urgency to marry that person? COuld it be based in insecurity?

If so, not a great reason to marry.

If this person is the one you know you want to spend the rest of your life with, (or a fairly large portion of it, to have children with, share adventures with...etc etc...) then get on with enjoying your life together, and concern yourself with the party (wedding) later.


You are either both comitted now, or you aren't... and a wedding wont fix it.

Good advice ladies

depends if the person is dragging their feet because they have their life planned and goals to accomplish first...or if they're just putting you off and their reasons make no sense...good luck

I guess my biggest concern is that it will "never" happen and then the more time i invest i will be crushed. I dont want it for a few years anyhow but i think he has a much longer plan.

Oh well love is love i have to be patient but i also don't want to throw my own happiness out the window at someone elses cost either

Jamie, why do you need to be married?

How is what you have now any different, to after the party?


Be in it NOW. Tomorrow hasnt happened yet.

I may be totally off base here but I would ask,,,
why he isn't ready now
is he waiting for something in particular like finishing school
does he want financial stability that isn't "quite there yet"
have you given him a reason to not be ready yet

and if you feel there's a possibility of never, maybe you should take a good look at the situation?

Like i said i don't want it now but everyone know whether marriage is something they want one day or not. I know that i do, just dont want him to tell me years down the road, Uh i still cant do it.
thanks for your advice

screw that

push em

nag until they give in

..........or run away!!!!!

Everyone's different. For me, I would never wait YEARS to marry someone. I'm too old for that! If we have different life goals, that's a red flag for me that it's time to move on.

Marriage is a red flag

6 mos it a set time table,at that time you should know what is going on !

Let me add the age thing!

When we were younger,we had time to wait,an now...we just want to be happy an laugh...we are able to deal the hard time's...as long as you are happy an have the understanding about everyday life!!!

Hell i Like my last name...Who said marriage

PATIENCE