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Topic: Men/rejection
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Mon 09/07/09 10:59 AM
Feedback time guys. How many of you have not asked a woman out because you just assumed she would say no?
Does fear of rejection stop you from approaching? Just want to get the male's point of view since I have a girl-brain.

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Mon 09/07/09 11:02 AM
yup,frustrated

Beavis31's photo
Mon 09/07/09 11:06 AM
PPO's and restraining orders usually keep me from approaching... but over time that has happened to me...

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Mon 09/07/09 11:07 AM
Hell no I wpold ask U out anytime!!

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Mon 09/07/09 11:09 AM

Hell no I wpold ask U out anytime!!


What did you have planned?

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Mon 09/07/09 11:14 AM
just make him leave his doll at home !laugh

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Mon 09/07/09 11:17 AM

just make him leave his doll at home !laugh


But isn't it proper to have a chaperone on the first date?

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Mon 09/07/09 11:17 AM
I think there are many women who don't ask men out for fear of rejection as well.

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Mon 09/07/09 11:19 AM

Feedback time guys. How many of you have not asked a woman out because you just assumed she would say no?
Does fear of rejection stop you from approaching? Just want to get the male's point of view since I have a girl-brain.





It has never stopped me from asking. I find that situation the most fun, maybe challenging. You have to watch your every word and play the game right with a woman who you "think" is going to say no.


So yes - I have approached women with the initial thought of having no chance - but it has never flat out stopped from trying to get what i want.



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Mon 09/07/09 11:20 AM
Yes men sometimes are very scared of rejection

But I am too

It's a human thing

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Mon 09/07/09 11:20 AM
unless you've already got a lot of emotional investment in a girl (or guy) which most likely isn't the case if you haven't ask her out yet, then i don't imagine rejection - if it happens - could really hurt all that much.

i guess there's the initial embarassed stage but that quickly passes and the chances of your scoring will be nil anyway if you don't try at all. at least by approaching, you have some shot at her, even if you don't think there's a hope in hell.

at least that's the way i always felt about approaching a guy who catches my eye.

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Mon 09/07/09 11:22 AM


Feedback time guys. How many of you have not asked a woman out because you just assumed she would say no?
Does fear of rejection stop you from approaching? Just want to get the male's point of view since I have a girl-brain.





It has never stopped me from asking. I find that situation the most fun, maybe challenging. You have to watch your every word and play the game right with a woman who you "think" is going to say no.


So yes - I have approached women with the initial thought of having no chance - but it has never flat out stopped from trying to get what i want.

Didn't realize it was a game, or is that just a figure of speech for you?




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Mon 09/07/09 11:22 AM
Edited by IntriguingVictory on Mon 09/07/09 11:27 AM

unless you've already got a lot of emotional investment in a girl (or guy) which most likely isn't the case if you haven't ask her out yet, then i don't imagine rejection - if it happens - could really hurt all that much.

i guess there's the initial embarassed stage but that quickly passes and the chances of your scoring will be nil anyway if you don't try at all. at least by approaching, you have some shot at her, even if you don't think there's a hope in hell.

at least that's the way i always felt about approaching a guy who catches my eye.





I agree.


I dont feel a fear of rejection with some woman I don't even know. So approaching them and at least asking I wouldnt feel a fear of rejection.

Of course it's awkward for a minute if she says no- say something funny, try to make it not awkward. All you can do

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Mon 09/07/09 11:23 AM



Feedback time guys. How many of you have not asked a woman out because you just assumed she would say no?
Does fear of rejection stop you from approaching? Just want to get the male's point of view since I have a girl-brain.





It has never stopped me from asking. I find that situation the most fun, maybe challenging. You have to watch your every word and play the game right with a woman who you "think" is going to say no.


So yes - I have approached women with the initial thought of having no chance - but it has never flat out stopped from trying to get what i want.






Didn't realize it was a game, or is that just a figure of speech for you?

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Mon 09/07/09 11:26 AM




Feedback time guys. How many of you have not asked a woman out because you just assumed she would say no?
Does fear of rejection stop you from approaching? Just want to get the male's point of view since I have a girl-brain.





It has never stopped me from asking. I find that situation the most fun, maybe challenging. You have to watch your every word and play the game right with a woman who you "think" is going to say no.


So yes - I have approached women with the initial thought of having no chance - but it has never flat out stopped from trying to get what i want.






Didn't realize it was a game, or is that just a figure of speech for you?






Life is like a game. We are all players in a big game. I'm trying to sell myself as a person this woman should give a chance. There are many dynamics to it that are game like.


You can take it to mean something degrading or insulting - but that is not how I mean it at all.



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Mon 09/07/09 11:33 AM
I look at it like this. There are two answers to every question. Therefore, you have a 50/50 chance. Don't be afraid of either answer because my only fear isn't losing, it's knowing I never even tried. :tongue:

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Mon 09/07/09 11:34 AM
I'm not afraid to ask a man out.

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Mon 09/07/09 11:50 AM
The arrogant ones never assume she'll say no. Those are the ones I just looooove to shoot down. I despise an arrogant man.

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Mon 09/07/09 11:52 AM

The arrogant ones never assume she'll say no. Those are the ones I just looooove to shoot down. I despise an arrogant man.





So you are a mind reader? You can tell when they approach you if they think NO ONE is going to say no to them?


Or how does that work?



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Mon 09/07/09 11:53 AM





Feedback time guys. How many of you have not asked a woman out because you just assumed she would say no?
Does fear of rejection stop you from approaching? Just want to get the male's point of view since I have a girl-brain.





It has never stopped me from asking. I find that situation the most fun, maybe challenging. You have to watch your every word and play the game right with a woman who you "think" is going to say no.


So yes - I have approached women with the initial thought of having no chance - but it has never flat out stopped from trying to get what i want.






Didn't realize it was a game, or is that just a figure of speech for you?






Life is like a game. We are all players in a big game. I'm trying to sell myself as a person this woman should give a chance. There are many dynamics to it that are game like.


You can take it to mean something degrading or insulting - but that is not how I mean it at all.





Didn't take it the wrong way, that's why I asked for clarification. Good point about life being a game. It seems that way sometimes. Some will win, some will lose.

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