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The arrogant ones never assume she'll say no. Those are the ones I just looooove to shoot down. I despise an arrogant man. oh wow, those are the ones who i find the most intriguing and irresistable. they ooze of confidence. unless of course they are arrogant 'nice guys' - those ones just can't pull off that cool, sure and cocky attitude. |
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and the chances of your scoring..... [/unquote]
This is why I DO have problems asking women out as way too many women (and with good reason) tend to automatically assume yuo are out for one thing and one thing only, and thus have closed their minds to the possibility. Or they have tried to remain open, and been hurt, and now look to hurt those who they think are trying to hurt them again. As a race, we need to learn to be more respectful of everyone else, and polite. We need to learn that other people have feelings that can be hurt just as easily as our own can be. |
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Feedback time guys. How many of you have not asked a woman out because you just assumed she would say no? Does fear of rejection stop you from approaching? Just want to get the male's point of view since I have a girl-brain. Fear of rejection might have had a say but I am usually realistic, I know who i am and what i can offer so that is the main reason. |
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The arrogant ones never assume she'll say no. Those are the ones I just looooove to shoot down. I despise an arrogant man. oh wow, those are the ones who i find the most intriguing and irresistable. they ooze of confidence. unless of course they are arrogant 'nice guys' - those ones just can't pull off that cool, sure and cocky attitude. Yeah, I don't find them attractive- at all. I like men who are humble. |
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The arrogant ones never assume she'll say no. Those are the ones I just looooove to shoot down. I despise an arrogant man. So you are a mind reader? You can tell when they approach you if they think NO ONE is going to say no to them? Or how does that work? Nope, but I can read; so I can tell from their posts if they're arrogant or not. 
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Feedback time guys. How many of you have not asked a woman out because you just assumed she would say no? Does fear of rejection stop you from approaching? Just want to get the male's point of view since I have a girl-brain. For a lot of guys, it's not only the rejection itself that keeps them from asking in the first place. For some, it's the level of classlessness involved in some of the rejections. Some guys figure that there are only so many times they are willing to be looked at like **** on a shoe or personally insulted before they just say screw it and give up. |
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Feedback time guys. How many of you have not asked a woman out because you just assumed she would say no? Does fear of rejection stop you from approaching? Just want to get the male's point of view since I have a girl-brain. For a lot of guys, it's not only the rejection itself that keeps them from asking in the first place. For some, it's the level of classlessness involved in some of the rejections. Some guys figure that there are only so many times they are willing to be looked at like **** on a shoe or personally insulted before they just say screw it and give up. for some men, any rejection is "classless" because it's not what they want to hear. anytime you don't give a person who feels entitled to something what they want, they're pissed, so I don't think it matters how you turn them down. i got an email from someone once and i thanked them for their compliment and they still got mad because of "how i put it" so i could have just ignored them- which would have made me a b!tch in their eyes, but to them I was one anyway. you can't win with arrogant, entitled people. |
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The arrogant ones never assume she'll say no. Those are the ones I just looooove to shoot down. I despise an arrogant man. So you are a mind reader? You can tell when they approach you if they think NO ONE is going to say no to them? Or how does that work? Nope, but I can read; so I can tell from their posts if they're arrogant or not.  I thought we were talking real life situation - not posting or emailing on the internet, where you dont actually "approach" a woman. I just assumed the original question was in person circumstances. If you meant on here - then I understand your point. 
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The arrogant ones never assume she'll say no. Those are the ones I just looooove to shoot down. I despise an arrogant man. So you are a mind reader? You can tell when they approach you if they think NO ONE is going to say no to them? Or how does that work? Nope, but I can read; so I can tell from their posts if they're arrogant or not. I thought we were talking real life situation - not posting or emailing on the internet, where you dont actually "approach" a woman. I just assumed the original question was in person circumstances. If you meant on here - then I understand your point. 
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I'll ask a guy out... if you don't ask the answer is already no. But they never really say no to me so I have to choose carefully
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Edited by
MelodyGirl
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Mon 09/07/09 01:58 PM
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I usually have to do the asking. If I waited around, I would date even less than I do now.
 When I find someone of interest, I send the signals. The problem is I might not be their type or they might be attached. I can’t take it personally. The window of attraction, availability and timing are so delicate! I would hope I am approachable enough for a guy to ask me out. I keep reading this thread to get a guy's perspective. More feedback from the guys ... 
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AND I agree with Calleigh... arrogant guys are a definite no, you need some humility to not come across as a total d-bag
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I'll ask a guy out... if you don't ask the answer is already no. But they never really say no to me so I have to choose carefully how lovely for you
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I'll ask a guy out... if you don't ask the answer is already no. But they never really say no to me so I have to choose carefully how lovely for you Trust me, I only ask if I'm about 90% sure the answer will be yes... I don't waste my time with wishy-washy guys |
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I'll ask a guy out... if you don't ask the answer is already no. But they never really say no to me so I have to choose carefully how lovely for you Trust me, I only ask if I'm about 90% sure the answer will be yes... I don't waste my time with wishy-washy guys Oh to hell with the wishy-washy guys!  I've have met way too many of those in my lifetime. That MIGHT be one of the biggest turn-offs. 
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Melody guys like that wouldn't know what to do with a woman of our caliber even if they had an instruction manual
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Have been blessed with the gift to gab, there is usually a comfort level i have with a woman before asking her out, so i can usually tell what her answer will be, of coarse i have been rejected at times, but as the saying goes there are other fish in the sea, never could understand why people get all upset because someone you hardly know don't want to go out with them.
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Edited by
MelodyGirl
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Mon 09/07/09 02:14 PM
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Melody guys like that wouldn't know what to do with a woman of our caliber even if they had an instruction manual I don't think their being wishy-washy has anything to do with me though. I just think, like some people, they just don't know what they want from life.
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Whats a "wishy-washy" guy?
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Edited by
MelodyGirl
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Mon 09/07/09 02:22 PM
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Whats a "wishy-washy" guy? He's like a wax-on; wax-off kind of guy with a little more swish than swash!  Um, just someone that can't make up their mind. They flirt, act interested, but when the opportunity arises, they chicken out, change their minds, etc. They like the thrill of the hunt but when the times comes to step up and make a commitment -- their balls shrink up!  Keep in mind, I know that women can be just as bad. 
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