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Topic: Again, for the guys
biglife Joined Sat 08/29/09 Posts: 837	Sat 09/19/09 11:33 AM
I was chatting the other day with a male freind. He is having some serious marital issues and ended up buying a book that he thought would enable him to understand women better and anticipate his wife's needs in order to make the marriage work. There was one point he made that made me sit up and take notice. He said that in his eyes and many of his male friend's eyes, most women have a hidden agenda. This agenda could mean many different things. Do you think the same way?

tohyup Joined Wed 08/12/09 Posts: 1488	Sat 09/19/09 11:36 AM
Absolutely not . I knew of no hidden agendas in all my past relationships . If you are married you are supposed to work hard to make the family be together and be happy .

anthsm22 Joined Mon 12/24/07 Posts: 727	Sat 09/19/09 11:41 AM
My exgf definatley had an agenda!!!! In my marriage of 10 yrs, I dont think she had an agenda, but had expectations that were materialistic. I dont think all women have agendas or alterior motives, but I would have to say that if they dont, then there is a very high percentage that have high expectations. JMO

Ladylid2012 Joined Sun 07/05/09 Posts: 42269	Sat 09/19/09 11:42 AM
(peeking)

Phuque Joined Mon 11/17/08 Posts: 14151	Sat 09/19/09 11:49 AM
My only agenda is that they can read... BTW...kudos to your friend for at least trying by buying a book...

GRIFFIN_LIZZARD Joined Mon 02/16/09 Posts: 7186	Sat 09/19/09 11:50 AM
My only agenda is that they can read... BTW...kudos to your friend for at least trying by buying a book... I can reed vewy wel jost cant rite too gud.

biglife Joined Sat 08/29/09 Posts: 837	Sat 09/19/09 11:55 AM
My only agenda is that they can read... BTW...kudos to your friend for at least trying by buying a book... That's what I told him. He's the last person I would have thought would do this. He's told me a lot about what he's learned from reading it, and I am truly amazed at the accurate info that it contains. And it was written by a man!

newarkjw Joined Sun 05/25/08 Posts: 17172	Sat 09/19/09 11:57 AM
I can only speak from personal experience. It does happen and it stings. I don't think this applies to "most" women however. You can read all the books in the world but that only teaches you how to deal with the problem............

cincycat Joined Fri 06/22/07 Posts: 325	Sat 09/19/09 12:05 PM
reading a book can only go so far

biglife Joined Sat 08/29/09 Posts: 837	Sat 09/19/09 12:10 PM
reading a book can only go so far yes, you're right. What I'm trying to put across is the initial question.

cincycat Joined Fri 06/22/07 Posts: 325	Sat 09/19/09 12:13 PM
reading a book can only go so far yes, you're right. What I'm trying to put across is the initial question. i don't think the same way...both have to work hard everyday to make marriage work and too be happy...and btw, what exactly is the problem in his marriage...not being nosy, just might be able to understand better, if you want to share, if not..cool

TxsGal3333 Joined Tue 09/05/06 Posts: 76366	Sat 09/19/09 12:14 PM
My only agenda is that they can read... BTW...kudos to your friend for at least trying by buying a book... That's what I told him. He's the last person I would have thought would do this. He's told me a lot about what he's learned from reading it, and I am truly amazed at the accurate info that it contains. And it was written by a man! All I can say is kuddos to him for wanting to try to keep his marriage together if more tried both men/women as hard to keep it together as they do splitting it up maybe more marriages would last longer....... Myself I don't feel that I have and hidden agenda heck mine are all laid out in the open from the beginning....

biglife Joined Sat 08/29/09 Posts: 837	Sat 09/19/09 12:19 PM
reading a book can only go so far yes, you're right. What I'm trying to put across is the initial question. i don't think the same way...both have to work hard everyday to make marriage work and too be happy...and btw, what exactly is the problem in his marriage...not being nosy, just might be able to understand better, if you want to share, if not..cool this thread is not about marriage and how to make one work. Please read thr topic question again

cincycat Joined Fri 06/22/07 Posts: 325	Sat 09/19/09 12:21 PM
reading a book can only go so far yes, you're right. What I'm trying to put across is the initial question. i don't think the same way...both have to work hard everyday to make marriage work and too be happy...and btw, what exactly is the problem in his marriage...not being nosy, just might be able to understand better, if you want to share, if not..cool this thread is not about marriage and how to make one work. Please read thr topic question again you wrote"make the marriage work"

eileena9 Joined Fri 04/13/07 Posts: 28211	Sat 09/19/09 12:26 PM
reading a book can only go so far yes, you're right. What I'm trying to put across is the initial question. i don't think the same way...both have to work hard everyday to make marriage work and too be happy...and btw, what exactly is the problem in his marriage...not being nosy, just might be able to understand better, if you want to share, if not..cool this thread is not about marriage and how to make one work. Please read thr topic question again you wrote"make the marriage work" She was saying that her friend bought the book to help make his marriage work. She did not ask if anyone had any ideas on how to help them. Her question was He said that in his eyes and many of his male friend's eyes, most women have a hidden agenda. This agenda could mean many different things. Do you think the same way?

biglife Joined Sat 08/29/09 Posts: 837	Sat 09/19/09 12:27 PM
reading a book can only go so far yes, you're right. What I'm trying to put across is the initial question. i don't think the same way...both have to work hard everyday to make marriage work and too be happy...and btw, what exactly is the problem in his marriage...not being nosy, just might be able to understand better, if you want to share, if not..cool this thread is not about marriage and how to make one work. Please read thr topic question again you wrote"make the marriage work" She was saying that her friend bought the book to help make his marriage work. She did not ask if anyone had any ideas on how to help them. Her question was He said that in his eyes and many of his male friend's eyes, most women have a hidden agenda. This agenda could mean many different things. Do you think the same way? Thanks for clarifying. Maybe NOW he will understand.

eileena9 Joined Fri 04/13/07 Posts: 28211	Sat 09/19/09 12:29 PM
No problem, hun!

cincycat Joined Fri 06/22/07 Posts: 325	Sat 09/19/09 12:29 PM
reading a book can only go so far yes, you're right. What I'm trying to put across is the initial question. i don't think the same way...both have to work hard everyday to make marriage work and too be happy...and btw, what exactly is the problem in his marriage...not being nosy, just might be able to understand better, if you want to share, if not..cool this thread is not about marriage and how to make one work. Please read thr topic question again you wrote"make the marriage work" She was saying that her friend bought the book to help make his marriage work. She did not ask if anyone had any ideas on how to help them. Her question was He said that in his eyes and many of his male friend's eyes, most women have a hidden agenda. This agenda could mean many different things. Do you think the same way? ok..ok...we're human.. we read more than we should sometimes

Boobella Joined Wed 09/02/09 Posts: 361	Sat 09/19/09 12:30 PM
Most women have a hidden agenda nope I don't but it can be said that most men have hidden agenda like how fast they can get your butt in their bed true!!!!

biglife Joined Sat 08/29/09 Posts: 837	Sat 09/19/09 12:31 PM
Most women have a hidden agenda nope I don't but it can be said that most men have hidden agenda like how fast they can get your butt in their bed true!!!! True, but there's nothing hidden about that.