I want to be the world to one person.....and not one person to the whole world. Is that so much to ask? Why is it so hard to find someone that's "real" who has a no ******** attitude and isn't in it for the hit it and quit it lifestyle. When i'm in a relationship I invest my whole self into it... I just want to be able to share my heart with someone who is worthy.

I want to be the world to one person.....and not one person to the whole world. Is that so much to ask? Why is it so hard to find someone that's "real" who has a no ******** attitude and isn't in it for the hit it and quit it lifestyle. When i'm in a relationship I invest my whole self into it... I just want to be able to share my heart with someone who is worthy.

Okay. Time for some schooling here. Yes, I am about to rant.

I am growing tired of this whole "I want a guy that is real" thing that seems to be like a hot topic here on Mingle lately. Used to be the topic was "Why do women like bad boys?", but now we have this current topic. Know why I am growing tired of it? It is simple. Because it seems that when someone posts this topic, they are either very young, or just had there heart broken, or blah, blah, blah.

Listen. The whole concept of being with someone is based around wanting to either compliment them, or (for the OP) wanting to be there world. No matter how you say it, don't you think that this is what the majority of people want?

Bad things happen to good people, especially in dating. I have had my heart broken before, and you know what (and I am not proud of it) I have broken someone's heart as well (I knew it was the best for us both, but it still hurt). Yes, people get frustrated because they are looking and then...BAM...they believe they have found the right one. They give of themselves, and feel that they have found true love...only to have it blow up in there face.

I am ranting because I feel that life is way too darn short to be whining here. I can sit back, complain, whine that there are nothing but bad women out there, but you know something? I don't do that. Look, I was married to a woman for nine years, and I dated her six years before we got married. I spent half of my life with this woman, thinking she was the one. Only, in the end, she decided I wasn't, and it took her two months to replace me. That hurt, and I dealt with it and moved on. Was it easy? Hell no it wasn't. But I am not about to let my life stop because of something that she decided. She didn't want me anymore. Ok, well, deal with it and move along, and that is what I did.

My point is this. Life is about a journey. Yes, you want someone to love, and I am happy you want that. I want the same thing (one day). But instead of getting frustrated and venting, just live life man. Have fun. Date some guys, and don't think that each one has the potential to be the guy you think is right for you. Heck, you might meet the man of your dreams on this site. It can happen. Take care of you for now, and when the right guy comes along, you will know what to do.

That whole concept just freaks, and creeps me out.


If I happen apon someone who I feel good about, and comfortable with to keep.. I dont wanna be anything but a compliment to their life.


I dont wanna be anyones world.. thats crazy.


You might expect that from a young child,.. but even that child will need more than that eventually.


Everyone in MY world needs to have their own life, and the majority of their world better not be me.. besides.. who the hell needs all that pressure?

Obsession? NO THANKS!

Inevitably both parties will be disapointed. Sounds co-dependant.

Personally, I cant make relatioship plans without a partner.

Whats wanted? The partner? or the idea of having one, and the romantisisim of it all?

Okay. Time for some schooling here. Yes, I am about to rant.

I am growing tired of this whole "I want a guy that is real" thing that seems to be like a hot topic here on Mingle lately. Used to be the topic was "Why do women like bad boys?", but now we have this current topic. Know why I am growing tired of it? It is simple. Because it seems that when someone posts this topic, they are either very young, or just had there heart broken, or blah, blah, blah.

Listen. The whole concept of being with someone is based around wanting to either compliment them, or (for the OP) wanting to be there world. No matter how you say it, don't you think that this is what the majority of people want?

Bad things happen to good people, especially in dating. I have had my heart broken before, and you know what (and I am not proud of it) I have broken someone's heart as well (I knew it was the best for us both, but it still hurt). Yes, people get frustrated because they are looking and then...BAM...they believe they have found the right one. They give of themselves, and feel that they have found true love...only to have it blow up in there face.

I am ranting because I feel that life is way too darn short to be whining here. I can sit back, complain, whine that there are nothing but bad women out there, but you know something? I don't do that. Look, I was married to a woman for nine years, and I dated her six years before we got married. I spent half of my life with this woman, thinking she was the one. Only, in the end, she decided I wasn't, and it took her two months to replace me. That hurt, and I dealt with it and moved on. Was it easy? Hell no it wasn't. But I am not about to let my life stop because of something that she decided. She didn't want me anymore. Ok, well, deal with it and move along, and that is what I did.

My point is this. Life is about a journey. Yes, you want someone to love, and I am happy you want that. I want the same thing (one day). But instead of getting frustrated and venting, just live life man. Have fun. Date some guys, and don't think that each one has the potential to be the guy you think is right for you. Heck, you might meet the man of your dreams on this site. It can happen. Take care of you for now, and when the right guy comes along, you will know what to do.

JUST ENJOYING THE RIDE CAN BE SO FULFILLING! KUDOS TO YOU FOR TAKING THE TIME TO SCHOOL EM!!!

You be you, my dear. The right one will understand. Don;t let the strong OPINIONS of some here who have had bad times deter you. They are not right for you...entitled to their opinions...and that;s all. It amazes how many aren't content to simply qualify there rants with a "for me" or "sometimes" and such.
No, they state categorically...you're a fool...they're right. Dismiss them. Live your life...your dreams.
You'll be fine...And never, never give up or grow so bitter. Good luck here, and in your pursuit of worthy dreams...that can be reality.
I must stand in complete agreement. Now this is the kind of counsel you should pay heed to. Do not accept second best in your dream, let your dream get bigger and nurture it, your caring for that dream will encourage unworthy fools to vent their bitterness. Be strong.

It's true, rockette; most lovers just want to shaft you. No pun intended. They come to you from the front with open arms and luv in their eyes, and the moment you turn around, they stick it into you (no pun intended) and then a little while late they leave by the back door, the same way that they'd entered. (No pun intended.)

They all should be hanged. The sad thing is that the men who do that sort of thing to many women and get away with are already hung. (No pun intended.)

You're so funny and right on!

Awww... a person with a sense of humour? OOeeey, you made my day. I find usually 1 laughter for every 1000 jokes I crack, internet or in person, does not seem to matter. :smittten: :erection:

Wow. Never did I for a moment think that this metaphor would be taken so horribly out of context. Of course no one wants to be obsessed over... that's just creepy. I meant to be appreciated... like one values his or her own life. I have been broken hearted before but I never felt like I had no world as a result of it... that is just a form of weakness that I refuse to accept. I'm not looking for someone that I would make my entire life... just someone I can share it with.