Well I have a problem that I need some advice on what to do!
Im going out this great guy name Mark,he has a best friend(a girl) an two weeks ago she called me a B*#ch because I have to work an im not going to be able to make it to her x-mas party! Go figure right!....now I didn't flip out on her because I don't have time for small minded people!
So Yesterday we went to the city to watch the big x-mas tree lighting with his best friend an his cousin. we caught in a really big crowd an couldn't see the tree so we left.It started to rain so we told them we would find a place to sit until the show was over,of course we didn't find some where to sit until then so we left an went back to his house! Mark IM'S his cousin around 7:30 an tells him were at the house watching tv.They finally come home around 10:15! They walk in asking "where were you guys?" an the whole nine.Once agin his best friend disrespects me agin by saying"an you wonder why I call her the names I call her". Now at this point im ready to drop kick her but I sit quietly until its time for me to leave...
My boyfriend has talked to her about respecting an call me out of my name but she still tries to push my Damn buttons.Now should I step to her an say something??? Or should I just ignore her an keep it moving????

You have to say something. If you let someone treat you like that it will only get worse.

Sounds like she has feelings for your boyfriend.

Time to step up for sure....

Like Atlantis said....she wants your man....and she's trying to scare you off...stand your ground! The problem is whether to step to her or not....i say not....that's really what she wants. On the other hand, you can handle yourself like a lady but put her in her place at the same time.

She might not want him that way, but it could be just "friend jealousy" since her best friend spends more time with a girlfriend instead of her. I've seen this before. They can even very cruel and tell BS to her (the poster) boyfriend, try to talk him out of dating her, so it's time to step up.

To speak up doesn't necessarily mean to flip out. I've found that to reply to a heated comment with another heated one will only make the fire worse.
She obviously does not have respect for you and it sounds like she has little respect for your boyfriend as well. I would suggest you sit her down at an opportune moment and explain to her that you feel disrespected by these names and that you would like to know why she continues to call you by them and what the issue really is.
If this doesn't work, then at least you did the adult thing in the situation and you can rest well at night knowing that you both defended yourself and tried to make amends civilly.

Time to slap a b!tch.

I would think it to be his problem not yours.

Guy that lets even a life friend talk to his woman like that needs to be B*slapped himself.

If he can't stepp up to the plate... Go find a different batter ya gat a pathetic one.

Good point, I used to be friends with a guy- I wasn't even his gf- and his friends used to say nasty things to me, until I told him either he put them in check or our friendship was over. He told them to knock it off and we never had that problem again.

Put super glue on her toilet seat.

I would question your BF respect.If this gal is his friends is he stand up for you.Or is he just after the attention or really doesn't care over all.Do not lower yourself to her standards,makes you look bad.All thats needed is a (calm chat with her).Firmly explain your defense.And try and close the conversation with something positive.

i say go for the drop kick idea

I think ur bf has to sit her down and say to her that if she doesnt start treating u with respect, she is not welcome anymore. If a guy i was with started allowing his female friends to treat me like that and continue to see them, i would see it like he had more respect for her than me, and let him go.

I found myself in a similar situation... when I met my GF. She had a best friend who happened to be a guy, and he became insanely jealous, when I started drawing her attention away from him.

It almost ended our relationship early on, but I soon - within 3 weeks - realized that she had far more respect for me than him, and she was honest with me about what he had been saying - about me - behind my back, as well as why she was never interested in him romantically. That's a long story, but I think it's important that your BF is honest with you, about where you stand, and that he isn't disrespecting you. He has a decision to make, but first you need to know where you stand...

I had to know where I stood - at the time - because I started falling for her, and I don't like being blind sided, so I started doing reconnaissance, gathering the ammo I would eventually need to destroy him.

Like I told her at the time, "trust and honesty are of the utmost importance in my relationships; 3 is a crowd, and I don't share well; and the only guys I know who have a female best friend are frankly gay." If anyone here thinks this sounds possessive, maybe I am. When I'm determined to win something - including a girls heart - failure isn't an option for me. I'm a real man, who commands respect, and there are plenty of women out there who find these traits extreemly attractive.

She was very honest with me that he had - on more than one occasion - made romantic moves on her, but she had quick rejected those romantic gestures. He had also recently hurt, and disrespected her, when he blew off her mothers funeral. He was a good listener, when she needed one, something she desperately needed at the time, but I was left asking myself "what kind of friend is this?" This "friendship" had been built on nothing more than her emotional needs at the time, and his willingness to settle for less than he wanted.

So when the opportune time came - dinner and drinks for 3 - and I was sure this was more than a short term fling, I drew my poison arrows and in his words "verbally beat him up". I said everything she had been holding inside, and more, and later she bragged to her friends about how I had whipped this kid lawyer - she used to work with - in a verbal debate. He later called her, but by this point, she had lost all respect for him, and ended their friendship.

I won and that's all that mattered to me at the time.

You can bet that your lovers best friend is settling for less than she wants, but you'll need to do your own reconnaissance... it may be tougher for you than it was me, because most men tend to clam up, rather than spill thier guts - answering direct questions about thier feelings - and being a lady you may have been raised to play nice, but I find a woman who knows what she wants, and is willing to fight for it, very attractive, and I don't see why you can't win his respect, by standing up to this tramp.

Good luck on that