Are you OK????

why do you feel the need to "protect" someone that you do not even know? hmmm... why are you dependent upon an ex for your emotional state? hmmm... "protect your own?" -- hmm... You are saying you are a victim of him - because he wants another gf? Hmmm...

maybe put your energy in something new?? hmmm... 2 sides to every story...

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Well I do know her slightly and was thinking more along the lines of us protecting each other from harms way. Like if you know something true and bad about someone I just met but am attracted to, I would want you to tell me. I may or may not act on your information but would appreciate knowing. (this is assuming you and I know each other well and that we trust each other)

I do not feel that I am dependent on my x for anything especially my emotional state. I simply thought that after some time (a year) had passed that we could talk and maybe become friends, after all there was something there that attracted me in the first place and that thing (or things) are still there - just not in a love relationship. He has such warped memories and was trying to convince me that his views are the true ones that it got me very frustrated. He was also attacking me for moving!! So I ended contact permanently, found out that we can't be friends any more than we made a good pair.

He is a silly liar, lies about even the most mundane things and he is a cheater. As I said this guy should be on a warning list somewhere. I now know of 4 women he cheated on while professing to love them and wanting to marry them...sicko!!

I will agree with one thing...there are always two sides to every story...people tend to only go with one

Well I all but caught him in the act yet he can't remember or admit that his bad behavior is what broke us up AND FAST!!! I am well rid of him and never should have tried to be any thing else but glad to be done with him....loneliness can and does make one (me) do dumb things sometimes....live and learn and move on.

Sorting out feelings after a break up is tough.

Trying to figure out what happen and why when sometimes the why's make no sense can really turn your world upside down.

I don't think wanting to prevent someone else from being sucked into and emotional vampires clutches is necessarily unusual. It is impossible to turn back time for yourself but if you feel you can break the secretcy and autonomy some people operate under it breaks some of their power to cause pain.

Sadly some people have to learn their lessons about people the same way previous victims did. Some folks are actually strong enough to manage so letting go and letting them get what they "deserve" is ok.

Because some of us don't want to stoop to the level of those that have hurt us it is hard to reconcile not being cival or later friends with someone you have been so intimate with. Sadly being healthy and keeping some people out of your life entirely is the only way to make yourself whole. It helps to keep in mind that not paying attention to someone is not being abusive if they don't want it or deserve it.

Sadly the loss of a love is rarely limited to one individual. You loose mutual friendships and their family members. That is why I always recommend maintaining a diverse range of people in your life and not loose yourself in your partners life. Coming back from that loss always takes time.

Having someone be angry that you moved tells me that he is angry that his power over you has been broken. He will try to regain it but if you stand strong and invest your energy in positive things he will fade into oblivion.

I'm still mad too. I just busted up a bunch of stuff with a golf club

How important is it really as to who did what? You made the decision based on what YOU knew. So be it! Don't look back. Waste of time.