Topic: What do you think the biggest issue is with getting a date?
Rob_T's photo
Sat 01/02/10 02:38 PM

Question for the men. When you're out meeting new people and potential dates, do you prefer to approach women, or are you happywhen women approach you as well?


Don't mind it a bit if the women aprach me. It all goes back to the agenda thing. If I'm not out lookin, I can talk, mingle or flirt with just about any gal. It's when I feel that I would really like to meet someone that I can't seem to. I'ts all about motives....

FearandLoathing's photo
Sat 01/02/10 02:39 PM

Question for the men. When you're out meeting new people and potential dates, do you prefer to approach women, or are you happywhen women approach you as well?


Neither...but they always approach me. Which to me says 'I'm not interested', but apparently it means something completly different to most women. If someone sparks enough of my interest that I think I can actually hold worthwhile conversation with them I'll start talking to them...but Illinois was full of flaming morons for the most part, I'll tell you how it goes in Colorado in a little while.

TxsSun's photo
Sat 01/02/10 02:41 PM
Ok, so now I understand what you are saying. You have more
umph in meeting people when you aren't planning it. Right?

Well let me ask you this, when you go dancing do you ask women to dance? When you do, are you thinking about dating or just dancing?



Scoundrel, If I seen a man going from woman to woman to woman, then come to me, I would not give him the time of day. Not to even be my friend.

no photo
Sat 01/02/10 02:44 PM

Ok, so now I understand what you are saying. You have more
umph in meeting people when you aren't planning it. Right?

Well let me ask you this, when you go dancing do you ask women to dance? When you do, are you thinking about dating or just dancing?



Scoundrel, If I seen a man going from woman to woman to woman, then come to me, I would not give him the time of day. Not to even be my friend.


People I know schedule happy hours sometimes. During those people regularly go from person to person, meeting and talking. If you were in that situation, you wouldn't give them the time of day?

TexasScoundrel's photo
Sat 01/02/10 02:47 PM

Question for the men. When you're out meeting new people and potential dates, do you prefer to approach women, or are you happywhen women approach you as well?


I don't mind a woman approaching me if her game is tight. Most women don't have much in this department. What I mean be that is women usually open with something "wow, I really like your ring." Then I'll say "thanks." And now she's staring at me waiting for something to happen. If my head is in the right place, I can grab the ball and run it in for her. But, if I'm not in the frame of mind it just feels weird and uncomfortable.

So ladies, if you want to approach and open men out in the real world, understand it doesn't happen to us often and we may be taken by surprise. You'll have to lead the conversation for a little while. So, have something in mind to talk about besides my ring or tie or shoes or haircut. Ask an open ended question about your car or something men know about.

Rob_T's photo
Sat 01/02/10 02:47 PM

Ok, so now I understand what you are saying. You have more
umph in meeting people when you aren't planning it. Right?

Well let me ask you this, when you go dancing do you ask women to dance? When you do, are you thinking about dating or just dancing?



Scoundrel, If I seen a man going from woman to woman to woman, then come to me, I would not give him the time of day. Not to even be my friend.


I try to convince myself that all I wan't to do is just go dancing, but I suppose that if I am honest with myself, I really want to meet someone that I can spend some time with. I need to figure out how to change my frame of mind. Thats the real prblem. To be able to go out and just enjoy it. a no risk event!

TexasScoundrel's photo
Sat 01/02/10 02:52 PM

Ok, so now I understand what you are saying. You have more
umph in meeting people when you aren't planning it. Right?

Well let me ask you this, when you go dancing do you ask women to dance? When you do, are you thinking about dating or just dancing?



Scoundrel, If I seen a man going from woman to woman to woman, then come to me, I would not give him the time of day. Not to even be my friend.


Interesting. Maybe that's why middle aged women snub me. I talk to everyone! Men, women, couples, the bartender, the bouncer, everyone! I figure that's what social gathering places are for. Socializing.

Ruth34611's photo
Sat 01/02/10 02:55 PM
I'm just too b!tchy to date. smokin

Rob_T's photo
Sat 01/02/10 02:56 PM
ya I know what you meen. I can go into any other place and have zero trouble talking to anyone! I have a lot of friends in a lot of different stores. But when I go to a bar I just can't seem to be sociable. Maybe they need to have a band at the harware store!

TexasScoundrel's photo
Sat 01/02/10 04:22 PM

ya I know what you meen. I can go into any other place and have zero trouble talking to anyone! I have a lot of friends in a lot of different stores. But when I go to a bar I just can't seem to be sociable. Maybe they need to have a band at the harware store!


Can you talk to women in coffee shops? What about other social gatherings? Or are you only able to talk to people on the job?

MeChrissy2's photo
Sat 01/02/10 04:34 PM
Hey Tx, my friends say I don't give off the vibe. What the hell does that mean? Your truly vibeless in Virginia.:wink:

TexasScoundrel's photo
Sat 01/02/10 04:37 PM

Hey Tx, my friends say I don't give off the vibe. What the hell does that mean? Your truly vibeless in Virginia.:wink:


Well, having only your photos to go by, my first thought is bad body language.

yellowrose10's photo
Sat 01/02/10 04:39 PM
I'm just not looking. I am enjoying my privacy for once

MeChrissy2's photo
Sat 01/02/10 04:43 PM


Hey Tx, my friends say I don't give off the vibe. What the hell does that mean? Your truly vibeless in Virginia.:wink:


Well, having only your photos to go by, my first thought is bad body language.


I'm so confused. I have bad body language. Like I slouch alot?laugh No wonder I suck at dating.

TxsSun's photo
Sat 01/02/10 04:55 PM


Ok, so now I understand what you are saying. You have more
umph in meeting people when you aren't planning it. Right?

Well let me ask you this, when you go dancing do you ask women to dance? When you do, are you thinking about dating or just dancing?



Scoundrel, If I seen a man going from woman to woman to woman, then come to me, I would not give him the time of day. Not to even be my friend.


Interesting. Maybe that's why middle aged women snub me. I talk to everyone! Men, women, couples, the bartender, the bouncer, everyone! I figure that's what social gathering places are for. Socializing.



It is a different story when you are talking to "everyone". I was only referring to going from one woman to another.

TxsSun's photo
Sat 01/02/10 05:06 PM

I think she means goin from one rejection to the other...like making her look like 'sloppy seconds' to an indifferent bee.



Exactly :thumbsup:

Rob_T's photo
Sat 01/02/10 09:17 PM


ya I know what you meen. I can go into any other place and have zero trouble talking to anyone! I have a lot of friends in a lot of different stores. But when I go to a bar I just can't seem to be sociable. Maybe they need to have a band at the harware store!


Can you talk to women in coffee shops? What about other social gatherings? Or are you only able to talk to people on the job?


Coffee shop, no problem(love coffee too!), other social gatherings, never a problem either, really enjoy them, feel very comfortable. I actually haven't even been in a bar more than maybe dozen or so times in the last twenty years. Having been married and raising kids for the last twenty years, the bar sceen was not even on the radar. Now that I am alone again (6mo.) I guess I just miss the noise of a busy house, the comfort that there is always someone around. This is the first holliday season for me to be alone, so it is having a negative effect on me.

BlondegalNC's photo
Sat 01/02/10 09:23 PM
Two things...Being a single parent with no family and living in a small town.whoa

Rob_T's photo
Sat 01/02/10 09:43 PM
livingg too far away flowers

no photo
Sat 01/02/10 09:46 PM
I live in West Virginia.