shes cute.. and younger think she is 41... he is 42

they just didnt click is all for more than friends..

Hopefully you two will click for more than friends.

Same here.

All i hear is "ahhh you're such a flirt! Oh My!"

I'm like -->

What's flirting?????

I was gonna ask the same question

im not sure but i better find out before i go! just in case i like!

DTH.....we are always the last to know.

i always flirt with u!!

I know man! *Kicks dirt*

And that makes me

Right back at ya

heck... if ya lived in oregon.. id have asked u over for dinner

And i would definitely accept

I've been enjoying reading this thread my friends.

Buttons! Don't take it so seriously! Cin is right. He *was* flirting and it is likely it was just a casual friendly thing. This happenstance meetings occur all the time and what happens next depends on how we interact - how we follow it up if you will.

You should practice on just starting up conversations. For example, in your case, you might have just said - "Thank You! - My name is <Buttons>" and then he would likely introduce himself too. Then you could ask him why he was in the store, where did he come from, where is he going, is he from this part of town etc...if he is not in too big of a hurry and has some interest then it might continue for a while or move to a coffee shop or be just a name exchange and a chance to say hello if you run across each other again. There is a certain artistry at starting and maintaining a lighthearted conversation. It was a lost art. But it is coming back!! Forums such as these are facilitating the comeback!

Now...hmmm - I think you already know how I flirt. So, I think you already know if you think about it. I flirt exactly the same way in person. Sometimes it is friendly and sneaky (like now).



Sometimes IT IS OUTRAGEOUS - FLAMING EVEN



But it is always about engagement in thought, wordplay and true interest - curiosity about people.

Be friendly, accessible, well practiced in conversation, thoughtful, lighthearted and open minded and you cannot miss.

It does take some practice, but you have been getting a lot of practice here on the forums and here in this thread!



Remember - guys have the same variation in conversation skills too...so it might sometimes take a little more patience, or you may come across a real "card", "live wire", or "MaRoOn"



But you can handle all situations. I just know it.
Hope you have a great date coming up by the way.

well i didnt really put any thought as to what kind of flirting it was.... rather if indeed it was flirting or not flirting.. i really had no clue.. however even with the silly remarks lol i learned things in here as well to be more assertive and i was lol! it got me a date not just a mention of a date this time!! with a very very nice looking guy... still im scared to death lol!

See?

Don't be scared. Just relax! Have a good time. Think about what you would like to talk about! Be prepared.

Think about what you would really like to know about him or some topics you might talk about. Ask a few questions and then let him ramble a while. Have something in mind that might be fun to suggest for a followup date if you are interested - suggest it.

Have a friend ready to text and come rescue you in case of emergency!!

i still see it as he made the first move though.. since he asked me twice... maybe he is nervous too for all i know... since he wants me to call him back and tell him when . i have never encountered that before... perhaps he just wants me to feel comfortable as well and is respecting me... not sure never dealt with this before... he has called me the most mostly in the past i returned his calls... but then no calls for sometime and he calls me.. kinda feel bad about that... sort of.. i dunno. guess i havent been all that up onto dating anyway..

already talked on the phone for maybe 6 hours lol so i pretty much know a lot he is a real talker!! i liked that about him..

no point in analyzing the phone dynamics at this point.

just enjoy the date. it should never be about who calls who.
everybody likes to be called.

if you can accept that and then be the person who always calls
then EVERYBODY will like you