I dated a guy not even up to a year, dumped me and now want me to forgive him and come back, how sure is it that he wouldn't do the same

Read the book 'He's Just Not That Into You'.... it will answer this... and many other 'jerk' situations!

Obviously, we don't have to whole story (from both sides), but there
are situations where this happens a lot. What's the reason given for
"dumping you" ?

OK, but isn't it a bit of a stretch to categorize "all" guys based solely on a significantly smaller sampling that "all"?

I mean, I met a girl from another site, and she turned out to be an arsonist. But I don't think they're "all" arsonists.

Then again, that might explain a lot....?



Not EVERY guy is a jerk. OK, I am, I admit that, but there are others who aren't!

All, is it official now?

another one of these posts
ok....if you take back someone who dumped you all of a sudden you become "ole faithfull"= the back up girl..because he knows you'll take him back when other prospects dont work out....
but in the long run...none of our petty games/dramas/differences/spats or bs matters in the end....learn to let go

Or another way of saying it is: "Not Every Jerk Is A Guy"!

He just wants you back,cause he can't find another right now!An as soon as he does,he'll be gone again.

Then you'll be left again!

he told me he had to learn somethings and may be we are not ment to be together cos he sense something is pulling us apart

i belief this is not the first time you are hearing sometimi like this, it happens alot, what i said was generated from deduction, and not generalization

YAY!!!!!!!

All us dudes are jerks.

exactly, its already gone

The guys a player and an idiot. Dump him and get on with your life.

I am a guy and I am not a jerk, therefore your deduction is faulty.

may be, may be not, untill i have proves

that aint gonna happen cos he aint getting back into my life

sure

Definitely not the first time, these sorts of observations come up ALL the time.

And whenever I see a "Why do all men _____?" or "Why are all women _____?" thread, I like to ask the OP how long it took them to do a survey of all men or all women or whatever.

Which is nothing more than my hopefully humorous attempt to make the point that all of these overgeneralizations are patently invalid.

Re: your other point -- proper deduction, in order to be viable, must stem from a framework of sufficient information. What you've actually done is to create an erroneous overgeneralization (the term "all," in this instance) based on a deduction from insufficient data. I'm not questioning that you did, in fact, make a deduction -- but the overgeneralizing is clear in the thread title!

Don't worry, though, those of us who have been here awhile are OK with it. Some of us just like to point out that not everybody is like some of the people who are referred to in our forum posts!

If ya keep thinking that their all jerks, you'll just keep attracting more jerks and keep thinking their all jerks...and on and on and on.

ok, you gotta be sure and keep it that way and if thats true, any girl will be lucky to have you