Topic: "I Thought I Was In Love, But..
yellowrose10's photo
Thu 02/04/10 05:26 PM


curious (good thing I'm not a cat huh? lol) but isn't falling in love for the wrong reasons, still falling in love?


Yes.. There are also levels of love.. You can love someone and not be "in love"...


very true. I love my ex husband but not in love with him

motowndowntown's photo
Thu 02/04/10 05:29 PM
Relationships are filled with positives and negatives. Sometimes all you see are the positives because that's all you want to see. Later on sometimes the negatives you do see outweigh the positives you thought you saw.

IndnPrncs's photo
Thu 02/04/10 05:30 PM

Relationships are filled with positives and negatives. Sometimes all you see are the positives because that's all you want to see. Later on sometimes the negatives you do see outweigh the positives you thought you saw.



Motown you sing it!! I'll be your chorus tonight... laugh

FindMe1113's photo
Thu 02/04/10 05:31 PM



curious (good thing I'm not a cat huh? lol) but isn't falling in love for the wrong reasons, still falling in love?


Yes.. There are also levels of love.. You can love someone and not be "in love"...


very true. I love my ex husband but not in love with him


Well, I'm speaking of those who thought they were actually "IN LOVE"...to find out later that they weren't.

I just didn't think that emotions could be that flexible is allglasses

motowndowntown's photo
Thu 02/04/10 05:33 PM
Ever been really angry at someone and then forgive them sometime later?

FindMe1113's photo
Thu 02/04/10 05:35 PM

Ever been really angry at someone and then forgive them sometime later?


Yes...is there a similarity?:smile:

motowndowntown's photo
Thu 02/04/10 05:37 PM
Both are very strong emotions.

FindMe1113's photo
Thu 02/04/10 05:39 PM

Both are very strong emotions.


flowerforyou flowerforyou

fenway2k's photo
Thu 02/04/10 10:56 PM
Just to add my $.02

People who make this claim are not in love. They are simply attracted to a person.

Attraction is instantaneous. You may like a person's looks, mind, humor, charm, wit, whatever....it's all attraction, and you will even experience some emotional attachment as a result.

The problem is that most people think this is love and will claim a relationship, only to find out later on down the line that you don't have a lot in common, you don't share the same beliefs, one may have a five-year plan, the other doesn't, etc.

You then claim that Oh I thought I was in love, but I found out I wasn't.

Please.

Love is a state of being and it takes time to develop. SERIOUS time. To be in love comes from knowing someone inside and out. Finding out that you have the same interests, goals, dreams, desires, etc. You find that you cannot be apart from this person for extended periods of time. You will put their needs and wants ahead of yours. You don't lose out because if they are in love with you, they will put you ahead of them.

The beauty of love is that is defies emotions. If you stop loving a person because they made you mad, or because of any emotional reason, you were never in love. Two people in love will face any situation, good or bad, through thick and thin, as long as they are together. No outside circumstance can break the bond that two people in love share. I have witnessed homeless couples that sleep on the street together, but they are in love and don't even consider separating.

That's all.

PS Hi cutie!

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Thu 02/04/10 11:00 PM
only been in love once.....it has escaped me ever since. never thought i was and wasn't! I think some never have been so they try and create it!

IndnPrncs's photo
Thu 02/04/10 11:02 PM
I don't know if they try to creat it Ronny... I think some don't know what love is and think they're in it for a lot of the reasons Fenway mentioned... It's an emotion and some emotions are hard to define so some I think get confused by the emotions they are feelings...

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Thu 02/04/10 11:06 PM

I don't know if they try to creat it Ronny... I think some don't know what love is and think they're in it for a lot of the reasons Fenway mentioned... It's an emotion and some emotions are hard to define so some I think get confused by the emotions they are feelings...


yes i agree, but if you ever experience it i dont think you will ever mistake it again...that was my point really!

IndnPrncs's photo
Thu 02/04/10 11:07 PM
I get it... Good point...

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Thu 02/04/10 11:08 PM
by the way another beautiful pic indnprncs!

IndnPrncs's photo
Thu 02/04/10 11:13 PM
Thank you... blushing

buttons's photo
Thu 02/04/10 11:19 PM

..I found out later on that I WASN'T" spock

I've heard this from people that I know in RLspock

So... How exactly does that work to THINK that you are in love and not know it for sure until later on into the relationship?whoa


honestly it did happen to me once.... for i had not dated much in my life.. got married to someone i did love.. was so mistreated.. beat up. kids hurt. called names like fat <5'4 and 118 lbs muscular to boot> that no one would ever want me.. i was so beaten down.. and to add the in experiece at dating many..i met a man after that that had been abused and used as well i thought i was in love.. however he is the father of my third child, and a grand father he is.. and still a friend of mine , i do love him as a friend and care much.. love him as a father too.. but really i loved him.. but wasnt in love with him.. i did not know how to differ the two nor did he...

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Fri 02/05/10 07:46 AM
It must have been love, but it's over now
It must have been good, but I lost it somehow
It must have been love, but it's over now
>From the moment we touched till the time had run out

It must have been love, but it's over now
It was all that I wanted, now I'm living without
It must have been love, but it's over now
It's where the water flows, it's where the wind blows

Gossipmpm's photo
Fri 02/05/10 07:50 AM
Ya know

When I hooked up with someone from here I did discover somthing about myself

maybe others experience it also

I was in love with the IDEA of being in love

which turns out horrible!! I learned a big big lesson!!

FindMe1113's photo
Fri 02/05/10 07:55 AM

Ya know

When I hooked up with someone from here I did discover somthing about myself

maybe others experience it also

I was in love with the IDEA of being in love

which turns out horrible!! I learned a big big lesson!!


Hi Tammyflowerforyou

Being in love with the "IDEA" of being in love...that's deep, and makes a lot of common sense tooflowerforyou

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Fri 02/05/10 08:01 AM
It's called infatuation

That's why I always had the 3 month rule before calling it loveflowerforyou