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Topic: Woman behavior..why
Ladylid2012's photo
Fri 05/14/10 08:32 PM


I've heard it said that shy-ness is a turn on for men so I can see the challenge in this for you.... Sounds beyond the normal cute shy-ness...either way she keeps standing you up. You've been around her, it can't be that mind boggling to figure out, you should be picking up on some energy from her by now. I'm not buying the scary intimidating bit.


Oh yeah I do pick up energy..it feels like weird energy..she is also isn't honest...

oh well...last 3 years..I haven't met a lot of honest down to earth women, that's for sure. indifferent


Well there ya go...if you're feelin her and the intentions aren't pure then you have your answer. Move on, she's just stroking ya and using the shyness thing as a game.
Took me 10 years to find a good one..hang in there. flowerforyou

Atlantis75's photo
Fri 05/14/10 08:38 PM
Edited by Atlantis75 on Fri 05/14/10 08:43 PM

Possibly she has another guy she's seeing and is in the process of making a decision and doesn't want to let go completely,



I think you got it. I just caught her on a lie tonight. accidentally I said something that contradicted what she said and she got all confused and nervous. Now I'm more on just being a detective, since I'm just curious now, this ain't going anywhere anyway relationship wise . I don't think she remembers what she tells me or she thinks, that I don't remember.

She had a choice to be honest and tell me what's up since we aren't really dating anyway, she chose to lie..so there goes my patience.

I'm pretty good at playing the complete idiot...very authentic. ..so let's see how far she is gonna take it. I could be very very cruel sometimes..but I don't care when it comes to liars. By next week, she won't even recognize me..that I'm the same person she talked to a week ago. Shock and Awe campaign.

unsure's photo
Fri 05/14/10 08:43 PM


Possibly she has another guy she's seeing and is in the process of making a decision and doesn't want to let go completely,



I think you got it. I just caught her on a lie tonight. I didn't say nothing, but accidentally I said something that contradicted what she said. Now I'm more on just being a detective, since I'm just curious now, this ain't going anywhere anyway relationship wise . I don't think she remembers what she tells me or she thinks, that I don't remember.

She had a choice to be honest and tell me what's up since we aren't really dating anyway, she chose to lie..so there goes my patience.

I'm pretty good at playing the complete idiot...very authentic. ..so let's see how far she is gonna take it. I could be very very cruel sometimes..but I don't care when it comes to liars.

This sounds like more of a game playing situation to me?? Is she really worth YOUR time? If someone is going to lie to you, do you really need the drama?
I say there are way to many single WOMEN out there to waste your time on little girls!! I don't think I would give this one the time of day if I were you!! She seems like she has way to many guys on the side and she can't seem to keep you all straight!!

Ladylid2012's photo
Fri 05/14/10 08:45 PM


Possibly she has another guy she's seeing and is in the process of making a decision and doesn't want to let go completely,



I think you got it. I just caught her on a lie tonight. accidentally I said something that contradicted what she said and she got all confused and nervous. Now I'm more on just being a detective, since I'm just curious now, this ain't going anywhere anyway relationship wise . I don't think she remembers what she tells me or she thinks, that I don't remember.

She had a choice to be honest and tell me what's up since we aren't really dating anyway, she chose to lie..so there goes my patience.

I'm pretty good at playing the complete idiot...very authentic. ..so let's see how far she is gonna take it. I could be very very cruel sometimes..but I don't care when it comes to liars.


Well that was the first thing that came to my mind by your description of her behavior. She's probably playing the other guy right now too. Keeping her options open, doesn't want to let either or all go just yet. Don't put your energy into Ferenc if that's how she is...you can do better, and will. You deserve more. You already knew if you were picking up her "dishonest energy". Know what I mean..

no photo
Fri 05/14/10 08:49 PM
Wow, let see...she almost pees in her pants, didn't eat for 2 days and then stood you up 4 times? Sounds like she's the SCARY one! No offense....lol

Exactly.

74Drew's photo
Fri 05/14/10 08:51 PM

Let's say a woman shows a lot of interest by asking how I am, what I'm doing, and sends text messages almost daily about what's happening or what I'm doing etc...

And yet avoids to meet (for an ice cream or to see a movie for example) at all cost? I have met her in person before and she acted very neutral, avoided all topics related to relationships and meeting again, only could talk about everyday topics..if one topic was headed toward dates or love etc..she changed the subject immediately.

I figured she is not interested so I didn't even try to push anything, but soon as I stopped responding to her text messages, she got all worried? And every time I ask when she is free again..she gives a day, but soon as the day approaches, she comes up with an excuse (busy,still working,other things to do etc.)

Even she comes up with a day and tells me, which day would be good, but just when the day comes, she comes up with an excuse again.

She did this 4 times now in a row.

What the hell does she want from me?

Are you women all like that? What am I supposed to do or say..I'm lost.


sounds like a girl looking to step out but having cold feet. run away.



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Atlantis75's photo
Fri 05/14/10 09:16 PM
Edited by Atlantis75 on Fri 05/14/10 09:18 PM



Possibly she has another guy she's seeing and is in the process of making a decision and doesn't want to let go completely,



I think you got it. I just caught her on a lie tonight. accidentally I said something that contradicted what she said and she got all confused and nervous. Now I'm more on just being a detective, since I'm just curious now, this ain't going anywhere anyway relationship wise . I don't think she remembers what she tells me or she thinks, that I don't remember.

She had a choice to be honest and tell me what's up since we aren't really dating anyway, she chose to lie..so there goes my patience.

I'm pretty good at playing the complete idiot...very authentic. ..so let's see how far she is gonna take it. I could be very very cruel sometimes..but I don't care when it comes to liars.


Well that was the first thing that came to my mind by your description of her behavior. She's probably playing the other guy right now too. Keeping her options open, doesn't want to let either or all go just yet. Don't put your energy into Ferenc if that's how she is...you can do better, and will. You deserve more. You already knew if you were picking up her "dishonest energy". Know what I mean..


Nahh..I'm not wasting any time..she was just a person of interest. Actually it wasn't me making the contact, it was her....and calling me and messaging me etc.. and I figured I give her some time and see what she is all about.
You know, when you know all the games and the rules and "been there, done that, seen it, had enough of this a long long time ago? "
And when you get a deja vous of the same thing and you know it "ohh, I see this person thinks I was born yesterday" .
Now I'm just a spectator, not a player..see what she's gonna tell me next..lol, it's not me who has to remember what I said 24hrs ago.


Ladylid2012's photo
Fri 05/14/10 10:11 PM




Possibly she has another guy she's seeing and is in the process of making a decision and doesn't want to let go completely,



I think you got it. I just caught her on a lie tonight. accidentally I said something that contradicted what she said and she got all confused and nervous. Now I'm more on just being a detective, since I'm just curious now, this ain't going anywhere anyway relationship wise . I don't think she remembers what she tells me or she thinks, that I don't remember.

She had a choice to be honest and tell me what's up since we aren't really dating anyway, she chose to lie..so there goes my patience.

I'm pretty good at playing the complete idiot...very authentic. ..so let's see how far she is gonna take it. I could be very very cruel sometimes..but I don't care when it comes to liars.


Well that was the first thing that came to my mind by your description of her behavior. She's probably playing the other guy right now too. Keeping her options open, doesn't want to let either or all go just yet. Don't put your energy into Ferenc if that's how she is...you can do better, and will. You deserve more. You already knew if you were picking up her "dishonest energy". Know what I mean..


Nahh..I'm not wasting any time..she was just a person of interest. Actually it wasn't me making the contact, it was her....and calling me and messaging me etc.. and I figured I give her some time and see what she is all about.
You know, when you know all the games and the rules and "been there, done that, seen it, had enough of this a long long time ago? "
And when you get a deja vous of the same thing and you know it "ohh, I see this person thinks I was born yesterday" .
Now I'm just a spectator, not a player..see what she's gonna tell me next..lol, it's not me who has to remember what I said 24hrs ago.




aww, now it's just for your entertainment.....lol
it will be challenging for her to keep track of the lies, always is.
At least she has you to set her strait if she gets tripped up.

TxsGal3333's photo
Sat 05/15/10 11:26 AM
Sorry those are the kind you stay far far away funny thing I have actually meet a few guys like that. Makes ya wonder if they are in a relationship and might want out but looking for some thing better...... My advise is put them on the back burner and get away from them............

To me heck I would rather meet them and get it over with either I want to see them again or I don't. But at least be up front and say you do or get away from them... Don't play the cat and mouse games noway noway slaphead

Besides ya a cutie don't put up with the bs and the games no one wins at them...........noway

zanne46's photo
Sat 05/15/10 11:41 AM
:thumbsup: to all comments....

Atlantis....you don't need the kinda stuff....

there are good, normal ,sane woman out there in this great big world....

you will find the right woman....and you will know it when you find her.....but questioning what is going on....

means it's just not going right or any were..sadly....

the sun, the sand, woman in suites.....best place to meet...

don't be walked on and put in the possition of confusion...it's not worth it...

your a good guy and deserve the good....waving flowers :smile:

tanyaann's photo
Sat 05/15/10 12:24 PM
Just walk away. Don't even be a spectator. Walk away. You are just feeding into her neurotic nature.

Meg8771's photo
Sat 05/15/10 12:44 PM
Maybe she is trying her best to break through whatever "shell" she has put up around herself, but is having a really hard time doing it. Phone/text/email is safe because she can be herself, but does not have to be around any other people. But face to face, she is trying to remain as "normal" as possible by not discussing romantic issues and trying to "blend in" or be neutral and unobtrusive.

The bathroom break and dinner thing, to me, are red flags. Has she ever said anything about an abusive boyfriend? Sounds like she has maybe been at the mercy of someone with some severe control issues.

JMHO flowerforyou

TxsGal3333's photo
Sat 05/15/10 02:45 PM
Honestly all bs aside anytime you have to question what anothers actions are it is best to walk away for your gut feeling is right and you should question their actions............as well as walk away........:thumbsup:

Roco's photo
Tue 05/18/10 08:40 PM
she's just messn with you...in a way, testing you...if you show the slightest bit of weakness..pow - she's gone

i wouldn't call her any more than she calls you...and don't say things like you like her or anything...

roko

Gossipmpm's photo
Tue 05/18/10 08:43 PM
She's playing head games with ya...

And it's working...

Your all confused...asking advice

kick her in the ***

out to the curb



Ya don't need it!!:heart:

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