so i went on my friends facebook that owes me the money i told her she can start making payments to mek or pay the whole thing or or i can look into small claims court

this was her reply

" really you dont have to be mean, you know that I have been without a job too, I have been working parttime. and babysitting, trying my best. you need to quite talking to people like this. I will get your money to you $60 by the 15th. we have lost 1200 a month. we are trying to get caught up on things too. wow I thought you were a friend. guess not .you get your money!!!!!!"

i always told her she could pay me back in installments and im the mean person?

good to know

I was always told that to never lend money to anyone unless you can afford to never see it again.

And unless you sent this message in a private email, posting on FB wall to her is airing dirty laundry to the world. Cold. Sorry, I can not blame her. JMO

Agreed. And even if she hasn't paid you, why stoop to her level and put it public?

I've lent $$ to people in need and just written it off in my head .. because I assume I will never see it again. And they've always proved me right

Shshs I loaned twice that amount to a best friend of 23 years. Which at this point I have wrote it off...........

But sorry to post it on Facebook was just soooooooooooooooo wrong in sooooooooo many ways........Honestly if I was her I would have told ya where to go just because of that....


I've learned my lesson on loaning money unless it is my kids forget it besides then at least I know I want get it back and never expect it either....

Ohh by the way due to your actions a judge could take that into consideration as slander as well as the jury in small claims court and could in fact award you with nothing........

Ohh and hate to tell ya nothing is resolved no money in your hand it is only words...........and a lost friendship at that......

and go one further .. it could get the one owing a bit MORE in punitive damages

Not a lot of class putting out there in public

im not concerned about class or how it looks i always told her she can make small payments each week every time she got paid but she decided to run out and buy concert tickets.

Humm as some has said and I have been told as well don't loan out what you can't afford to loose........Been there done that and for a heck of a lot more.... But that was to my son would I disown him no way...........I'm the one that handed to him knowing he did not have any money or he would not have asked for it....

Myself I would never borrow money and not pay it back........I'm one if I borrow money it is for something real serious like utilities going to be cut off or house or car repossessed other wise I will do without..... I do believe others should pay their debts back....

Just saying if someone aired something about me on Facebook I guarantee they would have to take me to court..........for I may end up with the last laugh instead..........As the old saying goes two wrongs does not make it right............

I have helped a couple ladies here with cash one didnt have money for her kids for Christmas and another needed help for her medical bills , never wanted it back, they were gifts from the heart!!!

If I was a girl, I'd go whoop that dough out of her, steal her boyfriend then call Jerry Springer and whoop her again all over National TV.

Because public humiliation always gets an answer?! She knows she owed Southern. She was putting it off and dinking around. Posting it on her FB page made her and everyone aware that she's not following through at her end. Now she can't hide and ignore it anymore. She is now publically accountable to the person she borrowed it from, and everyone is aware of it. I know if I saw something like that on a friends page, I'd probably drop an email later asking if they had paid the person back. But I can't abide thieves, and until it's paid back, that's what she is, especially if she promised to pay it back.

They might not be friends anymore, but if Southern gets her money back, then that's what counts. She's well within her rights to be direct about it, and as it wasn't a blatant slander or lie, it's not a problem. Now, if she had said "you owe me $500.00 dollars", in an effort to extort more money out of her, then the other gal might have been within her rights to be upset and counter-sue in court for it, as that would be a lie.

I only borrow from my brother, if needed. And there's a written agreement for me to pay him back in the safe deposit box. I have no problem with it, as he is generous, and helps if I need it. I wouldn't want to abuse his trust, because he IS my brother.

my sister still owes me $750...and counting lol....but i've never once reminded her that she does. If it is a friend, or family loan only what you don't expect back...and if it comes back great. If not, ohwell have the satisfaction of knowing you helped someone.

and my sister bought her abusive boyfriend(thank god he is gone now) a motorcycle....I know it feels like your money but you gave it to her it became hers...in a sort of way...now if she had STOLEN the money from you..i'd be on your side.

See, this is what I see as the problem. Everyone lets people get away with things. I'm not against letting someone borrow money, but to just shrug it off is kind of a sad thing.

We gripe about the morals of people, and the apparent lack of responsibility but ya'll are your own problems if you're shrugging it off and not expecting and demanding those people to pay you back.

No wonder something as extreme as a murderer essentially gets away with it. He or she knows he will. No one will truly be expecting him/her much less demanding him/her be truly punished for the deed.

"If you aren't going to stand for something, then you'll fall for everything" comes to mind reading this, and seeing people just telling the OP to write it off. She tried to do a good deed, and deserves to get paid back. To tell her to ignore it, is basically telling her she's not much better then a doormat and to heck with it.

It's a simple respect issue.

maybe friendships are just more important than money to me.

Does this mean there will be no milk chicken bomb?

thanks a lot! i was raised and taught that when you loan somebody money you will get it back im not going to just let it go,she said multiple times that she would pay me back and i told her several times that she could make small payments and she never did but deiced to run out and buy concert tickets but yet she told me she was struggling.

and as for slander,no i never ever said anything negative about her,or her character i told her she can pay my back or do it in payments or ill take her to court.i said nothing about her being a bad person at all.

so yes im fine the friendship ended but im not just gonna forget about b.c she was a friend at the time she always says shes hard up for cash but goes and spends money on concert tickets?

when every time i spoke to her she always promised to pay me back its been 3 months sense i gave her the money and she always told me id get the money back but 3 months went by with the same story so no,im not just going to let it go.

after all the things i did to help her out to get back on her feet and she tried to turn around the next day and ask if she could borrow 300 dollars for me.

it is a matter of her being a friend and respecting me and obviously she choose to spend her money on things like concert tickets but she told me shes struggling interesting..how respectful of her to keep to her word..

A "friend" pays one back if they say they will. A user is not a friend.

I can't say as I would want friends like that.

When you loaned her the money, did you set a date for her to repay it?

i told her she could pay it back in small month/bi weekly or monthly installments.i told her this start next month and that was in February ..and she didnt do it i never got a dime so again i asked if she was able to pay me anything and her reply was i repay you soon.

i would remind her each time she spoke and would be nice about it and said when will you be able to start to pay me back she always said soon.

and i asked her one day on a friday b.c i know she gets paid on fridays they said they were behind on rent.then i saw last month she ran out and bought concert tickets...

so i figured if she able to buy concert tickets i guess she wasnt so hard up for money as she told me..